Book Review: Girl Defined – Kristen Clark & Bethany Baird

 

 

In a Culture of Distortions, Discover God-Defined Womanhood and Beauty

In a culture where airbrushed models and career-driven women define beauty and success, it’s no wonder we have a distorted view of femininity. Our impossible standards place an incredible burden of stress on the backs of women and girls of all ages, resulting in anxiety, eating disorders, and depression. One question we often forget to ask is this: What is God’s design for womanhood?

In Girl Defined, sisters and popular bloggers Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird offer women a countercultural view of beauty, femininity, and self-worth. Based firmly in God’s design for their lives, this book helps women rethink what true success and beauty look like. It invites them on a liberating journey toward a radically better vision for femininity that ends with the discovery of the kind of hope, purpose, and fulfillment they’ve been yearning for.

Girl Defined helps readers

– discover God’s design for femininity and his definition of a successful woman
– uncover the secrets of lasting worth, purpose, and fulfillment
– be equipped and empowered to live out a radically better vision for womanhood
– gain personal insight through the chapter-by-chapter study guide

 

 

 

Here we go again…

Another book from the radical Christian authors Kristen ClarkBethany Baird. Only this time I´ve decided to get myself my own copy ( since no one from my social circle has bothered to buy it yet ) and read more about true Christian values.

This isn´t me wanting to mock this particular group of fanatics. I have a genuine interest in other people´s beliefs, even if I find these beliefs to be bat-shit-crazy. ( just thought I´d get that out of the way before I continue )

So, after I read `Love Defined ` and having gone through one hell of an emotional hissy fit afterward ( read review here), I thought I´d give these fine authors another try. Everyone deserves a second chance, amirite? Have Kristen and Bethany published other books? Ha! They sure have.

`Girl Defined: God´s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity,  for example. The one I decided to purchase. I wanted to know what `God´s radical designs` were. 

I´ve tried my best to stay within the respectful boundaries with my thoughts on `Girl Defined` but can´t seem to find respectful words to describe the nonsense I´ve read. The only thing that comes to my mind is Jesus H. Christ.

The depiction of their ” God ” is a glorified schmuck. And these ladies apparently see themselves at the gateway to the Almighty. The advice given by these Christian fundamentalists in this book can be summed up in 4 points.

  1. Don´t have sex with anyone before marriage
  2. Equal rights are evil and should be banned from society
  3. Obey the male population. 
  4. To be a judgemental asshole is okay… As long as you´re a proper Christian

Do I find this helpful? I actually find this ridiculous. So much so that I had to call my mom ( who is a Christian, btw. Doesn´t share my nonreligious views but we were on the same page regarding this book ). How is it possible that there are people, especially women, who buy into all this? This book was designed to lure in innocent women into a cult.  This book has nothing to do with Christianity.

 

Bah, I´ve complained enough for now. It´s safe to say I won´t be giving these authors another go. I don´t think I´m able to handle more God´s word should always be above all shibaz.

I´m giving this sucker a solid…

 

 

Book Review: The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck – Mark Manson

synopsis single

For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.

Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—”not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.” Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

 


 

My Thoughts 2

 

Out of all the people who usually recommend books to me – It was my brother who pushed me to buy `The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck` by author Mark Manson.

The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck

Mind you- I wasn´t and still am not on the search for immediate or permanent happiness. I´m good. Things are fine. Everything´s boogy in my neck of the woods. So, the idea of buying a self-help book, knowing I don´t need help is a little pointless, wouldn´t you think?

 

“You don´t have to be on the lookout for happiness to enjoy this book. I guarantee you- You´ll like it even if you don´t need it.”  Is what my brother said.

 

He was wrong. I didn´t end up liking `The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck`. I loved every single thing about this book. I think it´s a brilliant piece of work.

 

Entertaining. Provocative. Funny. Eye-opening. Helpful. 

 

It´s safe to say that this book, with the way it´s written, is not for everyone. I happen to be the type of person who enjoys profanity in books ( lots of profanity ) and can see the beauty in the author´s directness without being offended by his ideas or notions. I believe this is one of the best eye-openers on the market.

 

“You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get fucked.”

 

From mornings to evenings… From January to December… The fucks I have to give are sparse. The fucks I do give are used wisely, though. This book will talk about this topic, along with ways to free oneself from the cages we locked ourselves in, in an easy to follow way.

Mark Manson talks about how happiness is a problem, discusses self-worth and even reveals his take on failure and success in an understandable way.

My brother was right. You can fully enjoy this book without actually needing all the advice inside. You can sit back, relax and, for once, have fun reading a self-help book ( because most self-help books aren´t entertaining ).


 

Would I recommend this book? Definitely. I can see this book helping many people ( if needed ). A great read even for non-help seekers

Would I reread this book? Absolutely. The language and writing is right up my alley. If there ever was a book for me then this would be it.


 

`The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck` is a non-fiction, philosophy, psychology, self-help/personal development book so I´ll keep the rating simple.

 

5 stars


 

This book is available for purchase at Amazon.com