Another Book Blogger Quit Book Blogging

 

The other week,  my ex-co-book blog-bestie contacted me on Messenger with this:

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” The fun times.”  she texted after sending me a poorly self-made banner we once used for our Facebook page. The fun times, indeed.

For those who don´t know- This isn´t my first Book Blog. I used to share one with 2 of my book besties years ago. Different interests were the reasons for us going our separate ways. To this day we´re still close as we were back during our glorious active book blogging years.

 

After her text, I called her ( to my shame – without considering the 9 hour time difference ). Because you don´t just send a random picture for no good reason, right? It´s been years since we´ve book blogged together and we don´t often talk about our first online baby. We did this time, though.

We talked about the fun times.

 

“We winged the crap out of everything,” she said.

 

How true. We didn´t have the slightest clue what we were doing but we made the most of it. We had a great laugh, as you´d have when going down memory lane. Then the laughter died down. We entered the phase of awkward silence. Then THE question was asked.

“So, how´s the blog doing?” Bah. How to answer that without killing the mood?

“It´s different,” I answered truthfully. “Things aren´t the way they used to be.”

It surprised me when she agreed. It surprised me, even more, when she announced she was quitting her book blog. When I asked her why she simply said:

 

“The community has become too vicious for my taste.” 

 

A sad statement coming from someone who´s so full of book blogging goodness. This woman is more than capable of running a successful blog. She has it down when it comes to mingling with the book crowd. Out of all three of us, she was everyone´s darling. Authors adored her. Our followers loved her. For her to call it quits is heartbreaking. But, I understood. After she unleashed the tsunami of other reasons upon me I couldn´t blame her for wanting to quit.

 

“Reviews seem to be worthless,” she said.  Sometimes they feel that way, yes.

“I´m doubting my posts.”   Oh, I can sing a song about that.

“I´m making my husband read my posts, to see if he thinks they´re offensive before I upload them. “    Uhm, okay. I´m not that at that stage yet.

“Book bloggers aren´t what they used to be.”  * nod *

“The hate is unreasonable.”  * choke, cough * Unreasonable is a nice word.

 

All this boiled down to one thing: Things have changed. It has yet to be revealed whether this is actually the case or if we´ve simply overstayed our welcome in the book community. The bottom line is- A book blogger is quitting for alarming reasons.

 

I´ll admit- Just like my book bestie, I doubt my posts. I don´t doubt my ability to create content. I doubt the way my posts will be perceived. But I´m not at that stage where I won´t want to upload my posts, yet. Who knows,… If I have to create more graphic notes I might decide to hang my blog on the nail.  My bestie never doubted her content. Not once did she say anything about not being sure about blog posts. She´s not the type. But then again, neither am I, and here I am… doubting things. This is understandable.

 

As for reviews feeling like a waste of time: I see her point. Reviews are pretty much the same as they´ve always been, though. It´s the lack of response to the reviews that´s changed. And this makes reviews seem worthless. Personally, I´m not too worried about feedback for reviews because a review will always be read at some point. Somewhere down the line someone will need an opinion and will stumble upon yours.

 

I had to laugh when the bestie said she´s been forcing her husband to read her posts. Even if the reason itself is sad, it´s such a comical moment picturing her husband´s face. I´ve never asked my husband to check my posts but I can understand why the bestie asked hers. She´s afraid of discriminating a bookish group/an author/anyone. It´s easy to step on people´s feet in 2019. All it takes is a misunderstanding. We´ve trained ourselves to care too much of what people think that it´s influencing our personalities and messing with our minds. We have to remind ourselves that it´s not our fault if someone doesn´t agree with us. 

Pissing someone off ( even for the stupidest reason ) can cause a hurtful online backlash. We don´t want to start a war over our opinions, thoughts, or ideas.

 

“I`m tired of having to defend my posts.”

 

As for the unreasonable hate… * sigh * Yeah, I´ve seen content being attacked for no good reason. Hell, I´ve seen these attacks become personal. Never would I´ve thought the bestie would be subjected to this behavior and crumble underneath it.

 

“At first I didn´t react. Ain´t gonna waste my time with people who don´t understand what they read. But when the hate added up I wasn´t able to sit here and let it happen. Who the fuck are these people and why do they have internet access?”

 

Oh, ain´t that the truth. I had an easy answer to her question- People who´re living in a state of constant frustration. I imagine these people being those cringe-worthy folks you see on Youtube in one of those public freak out compilations * shudders *.  Angry, yelling, at a loss for reasonable words, lacking the ability to be civilized over stupid shit.

 

I cannot begin to tell you how gutted I feel that a wonderful person felt the need to quit her passion because of a few special members of the book community.. Because of the unnecessary building negative feedback, my ex-co-blogger bestie deleted her book blog.

 

“The community has become too vicious for my taste.” 

 

In what universe is this okay? If anyone feels the need to quit then it should be because of not being able to invest enough time or other things.

I´m more than pissed that people claim to be passionate readers but can´t seem to read and understand a blog post.

 

Our phone call lasted an hour. The bestie felt liberated and I was ready to open up a bottle of wine.

Here´s a sad fact: I´ve seen quite a few fellow book blogger friends quit in the last few months because of the same reasons.

 


So, there ya have it. Another book blogger resigned. How sad to see someone leave.

 


 

I´m pretty sure this post will have some people´s panties in knots so I´m not going ask questions on what all your thoughts are. I´ve already been accused of being the reason why book bloggers are quitting. “It´s because of people like you…” Not into another round of that. This post wasn´t about me. It´s about a close friend of mine ( who happens to be my ex-co-blog bestie ) quitting her book blog because of the actions from fellow book bloggers. If you´d like to add something useful in the comments below then I´d be more than happy to get back with you.


 

Thank you for reading this slightly depressing blog post.

XO´s

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Book Reviews: MacCarrick Brothers Trilogy – Kresley Cole

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A friend of mine urged me back in 2009 to check out what she referred to as “Wolfy Scot sex on Vampire fire”. A book with the title `A Hunger Like No Other´ by an author I hadn´t known- Kresley Cole. After having read a few books from the captivating  Immortal After Dark Series  ( and liking what I was reading from the author ) I was stuck with waiting for the story to continue. That´s when I noticed the author had more than just Vampires, Valkyries and Lykaes to offer. Kresley Cole also wrote Historical Romances? Highlander Historical Romances? Move out of my way!

The deal was sealed. I purchased the MacCarrick Brothers Trilogy, To be honest- I didn´t know what to expect when I ordered these books. All I hoped for was to receive the same captivating reading experience I had with her paranormal books.

Now, I´m able to say that these HR treasures are on my sacred golden bookshelf. They´re exactly what I crave for when it comes to reading. Great Heroes, lovable Heroines ( except for the first one. Didn´t care much for her ) and exciting stories. * sigh *

 


 

If You Dare  ( book #1 ) – Kresley Cole

 

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We meet Courtland, the first of the three fierce and cursed Scottish brothers, who´s a mercenary. He lands on the wrong side of the fight and ends up beaten by a river where he´s rescued by a beautiful hot-tempered woman named Annalia. From there on their journey is passion-filled and adventurous.

If you´ve read books from the author you know things won´t roll smooth for her characters. And her stories are most definitely not half-assed.  `If You Dare´ was an okay read, though. I loved the writing and the story but the Heroine was a buzz-kill. At times I wished the Hero would kill her by accident. That didn´t happen, though. Nonetheless- An exciting Highlander read with so many steamy scenes that I feared my glasses would fog up on their own. Although I enjoyed the story I will say that I thought book # 1 was the weakest of the trilogy.

 

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If You Dare  ( #2 ) – Kresley Cole

 

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Meet Huge MacCarrick, second cursed brother of the MacCarrick lot. And because of this family curse, Hugh decides to forget his ultimate crush and leaves home, ultimately becoming an assassin. Years later he´s back and has a job to do- to protect the woman who stole his heart before he left home. From there on we accompany both on an emotional rollercoaster ride.

I loved this book so much. I loved how frustrating these characters were. Hugh, the reluctant, superstitious Highlander killer and the elegant English lass, Jane, with her sharp mind and quick mouth. They were explosive as a couple and miserable on their own. ` If You Desire ´ by Kresley Cole is one of those exciting and intense Historical Romances that makes a reader beg for more.

 

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If You Deceive  ( #3 ) – Kresley Cole

 

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Hands down- This one was my favorite. It´s, in fact, my favorite HR from all HR I own. If You Deceive,  introduces the oldest and deadliest of all three cursed MacCarrick brothers. For me, Ethan is the ultimate Hero. Ruthless, dangerous, dark and such an asshole who´s gradually brought to his knees by a beautiful and clever young Madeleine. This is the type of story I could never get tired of. Lots of deceit, a few heartaches, and the glorious heroic ending. * sigh * I´m a lost cause when it comes to this book. Know that whatever I say will never do this story justice. My favorite from the trilogy.

 

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The MacCarrick Brothers Trilogy by Kresley Cole is available on Amazon.com

If You Dare  ( book #1 )

If You Desire  ( book #2 )

If You Deceive   ( book #3 )

 

 

 

Do You Tag Authors In Negative Reviews?

This post is dedicated to everyone in the book community.

A huge shout out goes to Drew@The Tattooed Book Geek for inspiring me with his post. If you haven´t already be sure to check his thoughts on the subject out right here.

Unfortunately, this to-tag-or-not-to-tag-authors issue has been around for some time now. It pops up on social media and vanishes just as quick as it came. It´s no secret that many authors hate being tagged in review posts on social media. Why? Well, because it´s hurtful. It´s mean. It´s degrading and humiliating. How dare someone put an author on the spot like that.

 

 

That´s what people say. On a few occasions, I´ve seen some authors post something like this on their social media.

“It´s not nice to be tagged in a negative post. Please don´t tag me. It´s rude.”

 

And even some book bloggers will join in and offer their two cents into the mix.

 

„This is NOT okay. Do NOT be cruel by tagging authors in negative reviews.“

 

And I agree to some degree. I agree that you shouldn´t be a hurtful asshat then go off and rub it under an author´s nose. That´s about it, though.

Personally, I don´t see myself siding with the people who believe negativity is harmful. Because I´m the type of person who thinks negativity is necessary. Even if it´s a tag in a post that leads to a negative review. So, to answer the question above:

Yes, I tag authors in negative review posts. And if I´m honest, I don´t really lose a night´s sleep over it, either. I´m okay with sharing my opinions, positive and negative alike, and tagging the people who wrote the books I reviewed online because that´s what I do. That´s my purpose as a book blogger. I´m confident about my work and know that nothing I upload is harmful. Maybe thought-provoking but never harmful. Some book bloggers don´t write negative reviews at all, which is also okay. But I do and I can totally live with myself.

 

Now, before anyone who´s already disagreeing with me or thinking of accusing me of being mean, rude or tactless… Please hear me out because this isn´t meant to be rude or insensitive. This is just my take on the problem. Thank you in advance.

 

After having given this topic lots of thought I´ve come to less than pleasant conclusions as to what the real issues are.

 

#1   Tags are just tags. I think tags can be compared to flies. All´s good until one of those suckers manages to get inside your house and ends up bugging the shit out of you at night when you want to sleep. But, it´s just a fly, you know? That itsy bitsy little flying insect can be dealt with. Well, it´s the same with tags. The negative ones are annoying as well when they appear. Fortunately, tags can be dealt with. Unfortunately, some authors feel the need to lash out on social media. All because of a tag. I admit- this is interesting to see but I can´t help to feel uncomfortable. Why react when you could just deal with it? There´s always time to complain after having tried to iron out the problem.

 

#2   Some authors are spoiled. I know, it sounds so awful but if you think about it, it does make sense. From what I´ve seen, some of the authors who´ve complained about being tagged in negative review posts have been carried on a silver platter for so long by book bloggers they´ve forgotten that negative opinions exist. The end result is: They´ll throw an online tantrum via social media posts and complain about how rude it is to tag their name to a negative post.

 

#3   Some authors are picky. So, it´s okay to tag them in a positive review post but not a negative one. Because that´s what their complain posts say: “Do not tag me in a negative review post. That´s rude.”  Or, am I missing something here? They´ll share/retweet a positive review post but will complain about a negative one. They´re basically rewarding good behavior online and protesting against an opinion they don´t approve of. If authors want feedback, they´ll get feedback. 

 

#4  Negative reviews aren´t always truly negative. I´m sure many can agree with me on this one. There´s a huge difference between wanting to share an opinion and being a cold-hearted bitch on a mission. What helps here is just taking some time off to find out why there was negativity in the first place. If someone has said that the book wasn´t their cup of tea or that they weren´t able to bond with the characters then that can´t be classified as negativity and should be accepted without further ado. Didn´t like what I offered? I´m sorry you feel that way. I hope you´ll find time to check out my other works. I´m sure I have a book you´d like.

 

#5   Authors aren´t the only beings wanting attention. Shocking, I know. It´s hard to believe anyone else wants to make a name for themselves. This point is so damn obvious that it hurts to think about it. There are reasons why a book blogger will tag an author in a negative post.

  1. They want the attention
  2. They want the author to see the review

I can´t fault a book blogger for wanting attention. They have goals just as any author does. What can also come across as a little shocking is: Some book bloggers aren´t working their blogs for authors. They´re doing it for themselves and their followers who rely on their opinions. When they tag an author in a negative review post they´re saying:

“Just dropping by to let you know I read your book. I ended up not liking it.”  And then they move on, allowing an author to check their review out. When this happens they don´t think about an author´s feelings just as an author won´t think about theirs. Is that terrible? I don´t think it is.

 

#6   Feelings. Some authors will not hold back and share their feelings. “Just stop and think about how this makes me feel.”   * nod *  * shaking head * Without wanting to sound like a complete bitch- Book bloggers should be mindful at all times? Book bloggers need to be considerate AND careful not to put a dent in a book´s reputation? This is asking for the impossible. Look, this whole thing is basically an exchange. Author publishes a book and book blogger/reviewer leaves a review.  Not every book blogger can puke rainbows for everyone. Many reviewers aren´t interested in walking on eggshells. 

 

#7   It´s about the book, not the author. This point can be tied with #4. Some authors fail to recognize that they´re selling a product. If someone doesn´t like the product they´re going to complain to the manufacturer. In most cases, that´s exactly what a book blogger is doing- letting the author know what they thought via social media tag.  But authors take this personally because the books they´ve written are often considered to be their “babies”.

 

So, what´s the real problem here? Is it the review, the reviewer/book blogger or the tag? Or perhaps it´s an author?

 

The core of this evil is a combination of all four. Without the reviewer, there wouldn´t be a negative review and without both and social media there wouldn´t be a tag. And without some authors, there wouldn´t be complaints. Sounds like we could all be living wonderfully quiet lives, huh?

 

After having been a part of the book universe for so long I´ve learned that whatever you do, things won´t ever play out the way you want them to. You, as a book blogger, will always be judged. Your blog will always be judged. Your opinions and posts will be judged. You can be as fake or as genuine as you like- your critique ( no matter how mild or diplomatic ) will not be accepted.  The same applies to authors: No matter what you write about there will always be people who´ll have strong opinions. You can´t keep away the hate. You can´t avoid a tag. You can´t prevent tags in negative review posts from happening. A post about it will not convince someone to stop.

 

Of course- all this is worthless when an author comes across a bitch on a mission. The book bloggers who are hateful and personal should rethink their blog philosophy and work on their social skills. Just as sensitive/stubborn authors who´re constantly offended by everything that´s not a praise should.

 

This is a community. We´re in it for a reason. We need each other to exist. Book bloggers depend on books to read and review and authors need readers and reviews. As annoying as negative tags are for authors, there not worth the fuss. Because in the end- It´s a tag.

So you see, there´s no win/win situation here.  * sigh *

The key is to be civilized. If we can´t act in a civilized manner then we need to step away and breathe.

 

On a friendly note: As stated above- None of this is meant to hurt someone. I´m not pointing fingers at anyone in particular. I´m only sharing my observations. I´m positive many will disagree with me on this subject and some will actually agree.

On an even friendlier note: Remember- It´s okay. If you´re a book blogger who does or doesn´t share negative reviews on social media then you´re okay. You´re not going against any rules because there aren´t any. It´s also okay to tag authors in positive and negative review posts, as long as you´re being civilized, no harm is done. Always keep in mind that just because someone doesn´t approve doesn´t mean you´re doing something wrong. Tag authors. Give them feedback. Let them know you exist.

 


 

I´m afraid to ask: What about you? Do you care enough about this topic to chat about it? Do you tag authors in negative review posts? Let me know in the comments below. I´d love to chat. 

 


 

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I hope you enjoyed. And if you didn´t then that´s okay.

I hope you all have a wonderful day.

Take care,

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Book Review:`Those Chance Encounters` by Pearl Khatri

 

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𝑲𝒆𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒕𝒉:
She shattered my soul with the very first smile she gave me. I wanted her, craved her, yearned for her…
She wanted nothing to do with me, but I was an adamant bastard through and freaking through…

𝑨𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒂:
He pulled at my being with the very first wink he gave me. I desired him, ached for him, broke entirely for him.
He didn’t live up to his promise, keeping me waiting…praying…hoping…dreaming…


 

Warning From The Author ( taken from Goodreads )

𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒃𝒐𝒐𝒌 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒔 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒄𝒖𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒈𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒔 𝒔𝒖𝒄𝒉 𝒂𝒔 𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚-𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒐𝒓𝒅𝒆𝒓, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒃𝒖𝒍𝒍𝒚𝒊𝒏𝒈. 𝑰𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒆𝒍𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒐𝒓 𝒖𝒏𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆, 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒊𝒔𝒆𝒅.

 


 

On  a kind note:

This is my opinion. My opinions are not facts. This review is also a pro-consumer. This means I´m offering my opinion via review to guide and possibly help indecisive readers.

 

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Me stumbling upon `Those Chance Encounters by author Pearl Khatri was a chance encounter. It was one of those accidental bump-ins I believe others would appreciate more.

 

It´s romantic. It´s cute. It has humor. It´s revealing. It´s supposed to be great on a level I´m not acquainted with yet.

 

Much to my dismay, `Those Chance Encounters` didn´t meet my reading standards. Not by a long shot. I´m actually disappointed.

Before I dive into a more detailed explanation of my thoughts I´d like to point out what drove me to read this book in the first place. Those

The Cover & The Synopsis

There´s no denying how cute the cover image is.  And although a little slim, I found the synopsis interesting. I figured I´d be getting loads of story with the little description provided.

So, what´s keeping me from adoring this book? Let me put it this way…

 

The whole problem with this story wasn´t the story itself. `Those Chance Encounters` had the ability to be a great story. But it was the lack of structure in all areas that prevented this from being a great read.

This is probably the most chaotic story I´ve ever read. The author included topics such as body image issues, bullying and lack of self-awareness and all I was able to see was how respectful and at the same time dismissive these topics were handled. How am I, as a reader, supposed to feel empathy when I´m hardly given the chance to develop feelings?

There were moments when I had the feeling the author made the story up. But then again, this story felt like a strong case of „The protagonist is the author´s self- insert“ and that the whole book was based on personal experiences. There´s nothing against using one or the other. But for a reader to feel both is a little confusing and doesn´t work in the book´s or author´s favor.

Which leads me to my next point:

 The writing. I discovered I´m not a fan of the author´s writing.

Wordy. Excessive. Uncontrolled. My reading flow was constantly interrupted by the overuse of words I haven´t seen or heard of in two decades, which, I might add, is exhausting. Usually, this can be a breath of fresh air while reading but in this case, I was confused and irritated.

As for the characters- I tried. When the characters are 2-D you´ll find it hard to have a connection with them. I need to be convinced by actions instead of words in order to develop a bond with fictional people. I would like to relate. I´d rather not sit here and ask myself how this character made my top 3 list of most unliked characters. I didn´t feel anything for Amara or Kenneth. I wasn´t able to warm up to them due to the indecisive character portrayal.  Let´s not forget the kinks and quirks- Yeah, no. I´d rather forget them as they added nothing valuable to each character or the story.

With that being said- I think I won´t check out another book from this author.

While I´m pretty sure this book will find fans, it wasn´t strong enough to win me over.


 

Would I recommend this book? To the people who value my opinion- No.

Would I reread this book? No.


 

The Cover – 5 Stars:   Hands down- It´s a beauty.

The Story – 2 Stars:   Trite and, at times, confusing

The Characters – 1 Star:  It´s a no from me.

My emotional state after finishing this read – I´m not happy.

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The Book Blogger Insider Tag

My first book related tag for 2019, y´all! And what better way than to start by giving some book blogger insider insight.

A huge THANK YOU to Norrie @Reading Under The Blankie. I shall give my best and find answers for these Q´s.

Are we ready?  * waiting for the collective war cry reply * I guess we are. * cracking knuckles*


Where do you typically write your blog posts?

Uuhm, at home. At the diningroom table. Because the table is angled in the right position so I can still watch TV. There was a time I tried typing blog posts while sitting on the sofa but…. I always fell asleep. So, the diningroom table it is.

 

How long does it generally take you to write a book review?

I´m going to have to go with Norrie´s answer. Anywhere between half an hour to five months or possibly never.

 

When did you start your book blog?

I started this blog in 2016 but have been blogging for longer than I like to admit.

 

What is the worst thing about having a book blog in your opinion?

If there was a negative side to having a book blog I don´t think I´d have one. Unless I´d be sharing a book blog with an asshole. Then the worst thing would be that asshole.

 

What is the best thing about having a book blog in your opinion?

Definitely the community.

 

What blog post have you had the most fun writing so far?

Hands down- My favorite blog post would be the Spam Box Treasure. I find immense joy in receiving and sharing spam comments.

 

What is your favourite type of blog post to write?

Probably the one´s I haven´t uploaded yet. * insert snort and laugh * I´m very snarky and have no filter so most of my blog posts end up evil and left as drafts. * hiding face * But my fav types of blog posts are the ones where I analyse book titles or cover images.

 

When do you typically write?

At 8 p.m. Right after the girls go to bed. It´s the only time when I have absolute peace and quiet.

 

Do you review every book you read?

Almost. Very few I refuse to review because they´re either too good and whatever I´d say would never do its justice or the book was so horrible I can´t seem to find it in me to waste time typing anything useful.

 

How do you write your book reviews? With a cup of coffee or tea? With Netflix? Cuddled with your fur baby?

I don´t have any fur babies 😦 But I do drink 1 cup of hot chocolate and way too much coke every night and eat a bowl of cornflakes around midnight all while listening to music and keeping one eye on the TV. But listening to music and eating is a must for me while writing reviews.

 

When do you write your book reviews? Right after finishing the books? Two weeks after finishing the book?

Again- Within a few hours up to 5 months or even a year later. It all depends on my mood and what´s on TV or if husbutt has some earthbreaking news to share. Right now I´m on day 3 for 1 review.

 

How often do you post?

In general? Or just reviews? I try to do a minimum of 3 posts a week with 1 being a review post. Everything else is a bonus.

 

Puuh. That was tough. Thanks again, Norrie for nominating me.

I tag EVERYONE to participate in the fun!

Much love,

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