Being A Compulsive Book Finisher

What a title for a blog post, huh? Sounds terribly sinister. It´s almost as if I see this as some chronic disease- The book finishing disease. Hmm, okay. Sounds more like a first world problem than anything else, to be honest. But hey- Trust me on this one… It´s a true struggle. I just never gave this much thought because you sometimes don´t think about these things, you know? Not until you see something on the internet that reminds you of a problem you once had.

I stumbled upon an article the other day with the title It´s Okay to Give Up on Mediocre Books Because We´re All Going to Die.  

The second thing that made me stop was the tagline:

 

`Life’s too short to force yourself to finish books you don’t enjoy`

 

I can advise anyone who loves to read to take a few minutes to read this because it´s truly interesting.

The title and tagline, both, had me thinking about my own reading habits. Do I finish every book I start even if it´s really not my cup of tea?

I was that person. I was a compulsive book finisher. I forced myself to finish a book even if I wasn´t feeling the story. And I know why I did it. I know exactly how this reading habit started, too.

If I dig deep enough I find that I can put the majority of the blame on book blogging, or with the way I blogged.

I wasn´t always a compulsive book finisher. But I quickly became one through the book blogging business.

To make a long ( a very long ) story short: Sometime during the first half of my book blogging career, I noticed I was reading fewer bestseller books and more books from indie/self – published writers. Not at all what I had planned on doing. This eventually led to me accepting ARCs and even beta reading for authors. My book blogging schedule was filled to the brim, folks.

One can´t be too mad about receiving free books, right? But one can develop an unhealthy reading habit by accepting many advanced reader´s copies & agreeing to beta read.

“It´s amazing how you can read three books in a week!”

People would say this to me all the time. There were two things these people didn´t know and still don´t understand:

 

  1. Reading an Arc isn´t always fun. It´s an exchange. You receive an advanced copy of a book and have to present a review afterward. Beta reading for an author can be even less amusing because they need your detailed feedback.
  2. It´s even less amazing when you don´t like what you´re reading.

 

It´s actually comparable with watching a movie or a TV show you´re just not that in to but you force yourself to keep watching because you want to be able to talk about it afterward. Only, you have no agreement with the actors or directors. There´s no one eagerly waiting for your opinion. You do have an agreement with publishers and authors, though. Even if it´s a simple verbal, via chat agreement- You read and give feedback. You pay attention to what you´re reading.

Skimming wasn´t even an option. Some authors wanted to know specific thoughts regarding their book for whatever scenes they wrote. Imagine an author asking for your opinion on the 67th sex scene and you can´t give feedback because you skipped that particular part. Dreadful.

This is when I made it my mission to force myself to finish every book I started. And that has stuck with ever since.

So, through book blogging, I turned myself into a compulsive book finisher.  No matter how awful I thought the ARC or beta copy was- I pulled through, all for the sake of… I can´t remember. Was it because I had a shining reputation I couldn´t afford to lose? Maybe because I hate breaking off agreements? Who knows.

Am I mad about this? Well, I´m certainly not happy. As it is with any unhealthy habit- It´s hard to kick. When I realized what I was doing to myself I pulled the breaks.  Because who in their right mind would force themselves to read a book they don´t enjoy?

 

 

Me

 

 

Even though I´ve somewhat freed myself from needing to finish every book I still catch myself continuing a book I´m not enjoying ( then end up finishing it because I´m too far in ).  As I said before – It´s a hard habit to kick. Sometimes I have no trouble stopping a book on page 50  and sometimes I don´t realize what I´m doing until it´s too late.

 

`Life’s too short to force yourself to finish books you don’t enjoy`

I wholeheartedly agree with this tagline. Books are meant to entertain us. We´re meant to enjoy what we read. We´re not meant to push ourselves through something we don´t like.


 


 

 

On A Kind Note:  I don´t blame self – published authors nor do I blame beta copies for my own stupidity. I made a conscious choice back then without fully understanding the possible outcomes. It was a mistake easily made.

On Another Kind Note:  I also don´t see being a compulsive book finisher as a life-threatening issue. In my case, it´s just another annoying habit. It doesn´t affect my life in a negative way nor does it keep me from enjoying other things. I don´t accept ARCs anymore, though. Same with beta reading.

 


 

Let´s chat:

Do you finish books you don´t enjoy? Are you a compulsive book finisher? 

Share away in the comments below.

 


 

As always, thank you for taking the time to read my post. I really appreciate it.

Much book love,

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Thank The Books It´s Friday

Hola, bookish family.

Guess what? It´s Friday…

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Thank fuck, indeed. It´s been a busy one, I can tell ya that much. Reading. Thinking. Blogging. It´s no wonder I´m in desperate need of all those cocktails I pictured myself drinking throughout the week.

But nonetheless- I had a great time roaming the internet and reading all sorts of book-related blog posts ( more about that next week ).

Since it´s Friday I thought we´d cast all the negative shit from the book community aside and shift our focus on what´s really important: Enjoying a few days off.

My grand plan is: To have no plans for the weekend. Maybe I´ll do a little reading, relaxing and let my paper white skin fry in the June heat or maybe I´ll do none of that and just sit outside and listen to my neighbors threaten each other with the cops again.

 

 

As long as I have a cocktail to slurp then I don´t really care.

 

As for my reading options…

I´m going to play a round of `Eenie, Meenie, Miney, mo` with a stack of unread books. Hopefully, that´ll help me pick my next read ( because flipping a coin wasn´t creative enough for me ). I have 3 romances and 3 fantasies waiting for my attention.

 

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Has anyone already read any of these? Are they any good? Make sure to drop me a line in the comments. I´d love to know what your thoughts are ( if you´ve read these, of course ).

Speaking of books. Remember my ramblings on book covers? Weeeell, I finally gave myself that much needed last kick and came up with a concept and even put it into action. Yay for me! One that hopefully works. What exactly my new concept is will be revealed next Thursday, so stay tuned folks. ❤  ( a little tip: One look at my blog menu will tell you everything )

I guess that´s pretty much it for this week. Lots of everything and nothing has happened. The usual, I´d say. And with that, I´ll leave you and wish you all a wonderful few days off.


 

Before I leave:

What are your plans for the weekend? Do you have anything special planned? Or will it be another wonderful time doing absolutely nothing? Let me know so I can envy you.

 


 

Stay safe. Have a blast. Feel hugged.

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The Much Needed Book Blogger Break

It´s been a minute. It´s actually been several minutes since I was last active on WordPress. To tell you the truth –  I needed a break from book blogging.

The time came when I needed to take a step back and reflect on this whole book blogging shizz.

Once every blue moon I feel the need to put some distance between me and my hobby. Because it´s not always easy. It´s not always fun. No matter how much I love what I do I´m still not immune to the pressure that comes with book blogging.

Reading became a chore again and writing blog posts started to feel wrong.

Believe it or not- It´s possible to be in a reading slump and end up slipping into a book blogger funk. It´s a thing and for me, and I saw this as a sign to distance myself from the book community.

What happened was: I hadn´t allowed myself any reading breaks in between reads. I read and read and by the end of each week I wasn´t able to remember half the stories I read only days before.

And at the same time, I was dealing with an unhealthy amount of negativity aimed towards my blog content.

Sure, I could have sent a collective ” fuck off” to all the hate and then called it a day. I could have worked on my reading pace. Could have. Should have.

Instead, I let everything get to me. I began thinking of ways on how to not offend people with my non-offensive blog posts. Ridiculous, right? I agree.

Now, after a few weeks away from the internet, I feel rejuvenated. I am ready to start again with a clear mind. And with my new found energy I rediscovered my love for reading ( and blogging ).

 

 

Okay, it´s time to get that drink that´s been calling my name and continue reading that one book I started earlier today.

Be prepared for an onslaught of blog posts and comments on your own blog. ❤

 

I wish each and every one of you a wonderful Sunday. Feel hugged.

Don´t forget to share the book love!

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Happy May!

Happy May, y´all!

Boy, time flies when you´re having fun. Not that I´ve had any, mind you. I´ve actually had a very exhausting April. But, I´m not here to point out all the negatives I´ve been through ( although I´m tempted to give you all a big ass rant ) I´ve decided to focus on the positives and throw some negative bits in the mix.

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For those of you who are wondering why I haven´t been online much… Well, I haven´t had much to share. And I´m a firm believer in not posting for the sake of posting. I do have quite a lot of material for my blog but haven´t really gotten a chance to work on things much. Mug Mondays, Thank he Books It´s Fridays, Reviews, Discussion posts… It´s all in the works.

So, what positive has April brought us? Let´s start with my all time favorite Sunday filler- Game of Thrones season 8.

Who´s happy the show is back? I´m happy the show is back. Every body part of me is stupidly excited the show is back. The wait has been too long. My desperation level has met its new high. The good news- I now know I´m capable of not forgetting a date for 1,5 years. The bad news- I´m suffering something terrible after the third episode. Good Laaawd, am I a mess now. Another thing that pains me is – We ain´t got much left of Jon Snow and his ridiculously gorgeous half ponytail.

 

YAASSS, baby! Show us dat bun and swing dat sword!

I have read so many theories, so many predictions on how the story will end and I can´t say I´m happy with any of it. I´m a happily ever after type of person. It´s been said the ending of GoT will be bittersweet. I can´t cope.

Just as I can´t cope with the third episode. Good Laaawd, that one did a number on me.

 

 

I´m glad we discussed this. It´s time to move on to the next topic. Booktube.

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Do you remember ( I´m sure you don´t but I still ask you to humor me ) when I announced wanting to join the Booktube community? Yeah. That went downhill pretty quick. Turns out, I´m not cut out to be a Booktuber. Or, I´m still not sure about the whole thing. I tried sitting in front of a camera and fiddled with the lightings and did a million adjustments…  I´ve watched videos from experts on how to get everything right only to realize that Booktube and I aren´t a good match. I´m not as young as I used to be and refuse to bend myself for the sake of getting views. One booktuber´s advice was:

“Always stay positive. No one wants to listen to a rant. And don´t forget to smile.” 

And I sat here with my wanna – be psychologist hat on thinking “That shit ain´t healthy.”

I can´t stay positive even if my life depended on it. I am positive but also a realist which can come across as negative. The world has become thirsty for permanent positivity. And smiling? Me? I have a permanent resting bitch face. To force a smile for 5 minutes straight would hurt. And I would look stupid.

 

 

So, I let myself get discouraged by some constant positive practitioner. Meeh, I´ll live. I might warm back up to the Booktube idea again sometime in the future, though. You never know.

Now for some much needed book talk.

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Looks like 2019 is my reading year. Romance authors are throwing romance novels out left and right and I´m here buying everything that sounds remotely good. I´ve also gotten in the mood to buy some older romance classics. And since books don´t have expiration dates, every older published book will feel like it´s new.

 

 

I´ve also recently gotten back in to historical romances, as well. One re-read on the loo has made me fall in love with puffy cotton candy colored dresses and sexually driven dukes again.

There ya have it.

I´m afraid that´s it for this week, my dear bookish Padawans. Prepare yourselves for an onslaught of reviews and other wonderful book topics.

Wishing you all the best. Share the book love.

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Mug Monday & Reading Log

Mug Feature:    Beige with mint dots

Book Topic:    Reading Log / Journals

 

Hello, my dear ( nearly forgotten ) Mug Monday friends. It´s so great to be able to welcome you back to my quirky world of mugs and random book topics.

The problem with being away for so long is- You have to wiggle your way back into the routine you slipped out of. You know, catching up… and shit.

But (!!!) during my time away from my precious Mug Monday I did spend time actually using my mugs. Even used real tea. Yes, tea. Not hot chocolate this time. Shocking- isn´t it?

 

 

I had to lay low with the milk this time because my body, the stomach bug ( kindly brought home from our local elementary school ) and milk don´t agree with each other.

Don´t worry. I plan to spare you the gory details on what went down ( or out ).

 

 

So, yes… Tea. From peppermint tea to ginger tea, I drank so much that I now feel healthy.

This unwelcome and highly annoying body situation provided so much time for me to give my beloved neglected amazon shopping cart some love. I went book shopping. What did I buy? Well, it wasn´t books, I can tell ya that much.

March´s book shopping spree turned into a journal shopping marathon. Because I don´t have enough journals as it is. Of course, I need more. And I feel no shame by admitting it.

 

 

So, we have a Mug Monday feature AND 2 little journal moments going on. Behold!

 

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 NOTE: Mug used for short term decoration purposes. ( ain´t nothin´in dat mug )

 

I´m loving this SO MUCH that I´m afraid to touch it. I mean- It´s white and cute and pretty…. * sigh *  I´m obsessed with disliking Mondays and I don´t drink coffee, but that´s not the point. I´ve never had a white journal before!

Then I bought another reading log, or book log… or whatever you like to call it. The thing you use to keep track of the books you´ve read. That thing.

A little before New Years I bought my very first reading log, hoping it would bring some organized system in to my reading. And it worked! Well… sort of. I was on a great path of success until I spilled coke all over it and ruined it. So, I bought another one. the exact same one.

Voila!

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Center – Reading log, Upper left – Great book 

 

 

Simple in the design and easy to maintain. It has all the bits a reader would need to make notes for possible reviews. All that for little money ( $ 5.50, 4.99 euros )

 

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Kindly turn a blind eye on the right page. Thank you. 

 

  • Page / book count  ( Told you I´ve been slacking )
  • Title, Author,Publisher, Pub-date, Page count, Book format, review, quotes,
  • Nice nifty side bar for adding additional info
  • Has room for 100 books

Perfect for my personal reading notes ( and shopping lists from the looks of book #7 )

Now, do I think reading logs are a must have for readers / book bloggers? No. This is what I like to categorize as bookish “knick- knacks”. A reading log is fun to have, great if you need it but not a necessity.

I like it and think I´ll be able to stick with the book protocol.

 

Do you use a reading log? How you do keep track of your reading? Let me know in the comments below! 

 

 

I guess that´s it for today, my dear bookish Padawans. It´s time for me to get back to my new tea drinking habit.

I wish each and every one of you a wonderful Monday.

Feel hugged and loved,

 

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