Mug Monday & What I did while I was on my break

Mug Feature:    White porcelain mug with Alice in Wonderland motive: The Cheshire Cat

Book Topic:     What I did during my break


 

Heya! Welcome back to my long lost and nearly forgotten Mug Monday special.

How is everyone this beautiful Monday? I hope well.

As some of you might remember, I was on an apocalyptic book blog break. My time off wasn´t only used to refill my low running book blogging battery. I utilized my time away from my blog to catch up on my other passions. Like- spending time on Sky and Netflix and… to my utter shame… Youtube.

For some reason, I have a new fascination with watching beauty gurus and makeup tutorials. Now, I´m not a person who wears a whole lot of make-up. It´s mascara and blush for me, and that´s only when I leave the house.

Watching beauty gurus, though… It´s oddly satisfying. You get to listen to them talk about God and the world and watch them apply makeup like magicians. I admit- I tried a few things recommended by a booty guru and… well… Let´s say I´ll stick with applying facial masks. Moisturizing my face is a much safer option for me.

As of now my favorite beauty guru is Tati Westbrook.

 

She´s soooo pretty and comes across as a genuine person. And I would kill to have the ability to do my makeup like she does. * sigh *

 

Can we just stop here for a moment so we can appreciate this mug?

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I got this while I was in London in April. T´was a get a free mug if you purchase 30 smackers worth of tea deal. Guess who has lots of tea now * pointing at myself * So loving the orange Cheshire cat. ♥  

I´m going to be honest with you, though… This mug is not firm or sturdy and kind of gives the impression that it´ll break if I put too much tea in it. But the cat looks pretty 🙂

 

On to the next thing I´ve done on my break: Gardening

This might sound a bit boring ( and kind of is so I won´t blame you for skipping this part ) I found out that I don´t have a pitch black thumb. I´m normally the type of person who could kill plants just by being in the same room with them ( hence the reason why I don´t have any inside my house ). For years I´ve been the wicked plant witch. Now? Now it looks like I´m the veggie and fruit fairy.

Right now I have 4 hip high tomato plants, 1 outrageously large zucchini ( courgette ) plant, chives, parsley, mint, carrots, 2 blueberry bushes, 1 raspberry bush, 1 red currants bush, and 3 gigantic bean stocks.

I went from having a ghetto garden to having a miniature food court/ green jungle. Do you want to know how big of a deal this is for me? I have people stopping by and asking me what the hell happened to my garden. I kid you not. And I just stand there and give them a standard answer:

“I think it´s because I don´t go near them.”  I don´t want to take any risks so I admire everything from the window.

 

On to books!

Yes. Books. The one thing that hasn´t brought me any personal joy during my break. Well, I´ve overcome my funk. I´ve come to terms with not being able to read all my untouched reads. I´ve learned that life is about taking one step at a time. That includes reading. I seriously don´t want to end up being overwhelmed again so I´m entering the book world with baby steps.

Right now I´m trying to finish `When Ashes Fall` by author Marni Mann.

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I started this one a while back but had to put it down because…. ( try not to laugh ) I can´t touch the paperback. I´m NOT kidding. I have a problem with touching matt covers. I don´t like how they feel. I have to get out my cotton gloves to be able to touch any book with a matt cover. Since our temps are above 30 degrees I´m not too happy to wear gloves and therefore can´t continue to read any book with a matt cover.

 

 

But do not fear- I´ll finish the book sometime this year. Lol.

 

Okay- That´s a wrap for today. Monday can officially continue to give me hell.

I hope you enjoyed this week´s Mug Monday post. But before I leave…

 

How was your weekend? Did you do anything special? Let me know in the comments below. I´d love to chat. ❤

 

Sending out many hugs and book love. Until next week, my dear bookish Padawans.

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The Much Needed Book Blogger Break

It´s been a minute. It´s actually been several minutes since I was last active on WordPress. To tell you the truth –  I needed a break from book blogging.

The time came when I needed to take a step back and reflect on this whole book blogging shizz.

Once every blue moon I feel the need to put some distance between me and my hobby. Because it´s not always easy. It´s not always fun. No matter how much I love what I do I´m still not immune to the pressure that comes with book blogging.

Reading became a chore again and writing blog posts started to feel wrong.

Believe it or not- It´s possible to be in a reading slump and end up slipping into a book blogger funk. It´s a thing and for me, and I saw this as a sign to distance myself from the book community.

What happened was: I hadn´t allowed myself any reading breaks in between reads. I read and read and by the end of each week I wasn´t able to remember half the stories I read only days before.

And at the same time, I was dealing with an unhealthy amount of negativity aimed towards my blog content.

Sure, I could have sent a collective ” fuck off” to all the hate and then called it a day. I could have worked on my reading pace. Could have. Should have.

Instead, I let everything get to me. I began thinking of ways on how to not offend people with my non-offensive blog posts. Ridiculous, right? I agree.

Now, after a few weeks away from the internet, I feel rejuvenated. I am ready to start again with a clear mind. And with my new found energy I rediscovered my love for reading ( and blogging ).

 

 

Okay, it´s time to get that drink that´s been calling my name and continue reading that one book I started earlier today.

Be prepared for an onslaught of blog posts and comments on your own blog. ❤

 

I wish each and every one of you a wonderful Sunday. Feel hugged.

Don´t forget to share the book love!

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Happy May!

Happy May, y´all!

Boy, time flies when you´re having fun. Not that I´ve had any, mind you. I´ve actually had a very exhausting April. But, I´m not here to point out all the negatives I´ve been through ( although I´m tempted to give you all a big ass rant ) I´ve decided to focus on the positives and throw some negative bits in the mix.

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For those of you who are wondering why I haven´t been online much… Well, I haven´t had much to share. And I´m a firm believer in not posting for the sake of posting. I do have quite a lot of material for my blog but haven´t really gotten a chance to work on things much. Mug Mondays, Thank he Books It´s Fridays, Reviews, Discussion posts… It´s all in the works.

So, what positive has April brought us? Let´s start with my all time favorite Sunday filler- Game of Thrones season 8.

Who´s happy the show is back? I´m happy the show is back. Every body part of me is stupidly excited the show is back. The wait has been too long. My desperation level has met its new high. The good news- I now know I´m capable of not forgetting a date for 1,5 years. The bad news- I´m suffering something terrible after the third episode. Good Laaawd, am I a mess now. Another thing that pains me is – We ain´t got much left of Jon Snow and his ridiculously gorgeous half ponytail.

 

YAASSS, baby! Show us dat bun and swing dat sword!

I have read so many theories, so many predictions on how the story will end and I can´t say I´m happy with any of it. I´m a happily ever after type of person. It´s been said the ending of GoT will be bittersweet. I can´t cope.

Just as I can´t cope with the third episode. Good Laaawd, that one did a number on me.

 

 

I´m glad we discussed this. It´s time to move on to the next topic. Booktube.

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Do you remember ( I´m sure you don´t but I still ask you to humor me ) when I announced wanting to join the Booktube community? Yeah. That went downhill pretty quick. Turns out, I´m not cut out to be a Booktuber. Or, I´m still not sure about the whole thing. I tried sitting in front of a camera and fiddled with the lightings and did a million adjustments…  I´ve watched videos from experts on how to get everything right only to realize that Booktube and I aren´t a good match. I´m not as young as I used to be and refuse to bend myself for the sake of getting views. One booktuber´s advice was:

“Always stay positive. No one wants to listen to a rant. And don´t forget to smile.” 

And I sat here with my wanna – be psychologist hat on thinking “That shit ain´t healthy.”

I can´t stay positive even if my life depended on it. I am positive but also a realist which can come across as negative. The world has become thirsty for permanent positivity. And smiling? Me? I have a permanent resting bitch face. To force a smile for 5 minutes straight would hurt. And I would look stupid.

 

 

So, I let myself get discouraged by some constant positive practitioner. Meeh, I´ll live. I might warm back up to the Booktube idea again sometime in the future, though. You never know.

Now for some much needed book talk.

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Looks like 2019 is my reading year. Romance authors are throwing romance novels out left and right and I´m here buying everything that sounds remotely good. I´ve also gotten in the mood to buy some older romance classics. And since books don´t have expiration dates, every older published book will feel like it´s new.

 

 

I´ve also recently gotten back in to historical romances, as well. One re-read on the loo has made me fall in love with puffy cotton candy colored dresses and sexually driven dukes again.

There ya have it.

I´m afraid that´s it for this week, my dear bookish Padawans. Prepare yourselves for an onslaught of reviews and other wonderful book topics.

Wishing you all the best. Share the book love.

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150 Days Until RARE ´19 London

Only 150 days left! Hard to imagine the book signing event is practically around the corner.

To celebrate the event I´ve teamed up with my book babe, Sabrina @Brina and the Books ( who´ll also be my partner in crime at the signing ) for a little milestone countdown. On day 150, 100, 50 and day 0 we´ll be giving you insight on our RARE expectations, our unicorn authors and of course a sneak peek in the life of preparing for a book signing event happening in a different country. To sum it all up – Sabrina and I decided to reveal juicy details on day 0.

 

 

Today we´re here to celebrate the 150 days left until RARE ´19 London, Romance Author event. Why not start with our expectations? Our hopes and wishes for the event?

 

Fortunately for me, this isn´t my first RARE book signing event. I´ve had the pleasure of visiting a few in the past. I wouldn´t necessarily call myself a RARE expert but I do think I have a pretty good idea what to expect.

 

Authors and books. 

 

That´s what any book signing event is about, right? To go and see authors and have books signed. In a nutshell, yes. But these RARE signings function a little different. This isn´t just a get in – get out affair. RARE signings go a little deeper than that.

 

It´s all about having a good time.

 

If there´s one thing I´ve always experienced during my RARE visits, then it was definitely fun. Having a fun time with authors and having a great time mingling with like-minded people. RARE has never been a simple meet & move on. The promise of 150 authors for this year´s event sounds like a sure guarantee that the signing will be explosive! A bomb of a dream for a romance book blogger.RARE I´m going to unicorns

So, what exactly are my hopes for RARE ´19? I don´t have any for the event itself. Aside from meeting my favorite authors and discovering new authors I´m pretty sure there won´t be much new for me to expect ( unless the orga – team offers a Magic Mike show and a triple chocolate welcoming cake. One can always dream ). My hopes are aimed towards having a fantastic time with my friend, Sabrina.

A useless fun fact: Sabrina and I both live in Germany ( and not too far from each other, either ) and we´ll be meeting for the first time in person in London. How sad is that, huh? I can´t seem to get my booty in the car and visit her but here I am booking flights to meet my friend… in a differently country ( the shame is real, y´all ).

Also, while spending time with my favorite fellow book blogger and friend I´ll also be enjoying the event with my bestie Lindsey.

 

 

What I also expect is to be financially ruined for a few weeks afterwards. Books aren´t cheap, guys. I see a very dark and penniless future ahead. Not sure how I should feel about that.

 

My face while thinking about how poor I´ll be

 

Of course, I expect to walk out of the event with a shit load of books and more swag than I can handle. It´ll be a blast! Spending time with my loved ones and lusting over books will be awesome. Because that´s what respectable adult bookworms do.

 

 

That´s it for the 150 day mark, my lovely bookish Padawans. I hope you enjoyed.

Be sure to check out what my book babe, Sabrina @Brina and the Books Rare ´19 London expectations are. ♥ This will be Sabrina´s first RARE event and she´s definitely got some exciting things to say. 

Before I go I would like to know:

 

♥ Have you visited a RARE signing? Would you like to visit RARE? Have you been to other book signings? What was your experience? Let´s chat. ♥

 

Wishing you all the best.

Much book love,

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The Art Of `Live And Let Live` ( In The Book Blog Community)

” But the world is getting worse and I blame the beginning of it´s demise on social media.”

– Ricky Gervais

 

I bet you saw this one coming, didn’t ya? The Art Of `Live And Let live`. Folks, this is exactly what it is. A post about living and leaving others alone.

This is not a click bait.. For the record: I’m not a click bait book blogger so there will be none of that here.

Normally, I´d go ahead and give you a generalized post on my thoughts regarding the topic at hand. I´d throw in some pros and cons and provide some real examples and include my personal opinion. Not this time. I´ve something else in mind.

Stay factual. Stay realistic. Stay diplomatic. Try to stay neutral. That´s what I try to aim for when typing up my posts. For most of the time I reach my own standards.   I don´t blog about books and book related topics to unleash hell onto others for the sake of personal pleasure. Why am I even telling you all this?

Well, something happened today. Something that had shocked me. I spotted a tweet on Twitter that hit close to home.  And the weird part? It was about my blog post and what it did for other people.

Initially, I had not planned on publishing a post over the weekend. Now I feel like one has to go up. For many of you, this might sound so petty. So annoying.  Trust me- I´m just as annoyed. Please bear with me, dear annoyed non participants. My fingers are crossed that this´ll find an end sooner than later. I have just as much important shit to do.

There has been talk regarding my blog posts. Mind you- this isn´t the first time someone disagreed with one of my posts. But it´s the first time I´m seeing a complaint done behind my back.

My life motto is

`Live and let live.`

 

Unfortunately, this concept is totally alien for many people, It´s easy to live and let live. It´s apparently more fun not to. This also applies for book blogging. Most of the time the things I see happening in the book community are fairly harmless ( by harmless I mean things that don´t have people sobbing in the fetus position at night ). A little bitching here, and a lot of nagging there. Most of the time I find this really great. Opinions are what get conversations rolling. You have an opinion on a topic and share it, even welcome other opinions? I´m in! What I don´t like is when things become personal.

By `live and let live`I´m saying accept what others do and move on. Respect a book bloggers opinion and continue with life as it was.

 

`Live and let live.`

 

Yeah. The offended book committee doesn´t share my life philosophy. They say they do but they don´t.  Instead, these people make it their mission to keep my name within their radars. Because they were offended by one of my posts.
Which posts, you ask? What could be so awful that have people feeling all sorts of uncomfortable? Even feeling personally attacked?

 

The Art Of Pointing Fingers At Book Bloggers

Excuse me for not being a friend of finger pointing at book bloggers. You don´t post links from a book blogger and bash them in a group because you´re fucking unhappy. Have you no common sense?

A post about how unnecessary I feel it is to feel offended by the fakeness of Instagram. My personal opinion on this subject aside- I was told my post offended people. No one cared about my opinion. And it was a positive opinion. I was pro `live and let live`.

Here´s what happened: I was a new member of a Facebook book group and shared a post of mine. Keep in mind that I had been a member for only a short period of time before I shared a link to one of my blog posts. The first comment I received was from the admin.

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” Just read some fucking books.” A sad response from someone I had only exchanged a few words with in a previous post ( she was moody there as well ). Practically a stranger. So, this is how we speak with group members now? I´m appalled by this attitude and behavior.  We´re a book blog community. You can dislike my post but you are not allowed to be uncivilized. My post was clean. I had an opinion. Take it or leave it. Don´t tell me my post was offensive when in reality, you just didn´t like it. There´s a difference. See the difference.

I will not lie- this has been my top 2019 post so far. I´ve had dream worthy views ( and still counting ). I´m pretty sure the majority of the views on this post had been from the offended committee. Because, how dare I talk about a subject and publish my link in a group for book bloggers! Shame on me for trying to be a part of a group.

After that I left the group. Because I´m not stupid. Once an attitude, twice an attitude.. I´m not sticking around for round 3. So, I left. I dusted my hands off and moved on. Best decision I had in a long shot. Unfortunately for me, one group member followed me to my blog and thought it would be wise to continue what I ended in the group  underneath one of my blog posts. One person hunted me down to give me a piece of her mind. Keep in mind- That pilgrim had her little moment in the group I posted my link in. She wasn´t done, though.

 

 

Turns out, I have no empathy because I don´t care about the feelings of others. My post was “harmful”. No, it wasn´t. This discussion was long done for me before the loyal book pilgrim followed me to my blog.

 

 

So, people who are offended by posts are allowed to post about their feelings and I am supposed to sit back and accept wordlessly? No. That´s wrong on so many levels.

 

Then there´s this gem of mine that has caused more than just a stir. This time more people were involved. This is the Twitter post I spotted. The post about my post. A fellow book blogger defended me on her Twitter page and ended up being blocked. Why? Because I published a post about

Why I Don´t Join Book Blog Tours Anymore

The title says exactly what´s in this post. I reveal the reasons why I don´t participate in book blog tours anymore. How can this be misunderstood for anything else? And this had the bush drums going in a book blogger group. Not sure if I should laugh, cry, feel flattered, be shocked…

The reasons have stemmed from my personal experiences. Things that have occurred in the span of my 10 year book blogging career. I have not, and will not reveal the names of these book tour organizers because they´ve retired 2 – 5  years ago.

Why has this post about my not participating in blog tours been written? What was my motive? Do I need one? No. But I´ll amuse everyone anyway. It felt right to share my experiences. I wanted to share my stuff and maybe help others even if it´s by showing them that they aren´t alone with this. What´s wrong with that? Should I have not posted about why blog tours don´t work for ME anymore? Should I have worded the whole thing differently just to have the approval of the offended party? No can do. That would go against my book blog religion.

 

“Some people just don´t care.”

Here´s something to think about:

What would happen ( after having read an experience post of mine ) if the offended person just sat down and asked themselves how this could have happened to a book blogger? The post is open for discussion. Why not get in touch and ask for details. Ask about specifics instead of feeling offended. Because that´s how it looks like from my end of the stick. “I´m offended. I feel attacked.” When it reality my post was never about others. Just me. What is there to feel offended about? Unless these people felt offended on my behalf. Which I highly doubt.

My experiences are my personal facts. You can have your opinion on my opinion but you can´t feel offended by something I´ve dealt with. That´s ridiculous. Unless you´re offended on my behalf. I still doubt that.

 

To sum this whole thing up:

Believe it or not- I wouldn´t publish anything I don´t like. Should someone feel offended by whatever banal post I deem worthy of publishing then there´s always the option of ignoring me.

It´s simple. If you´re not convinced then try it out for yourselves. It works wonders for me.

People, if you are not able to live and let live then at least try! Try for the sake of peace. You can have a good rant. Make a post out of the topic you want to rant about. Ranting is healthy. The behavior I´ve been unofficially subjected to ( because, technically, I haven´t seen the post in the actual Facebook group. Just saw the tweet and was informed by a blogger friend )  is a low form of confrontation. Behind my back. A questionable act against someone who can´t defend themselves because they´re not in the group anymore.

Here´s another thing to consider:

It was clear the person and I weren´t able to meet eye to eye from the start ( although I tried ). The most logical thing to do would be if both went on our merry ways. I did that. The other person didn´t. The fact that this person has been checking on my posts tells me the person is just waiting for something to feel offended about.

The person who targeted my post stated she had planned  to comment on my post at first. She didn´t. I´m now grateful she decided against it. God knows how many more gray hairs I would have gained after a chitchat.

I am not interested in a discussion with this person anymore. Not now, not ever. Should this person reach out to me for whatever reason I will not react. I´ve reacted enough already. The offended parade is officially over. It´s time to move on.

Here´s a kind reminder for the future book blog community: Stop being fucking dicks.

And start working on social skills. Learn how to agree to disagree. Learn how to respect opinions. Learn to live and let live.

 

On a side note:

I´d like to give a huge hug to the person who posted that tweet. She didn´t tag me and I will not tag her because she has been through enough already by defending my blog post and herself.  And of course a Thank You to the person who sent me the screenshot via DM. Thank you. This is what book blogging should be about. Helping each other and standing up for one another. Because what hurts one of us can hurt another book blogger if we keep silent. Thank you, both.

 

On another side note: 

No book blogger should ever stay silent when they feel they´ve been wronged. Speak up. And if you´re not the type then get in touch with a fellow blogger. We don´t just write reviews. We´re a community.

This has been a long post. Much longer than I wanted it to be. My first thought was to dismiss this whole idea of standing up for myself. But I couldn´t. I could be helping others. I want to help others.

What I don´t want it to approach this subject ever again. It´s done. The joke is around the corner. It´s time to read and review and do other fun shit.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. If you belong to the people who were offended by my posts then do yourselves a favor- Don´t bother commenting. I don´t appreciate wasting my time discussing my crystal clear posts with you. I am not interested.

If you´ve been through the same situation or know someone who has dealt with something similar.. Feel free to share. I´d be more than happy to chat. ❤

 

Much love and don´t forget to share the book love,

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