Why I Suck At Picking My Next Book To Read

“I´m pretty good at picking books. I usually end up liking all the books I pick.”

This comes from people who´re actually good at picking their reads. They´re not lying.  They pride themselves on the fact that they have no trouble at all.

Well, this is me when even thinking about picking my next book.

 

 

And this is often my reaction after having read 70% of the books I chose to read.

 

 

You´ve guessed correctly- I suck at picking my next reads.

Unlike other people, I don´t have that special luck when picking my next reads. I gravitate more towards books that aren´t my cup of tea. At some point, I wondered if that´s my calling – To be THAT person who´s supposed to read books that aren´t satisfying.

Maybe a higher power saw me as a child and thought “She´s the one.”  * insert Robbie Williams song She´s the One *

Or perhaps karma has found a way to get back at me for having shaved my cats’ tail back in 1993 ( I had to in order to keep my cat apart from my brothers’ cat. It was just the tip. I swear, Mosby was okay with it ). It´s also possible I just don´t have the book picking talent.

Not too long ago I started thinking: What if this picking the next book has nothing to do with talent? What if all this isn´t my fault? But if I´m not the problem then who or what could be held accountable for my sleazy choices? ( don´t answer that )

Now, I bet you´re thinking that no one can possibly pick crappy reads all the time. I can already hear you telling me to read excerpts, the synopsis, or reviews.

I do inform myself before picking my next read. I probably inform myself more than others ever would. This is why I´ve come to some conclusions: Either…

 

  1. Authors don´t write good books anymore ( such a bold statement )
  2. It has something to do with the genre  ( doubtful )
  3. I´m the problem  ( * sigh * )

 

I don´t ask for much when it comes to romances or other genres. All I ask for is a well-balanced story. I welcome nearly all tropes and will put up with clichés. Trigger topics aren´t a problem. As long as there´s a good start with a normal paced story with great character development and a smooth ending. I don´t care if I get a standalone, a duet, a trilogy or whatever… as long as things are well balanced. Even first, second and third-person narrative isn´t an issue.

So, what´s the problem? Why am I having such a hard time finding books I enjoy when I´m clearly standing here with open arms?

 

 

Here´s what I think:

I´m a realistic person and also very vocal when it comes to sharing my feelings. I get technical a lot and spend my time analyzing stuff. Things that tend to put a damper on my reading mojo.

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How on earth does one close a fist? Isn´t a fist a closed hand? This is something I can cling to forever. WHY does a fist need to be closed when it´s already closed, you know? By the way- The book I spotted that in ended up being awesome.

 

So, yeah. I´m the unlucky book picking schmuck who approaches new book releases like a cat would a bath.

 

 

 


 

Is there anyone else with this problem? How good are you at picking your next read? Let me know in the comments below. I´d love to chat. ❤

 


 

Thank you for spending the time to read my post. I hope you enjoyed.

 

XO´s

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Another Book Blogger Quit Book Blogging

 

The other week,  my ex-co-book blog-bestie contacted me on Messenger with this:

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” The fun times.”  she texted after sending me a poorly self-made banner we once used for our Facebook page. The fun times, indeed.

For those who don´t know- This isn´t my first Book Blog. I used to share one with 2 of my book besties years ago. Different interests were the reasons for us going our separate ways. To this day we´re still close as we were back during our glorious active book blogging years.

 

After her text, I called her ( to my shame – without considering the 9 hour time difference ). Because you don´t just send a random picture for no good reason, right? It´s been years since we´ve book blogged together and we don´t often talk about our first online baby. We did this time, though.

We talked about the fun times.

 

“We winged the crap out of everything,” she said.

 

How true. We didn´t have the slightest clue what we were doing but we made the most of it. We had a great laugh, as you´d have when going down memory lane. Then the laughter died down. We entered the phase of awkward silence. Then THE question was asked.

“So, how´s the blog doing?” Bah. How to answer that without killing the mood?

“It´s different,” I answered truthfully. “Things aren´t the way they used to be.”

It surprised me when she agreed. It surprised me, even more, when she announced she was quitting her book blog. When I asked her why she simply said:

 

“The community has become too vicious for my taste.” 

 

A sad statement coming from someone who´s so full of book blogging goodness. This woman is more than capable of running a successful blog. She has it down when it comes to mingling with the book crowd. Out of all three of us, she was everyone´s darling. Authors adored her. Our followers loved her. For her to call it quits is heartbreaking. But, I understood. After she unleashed the tsunami of other reasons upon me I couldn´t blame her for wanting to quit.

 

“Reviews seem to be worthless,” she said.  Sometimes they feel that way, yes.

“I´m doubting my posts.”   Oh, I can sing a song about that.

“I´m making my husband read my posts, to see if he thinks they´re offensive before I upload them. “    Uhm, okay. I´m not that at that stage yet.

“Book bloggers aren´t what they used to be.”  * nod *

“The hate is unreasonable.”  * choke, cough * Unreasonable is a nice word.

 

All this boiled down to one thing: Things have changed. It has yet to be revealed whether this is actually the case or if we´ve simply overstayed our welcome in the book community. The bottom line is- A book blogger is quitting for alarming reasons.

 

I´ll admit- Just like my book bestie, I doubt my posts. I don´t doubt my ability to create content. I doubt the way my posts will be perceived. But I´m not at that stage where I won´t want to upload my posts, yet. Who knows,… If I have to create more graphic notes I might decide to hang my blog on the nail.  My bestie never doubted her content. Not once did she say anything about not being sure about blog posts. She´s not the type. But then again, neither am I, and here I am… doubting things. This is understandable.

 

As for reviews feeling like a waste of time: I see her point. Reviews are pretty much the same as they´ve always been, though. It´s the lack of response to the reviews that´s changed. And this makes reviews seem worthless. Personally, I´m not too worried about feedback for reviews because a review will always be read at some point. Somewhere down the line someone will need an opinion and will stumble upon yours.

 

I had to laugh when the bestie said she´s been forcing her husband to read her posts. Even if the reason itself is sad, it´s such a comical moment picturing her husband´s face. I´ve never asked my husband to check my posts but I can understand why the bestie asked hers. She´s afraid of discriminating a bookish group/an author/anyone. It´s easy to step on people´s feet in 2019. All it takes is a misunderstanding. We´ve trained ourselves to care too much of what people think that it´s influencing our personalities and messing with our minds. We have to remind ourselves that it´s not our fault if someone doesn´t agree with us. 

Pissing someone off ( even for the stupidest reason ) can cause a hurtful online backlash. We don´t want to start a war over our opinions, thoughts, or ideas.

 

“I`m tired of having to defend my posts.”

 

As for the unreasonable hate… * sigh * Yeah, I´ve seen content being attacked for no good reason. Hell, I´ve seen these attacks become personal. Never would I´ve thought the bestie would be subjected to this behavior and crumble underneath it.

 

“At first I didn´t react. Ain´t gonna waste my time with people who don´t understand what they read. But when the hate added up I wasn´t able to sit here and let it happen. Who the fuck are these people and why do they have internet access?”

 

Oh, ain´t that the truth. I had an easy answer to her question- People who´re living in a state of constant frustration. I imagine these people being those cringe-worthy folks you see on Youtube in one of those public freak out compilations * shudders *.  Angry, yelling, at a loss for reasonable words, lacking the ability to be civilized over stupid shit.

 

I cannot begin to tell you how gutted I feel that a wonderful person felt the need to quit her passion because of a few special members of the book community.. Because of the unnecessary building negative feedback, my ex-co-blogger bestie deleted her book blog.

 

“The community has become too vicious for my taste.” 

 

In what universe is this okay? If anyone feels the need to quit then it should be because of not being able to invest enough time or other things.

I´m more than pissed that people claim to be passionate readers but can´t seem to read and understand a blog post.

 

Our phone call lasted an hour. The bestie felt liberated and I was ready to open up a bottle of wine.

Here´s a sad fact: I´ve seen quite a few fellow book blogger friends quit in the last few months because of the same reasons.

 


So, there ya have it. Another book blogger resigned. How sad to see someone leave.

 


 

I´m pretty sure this post will have some people´s panties in knots so I´m not going ask questions on what all your thoughts are. I´ve already been accused of being the reason why book bloggers are quitting. “It´s because of people like you…” Not into another round of that. This post wasn´t about me. It´s about a close friend of mine ( who happens to be my ex-co-blog bestie ) quitting her book blog because of the actions from fellow book bloggers. If you´d like to add something useful in the comments below then I´d be more than happy to get back with you.


 

Thank you for reading this slightly depressing blog post.

XO´s

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The Ultimate Spam Box Treasure Comment

It´s not easy to leave me speechless. I usually always have something to say when it comes to internet oddities or stupid crap. But this (!!!) takes the cake. This spam comment I received had the power to render me speechless. Like- I don´t even have it in me to come up with something to say, let alone think of a smart-ass come back.

I received a religious spam comment. A long-ass, record-breaking comment. Jesus Christ on a popsicle. I´ve never received anything like this before. This calls for a drink.

Are you ready for the ultimate spam box treasure comment? Apologies for not cropping the screenshots beforehand. You now know I play Two Dots in my spare time, that I have an unanswered Twitter notification and one unseen Youtube video. Yes, my alarm is always set. But hey- At least my phone is charged. That´s something that should be celebrated with… more wine.

PS- I don´t expect you to read everything ( or any of the below ). Just look at the length of this baby. Hot damn…


#1 And So It Begins

Jesus Spam 1

#2 There´s More

Jesus Spam 2

#3 You Might As Well Get Comfortable

Jesus Spam 3

#4 * HOLDING BREATH *

Jesus Spam 4

#5 Fun Fact – I Can Roll My Tongue

Jesus Spam 5

#6 What? We´re Already Done?

Jesus Spam 6


Incredible, right? I´m flashed. And that was one single comment.

My deepest apologies for the single spam comment feature. I figured the size would count for 6 usual spam comments.


Thank you for reading / not having read all the above.

I hope you have a wonderful bookish day.

Sending out lots of book love and virtual chocolates.

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How Many Books Fit In A Small Hardshell Suitcase?

Remember all my little reminder posts about me going to the RARE´19 London book signing? Well, I thought it was time to organize a suitcase. To my utter shame, I don´t own a medium or small suitcase. When I travel, it´s usually with a duffle bag, backpack or a larger sports bag ( I apparently like to carry shit ).

As I was complaining to my bestie about having to buy a suitcase for my 24 hour London trip ( that´s right. I´m flying in Saturday morning and flying back out Sunday morning ) she mentioned I could use hers.

 

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The signing isn´t due for another few weeks. I didn´t need to get the suitcase right away. But I kind of did. I´m at an author signing event with 150 authors. There´s a high possibility I´m coming home with books. So, I need to plan things out.

 

How many books am I able to fit into a small hard-shell suitcase?

 

First, let´s look at the suitcase I´ll be traveling with. The idea is to fly in with a nearly empty suitcase and fly back with hopefully something that doesn´t weigh more than 20-ish kilos.  The object at hand:

 

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The size looks fairly decent, right? And it´s pink. It´ll be easy to spot at the luggage belt.  It was time to start my experiment. Sloppy Book Tetris:

 

OPTION #1

 

 

10 semi-large books ( and a hoodie ). 400-500+ page books with a few 280-page books thrown in.  To say I was surprised would be an understatement. Hell, I thought I wouldn´t be able to fit any inside. Not bad. Not bad, at all. ( excuse my purse in the background )

 

OPTION #2 

 

 

15  230+ page novels ( and a hoodie ) fit in the small hard-shell suitcase  ( excuse the remote control in the right pic ).

 

And the best part? I still have a little room for 1-3 books with either option! I think I got this book luggage down.

So, to answer the question in the title- 10 large paperbacks and 15 thinner novels ( give or take a few ) fit in a small-sized hard-shell suitcase. That, and a hoodie AND a small vanity bag I stole from my daughter ( because I don´t have one of those, either ).

In case anyone has questions about packing a suitcase for a book signing… Just ask me. I feel like a damn pro now.

That´s it for today, my dear book-loving people. I hope this was somewhat helpful and less boring. We´ll talk about this again when it´s due day and I´m in full panic mode.

 

Feel hugged and loved,

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This Book Blog With Have Info-Labels From Now On

`On A Kind Note…`

 

Sometimes a little reminder can´t hurt. Starting now, these little notes will be included in every blog post ( reviews not included ).

I´m aware that these reminders take the fun out of book blogging but it seems they´re necessary for those who refuse to see a blog post for what it is – A blog post.

 

KR1

 

KR2

 

KR3

 

KR4

 

 

 

And last but not least….

 

GTK1

 

GTK2

 

A total buzz-kill, I know. But as I said… Some people need a reminder, or they simply cannot exist in a word without little labels.


Did I miss anything? Do I need to include more? Let me know in the comments below. I´m open to new suggestions or additions.  


 

Feel hugged and share the book love,

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