My Book Blogger Deal Breakers

Be kind.

Be respectful.

Be humble. Be fun. Be yourself because no one else can. The sky´s the limit. Book blogging is just a small area in a niche that´s overwhelmingly large so make the most of it. I preach this. What I also preach is that every opinion matters. You have something to say? Go for it.

What´s the worst a book blogger can do, am I right? Worst case scenario: A book blogger will hunt you down and beat you with a hardcover.

Turns out that wouldn´t be the worst thing a book blogger could do. The reality is- Book bloggers have a sneaky, quite dangerous power and their weapons are opinions and words.

Words sting and once said, can’t be taken back. People don´t forget words because they´re our form of communication and our brains register negativity better than anything else. But what the hell am I talking about?! Book bloggers are wonderful humans. Some just forget to be respectful and kind and humble. Some haven´t the slightest clue when to distance themselves from the internet. All they know is that they have an opinion and couldn´t care less if their opinion is nasty or inappropriate. Because it´s okay to share your thoughts. * face palm *

Absolutely mind-boggling for me. I was once told that an Aquarius is a humanitarian. I´m an Aquarius. They supposedly have a deep sense of justice and fairness. They don´t do petty shit. Normally, I don´t believe in zodiac signs but I have to say- Those traits fit my bill. Many things become deal breakers for me because I can´t stand injustice. Being petty is for me the lowest of all lows. For me- disrespect within the book blog community is a deal-breaker. Some things can be forgiven but other things- Things some book bloggers do or say are unacceptable.

You may have your opinion but think before you act as you never know what kind of impact your opinion will have on others and yourself. Trust me when I say I hate to unfollow a book blogger. But I will if shit hits the fan.

Alas! My top book blogger deal breakers. The things that make me remove myself from other book blogger maps.


#1 Deal Breaker

LGBT Hate. “I don´t like to read M/M or F/F romances.” It´s not nice to see this line in a book blog post in 2019 but it happens. Fine, don´t like a M/M romance. What´s worse, though, is when someone gives a 2K word explanation. “I´d wish authors would stop trying to shove gays down my throat. I´d wish people would stop wanting me to accept homosexuality. I belong to a minority but I am not afraid to share my opinion. Authors need to include LGBT in their warning labels.”
Jesus Christ. We got the picture.

Whether this is your opinion or not- Does this need to be shared? This says a lot about a person. In no way, shape or form do I want to be associated with people who hate on others for their sexual orientation. Although I´m all for speaking your mind freely, I can´t stomach this unnecessary hate towards human beings. To ask for LGBT warning labels is going too far in this time and age. Mention this little tidbit in the synopsis but not as a warning label. This is a huge deal-breaker for me.

#2 Deal Breaker

Publicly shaming others. I´m for giving every friendship a fair chance. I even give second chances when there´s a hiccup. But when things start to go downhill then you´ll see dust clouds where I once stood. I remember having a friendly convo about sex in romance novels with a befriended book blogger and in between she told me I was being unfaithful to my husband because I was “lusting” after fictional characters. * sigh * At first I thought this was a joke. I quickly found out the book blogger wasn´t joking because she mentioned in quite a few blog posts that I´m a shining example of why you shouldn´t read any romance novels with sex scenes as they lead to adultery. And adultery is a sin. * hangs head * Because adultery starts with a fantasy.

The book blogger had a few screws missing because who in their right mind would accuse someone of cheating when all they did was admire a well-written scene IN A BOOK?! Try to prevent that wildfire from spreading. Impossible. In the end, I had to live with the fact that missing-screws-lady and her dedicated following believed I was a sinner. This was a deal-breaker for me. I immediately cut off all ties and even avoided bloggers who followed that one book blogger. Don´t point your judgemental finger at me.

To this day, I check to see if a book blogger I want to follow follows missing-screws-lady.

#3 Deal Breaker

Queen Bee Book Bloggers. These are the book bloggers who like to set up their own etiquette and force it upon others. I was once involved in a conversation with a fellow book blogger about the importance of Queen Bees in the book blog community. “Someone has to call the shots.” This book blogger thought very highly of herself because she mentioned that she was the Queen Bee of all book blogger interactions and rules.

I´m not a bee. Neither are you. The book blog community isn´t a bee colony and book bloggers aren´t workers or drones. This is what I told her before I unfriended and unfollowed her.

Sadly, there are many book bloggers out there who think someone died just to leave them in charge. This is the type of book blogger I just know I won´t meet eye to eye with, despite our mutual love for books. Hierarchy doesn´t exist in the book blog community. Should you give the impression that you believe you have any kind of authority in this branch then you won´t gain me as a follower. And if I´ve been following you you can bet your ass I´m going to unfollow. I don´t like bossy people.

#4 Deal Breaker

Social Justice Book Blogger Warriors. Yeah, these folks won´t ever win any plus points from me. Ever heard of “No two persons ever read the same book.” ? Let´s say SJBBW and I read book X- A romance filled with fluff, hearts, and rainbows. I´ll bet my house and car on the fact that SJBBWs will hate the Hero and Heroine because the Hero is a “typical” guy and the Heroine doesn´t have that golden backbone a woman needs these days. Even if the MCs are portrayed as equals… it´s not enough. The Heroine has to be superior in order for SJBBWs to accept a romance. “It´s 2019. Authors need to stop hanging onto traditional relationships where the male lead is dominant.” * sigh *

What do these people expect when reading a stink normal romance? Want a badass Heroine? Go write your own damn book if you´re so God damn unhappy.

It´s pointless to start any discussion with SJBBWs because no matter how often you tell them traditional relationships in romances aren´t outdated and that they´re perfectly fine ( even IRL )… they´ll always find something to nag about. It´s a book. Get over it. Now, kindly fuck off. I will most definitely unfollow SJBBWs because their hate for the male population is too bogus.

#5 Deal Breaker

Sensitive Book Bloggers. These book bloggers are easy to spot as they´re the ones who´re constantly offended by minor actions. They´re also very unhappy and seem to have a hard time finding the beauty in many things. They feel the book world is against them. They create drama and attract drama. Thankfully, I don´t have to unfollow these book bloggers because I usually don´t follow them in the first place.

Now, don´t worry. Despite my enormous dislike of certain book bloggers, I still follow quite a few book blogs. Mainly the people who treat me with the same amount of respect I give. Because at the end of each day, it all comes down to acceptance, respect, and kindness ( along with interesting blog content ).

I´m also aware that I might come across as someone who´s super judgemental. I won´t deny that I question actions and ideas. If I´ve been treated with disrespect or have seen others being discriminated for no good reason I´ll react and handle the way I feel is best. If that means I´m judgemental then so be it.

You can have opinions and dislikes. Just offer these things without being a dick.


What are your deal breakers? Do you have any? Let me know what they are ( if you have any ) in the comments below. I´d love to chat. ❤


Thank you for reading this blog post. I totally appreciate it. Hope you enjoyed.

Have a wonderful day.

Much bookish love,

Morgana

Becoming A Bilingual Book Blogger

English. French. German. Spanish.

 

The languages I speak fluently. I guess this can be blamed on the fact that I live here, in Germany. How I would love to blame this on ( what I lovingly nicknamed to be ) the “European curse”. Everything´s so multicultural here that it´s impossible to speak just one language. It´s not the curse, though. I´m a cultural mutt who happens to have a knack for speaking languages.

“You should become a translator!”, they said when I first started applying for jobs. Back then, I couldn´t have thought of anything more boring than translating. Now, I kind of regret not having gone that route. To be able to speak four languages does have its perks. It comes in handy when going on vacation, watching TV shows in OT, etc. But with perks also come downfalls: Out of the four languages, I´ve only mastered the art of writing in two. English ( which is my native language ) and Spanish. German and French? Not so much, if at all. So, that´s my personal burden. This explains why I only blog in English – Why I only read English written books.

Just recently, I started to dabble into German romances. Never, not even in my wildest dreams, did I believe I´d pick up a romance written by a German romance author. I mean, why would I? The language is hard enough as it is to speak. Reading a German romance novel would take me months, or so I thought.

Since I´ve been spending lots of time in bookstores lately ( gotta support your local bookstore ) I´ve been noticing lots of new romance releases by German authors squished in between translated novels by American writers. Which is great for German readers. It´s nice to see the niche branching out over here and not just in the U.S and U.K.

 

German romance writers are stepping up their game.

 

It was only a matter of time before I´d stop before one of the German romance titles. One thing I´ve noticed was:  German romance novels definitely know how to grab someone´s attention with their covers. Bright colors and great contrasts with fun elements ( glitter, metallics, prints ). Personally, I feel like the Germans have visual book marketing down to a T. You can´t walk past a beautiful book cover (s).

I began to think. What if I started to read a German romance novel? But then a little voice inside my head reminded me that I´d only be reading a German book, not reading & reviewing it. Because I´m a total disaster when it comes to writing anything in German. The book blogger in me wants to review everything I read, though. It´s become a second nature for me to give feedback. How weird would it feel to only read and not review, especially for a new release?

So, I asked my husband. He´s German. He´d be able to help me with my feedback, right? “I think I want to write reviews in German.”, I started. The look on his face said more than he did. “Please, don´t.”, was his reply. I couldn´t help but laugh at his horrified expression. “I´m serious. I think it wouldn´t hurt to try. Maybe you can spell-check my reviews before I upload them.” 

After a short, panicked discussion ( hubby was panicking, not me ) he agreed to help me out. We agreed on one German book review per month. That´s more than acceptable for me. If I´m honest, I don´t think I´d be capable of doing more.

So, that´s it. The start of a new chapter in my book blogging career. A new challenge. I can officially call myself a bilingual book blogger now. Even if the majority of my book reviews will be in English, I´ll have one German review each month to offer.

Do I have any doubts about my new blog feature? Kind of, yes. I´m normally a confident person. I´m nowhere near confident when I even think about writing in a different language, though. Maybe what I´m feeling isn´t self-doubt. Maybe it´s just a weird sense of excitement for the unknown. Something like being nervous in a positive way. Who knows what´ll happen. I might end up filing for a divorce after the first review. Perhaps I´ll slay the German review thing. Whatever will happen, I´ll be prepared.

 


 

What about you? Do you speak more than one language? If so, which ones do you speak? Do you blog in a different language? Let´s chat. ❤


 

Thank you so much for reading this blog post. I hope you enjoyed.

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Morgana

 

Why I Suck At Picking My Next Book To Read

“I´m pretty good at picking books. I usually end up liking all the books I pick.”

This comes from people who´re actually good at picking their reads. They´re not lying.  They pride themselves on the fact that they have no trouble at all.

Well, this is me when even thinking about picking my next book.

 

 

And this is often my reaction after having read 70% of the books I chose to read.

 

 

You´ve guessed correctly- I suck at picking my next reads.

Unlike other people, I don´t have that special luck when picking my next reads. I gravitate more towards books that aren´t my cup of tea. At some point, I wondered if that´s my calling – To be THAT person who´s supposed to read books that aren´t satisfying.

Maybe a higher power saw me as a child and thought “She´s the one.”  * insert Robbie Williams song She´s the One *

Or perhaps karma has found a way to get back at me for having shaved my cats’ tail back in 1993 ( I had to in order to keep my cat apart from my brothers’ cat. It was just the tip. I swear, Mosby was okay with it ). It´s also possible I just don´t have the book picking talent.

Not too long ago I started thinking: What if this picking the next book has nothing to do with talent? What if all this isn´t my fault? But if I´m not the problem then who or what could be held accountable for my sleazy choices? ( don´t answer that )

Now, I bet you´re thinking that no one can possibly pick crappy reads all the time. I can already hear you telling me to read excerpts, the synopsis, or reviews.

I do inform myself before picking my next read. I probably inform myself more than others ever would. This is why I´ve come to some conclusions: Either…

 

  1. Authors don´t write good books anymore ( such a bold statement )
  2. It has something to do with the genre  ( doubtful )
  3. I´m the problem  ( * sigh * )

 

I don´t ask for much when it comes to romances or other genres. All I ask for is a well-balanced story. I welcome nearly all tropes and will put up with clichés. Trigger topics aren´t a problem. As long as there´s a good start with a normal paced story with great character development and a smooth ending. I don´t care if I get a standalone, a duet, a trilogy or whatever… as long as things are well balanced. Even first, second and third-person narrative isn´t an issue.

So, what´s the problem? Why am I having such a hard time finding books I enjoy when I´m clearly standing here with open arms?

 

 

Here´s what I think:

I´m a realistic person and also very vocal when it comes to sharing my feelings. I get technical a lot and spend my time analyzing stuff. Things that tend to put a damper on my reading mojo.

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How on earth does one close a fist? Isn´t a fist a closed hand? This is something I can cling to forever. WHY does a fist need to be closed when it´s already closed, you know? By the way- The book I spotted that in ended up being awesome.

 

So, yeah. I´m the unlucky book picking schmuck who approaches new book releases like a cat would a bath.

 

 

 


 

Is there anyone else with this problem? How good are you at picking your next read? Let me know in the comments below. I´d love to chat. ❤

 


 

Thank you for spending the time to read my post. I hope you enjoyed.

 

XO´s

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Another Book Blogger Quit Book Blogging

 

The other week,  my ex-co-book blog-bestie contacted me on Messenger with this:

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” The fun times.”  she texted after sending me a poorly self-made banner we once used for our Facebook page. The fun times, indeed.

For those who don´t know- This isn´t my first Book Blog. I used to share one with 2 of my book besties years ago. Different interests were the reasons for us going our separate ways. To this day we´re still close as we were back during our glorious active book blogging years.

 

After her text, I called her ( to my shame – without considering the 9 hour time difference ). Because you don´t just send a random picture for no good reason, right? It´s been years since we´ve book blogged together and we don´t often talk about our first online baby. We did this time, though.

We talked about the fun times.

 

“We winged the crap out of everything,” she said.

 

How true. We didn´t have the slightest clue what we were doing but we made the most of it. We had a great laugh, as you´d have when going down memory lane. Then the laughter died down. We entered the phase of awkward silence. Then THE question was asked.

“So, how´s the blog doing?” Bah. How to answer that without killing the mood?

“It´s different,” I answered truthfully. “Things aren´t the way they used to be.”

It surprised me when she agreed. It surprised me, even more, when she announced she was quitting her book blog. When I asked her why she simply said:

 

“The community has become too vicious for my taste.” 

 

A sad statement coming from someone who´s so full of book blogging goodness. This woman is more than capable of running a successful blog. She has it down when it comes to mingling with the book crowd. Out of all three of us, she was everyone´s darling. Authors adored her. Our followers loved her. For her to call it quits is heartbreaking. But, I understood. After she unleashed the tsunami of other reasons upon me I couldn´t blame her for wanting to quit.

 

“Reviews seem to be worthless,” she said.  Sometimes they feel that way, yes.

“I´m doubting my posts.”   Oh, I can sing a song about that.

“I´m making my husband read my posts, to see if he thinks they´re offensive before I upload them. “    Uhm, okay. I´m not that at that stage yet.

“Book bloggers aren´t what they used to be.”  * nod *

“The hate is unreasonable.”  * choke, cough * Unreasonable is a nice word.

 

All this boiled down to one thing: Things have changed. It has yet to be revealed whether this is actually the case or if we´ve simply overstayed our welcome in the book community. The bottom line is- A book blogger is quitting for alarming reasons.

 

I´ll admit- Just like my book bestie, I doubt my posts. I don´t doubt my ability to create content. I doubt the way my posts will be perceived. But I´m not at that stage where I won´t want to upload my posts, yet. Who knows,… If I have to create more graphic notes I might decide to hang my blog on the nail.  My bestie never doubted her content. Not once did she say anything about not being sure about blog posts. She´s not the type. But then again, neither am I, and here I am… doubting things. This is understandable.

 

As for reviews feeling like a waste of time: I see her point. Reviews are pretty much the same as they´ve always been, though. It´s the lack of response to the reviews that´s changed. And this makes reviews seem worthless. Personally, I´m not too worried about feedback for reviews because a review will always be read at some point. Somewhere down the line someone will need an opinion and will stumble upon yours.

 

I had to laugh when the bestie said she´s been forcing her husband to read her posts. Even if the reason itself is sad, it´s such a comical moment picturing her husband´s face. I´ve never asked my husband to check my posts but I can understand why the bestie asked hers. She´s afraid of discriminating a bookish group/an author/anyone. It´s easy to step on people´s feet in 2019. All it takes is a misunderstanding. We´ve trained ourselves to care too much of what people think that it´s influencing our personalities and messing with our minds. We have to remind ourselves that it´s not our fault if someone doesn´t agree with us. 

Pissing someone off ( even for the stupidest reason ) can cause a hurtful online backlash. We don´t want to start a war over our opinions, thoughts, or ideas.

 

“I`m tired of having to defend my posts.”

 

As for the unreasonable hate… * sigh * Yeah, I´ve seen content being attacked for no good reason. Hell, I´ve seen these attacks become personal. Never would I´ve thought the bestie would be subjected to this behavior and crumble underneath it.

 

“At first I didn´t react. Ain´t gonna waste my time with people who don´t understand what they read. But when the hate added up I wasn´t able to sit here and let it happen. Who the fuck are these people and why do they have internet access?”

 

Oh, ain´t that the truth. I had an easy answer to her question- People who´re living in a state of constant frustration. I imagine these people being those cringe-worthy folks you see on Youtube in one of those public freak out compilations * shudders *.  Angry, yelling, at a loss for reasonable words, lacking the ability to be civilized over stupid shit.

 

I cannot begin to tell you how gutted I feel that a wonderful person felt the need to quit her passion because of a few special members of the book community.. Because of the unnecessary building negative feedback, my ex-co-blogger bestie deleted her book blog.

 

“The community has become too vicious for my taste.” 

 

In what universe is this okay? If anyone feels the need to quit then it should be because of not being able to invest enough time or other things.

I´m more than pissed that people claim to be passionate readers but can´t seem to read and understand a blog post.

 

Our phone call lasted an hour. The bestie felt liberated and I was ready to open up a bottle of wine.

Here´s a sad fact: I´ve seen quite a few fellow book blogger friends quit in the last few months because of the same reasons.

 


So, there ya have it. Another book blogger resigned. How sad to see someone leave.

 


 

I´m pretty sure this post will have some people´s panties in knots so I´m not going ask questions on what all your thoughts are. I´ve already been accused of being the reason why book bloggers are quitting. “It´s because of people like you…” Not into another round of that. This post wasn´t about me. It´s about a close friend of mine ( who happens to be my ex-co-blog bestie ) quitting her book blog because of the actions from fellow book bloggers. If you´d like to add something useful in the comments below then I´d be more than happy to get back with you.


 

Thank you for reading this slightly depressing blog post.

XO´s

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The Ultimate Spam Box Treasure Comment

It´s not easy to leave me speechless. I usually always have something to say when it comes to internet oddities or stupid crap. But this (!!!) takes the cake. This spam comment I received had the power to render me speechless. Like- I don´t even have it in me to come up with something to say, let alone think of a smart-ass come back.

I received a religious spam comment. A long-ass, record-breaking comment. Jesus Christ on a popsicle. I´ve never received anything like this before. This calls for a drink.

Are you ready for the ultimate spam box treasure comment? Apologies for not cropping the screenshots beforehand. You now know I play Two Dots in my spare time, that I have an unanswered Twitter notification and one unseen Youtube video. Yes, my alarm is always set. But hey- At least my phone is charged. That´s something that should be celebrated with… more wine.

PS- I don´t expect you to read everything ( or any of the below ). Just look at the length of this baby. Hot damn…


#1 And So It Begins

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#2 There´s More

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#3 You Might As Well Get Comfortable

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#4 * HOLDING BREATH *

Jesus Spam 4

#5 Fun Fact – I Can Roll My Tongue

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#6 What? We´re Already Done?

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Incredible, right? I´m flashed. And that was one single comment.

My deepest apologies for the single spam comment feature. I figured the size would count for 6 usual spam comments.


Thank you for reading / not having read all the above.

I hope you have a wonderful bookish day.

Sending out lots of book love and virtual chocolates.

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