Be humble. Be fun. Be yourself because no one else can. The sky´s the limit. Book blogging is just a small area in a niche that´s overwhelmingly large so make the most of it. I preach this. What I also preach is that every opinion matters. You have something to say? Go for it.
What´s the worst a book blogger can do, am I right? Worst case scenario: A book blogger will hunt you down and beat you with a hardcover.
Turns out that wouldn´t be the worst thing a book blogger could do. The reality is- Book bloggers have a sneaky, quite dangerous power and their weapons are opinions and words.
Words sting and once said, can’t be taken back. People don´t forget words because they´re our form of communication and our brains register negativity better than anything else. But what the hell am I talking about?! Book bloggers are wonderful humans. Some just forget to be respectful and kind and humble. Some haven´t the slightest clue when to distance themselves from the internet. All they know is that they have an opinion and couldn´t care less if their opinion is nasty or inappropriate. Because it´s okay to share your thoughts. * face palm *
Absolutely mind-boggling for me. I was once told that an Aquarius is a humanitarian. I´m an Aquarius. They supposedly have a deep sense of justice and fairness. They don´t do petty shit. Normally, I don´t believe in zodiac signs but I have to say- Those traits fit my bill. Many things become deal breakers for me because I can´t stand injustice. Being petty is for me the lowest of all lows. For me- disrespect within the book blog community is a deal-breaker. Some things can be forgiven but other things- Things some book bloggers do or say are unacceptable.
You may have your opinion but think before you act as you never know what kind of impact your opinion will have on others and yourself. Trust me when I say I hate to unfollow a book blogger. But I will if shit hits the fan.
Alas! My top book blogger deal breakers. The things that make me remove myself from other book blogger maps.
#1 Deal Breaker
LGBT Hate. “I don´t like to read M/M or F/F romances.” It´s not nice to see this line in a book blog post in 2019 but it happens. Fine, don´t like a M/M romance. What´s worse, though, is when someone gives a 2K word explanation. “I´d wish authors would stop trying to shove gays down my throat. I´d wish people would stop wanting me to accept homosexuality. I belong to a minority but I am not afraid to share my opinion. Authors need to include LGBT in their warning labels.”
Jesus Christ. We got the picture.
Whether this is your opinion or not- Does this need to be shared? This says a lot about a person. In no way, shape or form do I want to be associated with people who hate on others for their sexual orientation. Although I´m all for speaking your mind freely, I can´t stomach this unnecessary hate towards human beings. To ask for LGBT warning labels is going too far in this time and age. Mention this little tidbit in the synopsis but not as a warning label. This is a huge deal-breaker for me.
#2 Deal Breaker
Publicly shaming others. I´m for giving every friendship a fair chance. I even give second chances when there´s a hiccup. But when things start to go downhill then you´ll see dust clouds where I once stood. I remember having a friendly convo about sex in romance novels with a befriended book blogger and in between she told me I was being unfaithful to my husband because I was “lusting” after fictional characters. * sigh * At first I thought this was a joke. I quickly found out the book blogger wasn´t joking because she mentioned in quite a few blog posts that I´m a shining example of why you shouldn´t read any romance novels with sex scenes as they lead to adultery. And adultery is a sin. * hangs head * Because adultery starts with a fantasy.
The book blogger had a few screws missing because who in their right mind would accuse someone of cheating when all they did was admire a well-written scene IN A BOOK?! Try to prevent that wildfire from spreading. Impossible. In the end, I had to live with the fact that missing-screws-lady and her dedicated following believed I was a sinner. This was a deal-breaker for me. I immediately cut off all ties and even avoided bloggers who followed that one book blogger. Don´t point your judgemental finger at me.
To this day, I check to see if a book blogger I want to follow follows missing-screws-lady.
#3 Deal Breaker
Queen Bee Book Bloggers. These are the book bloggers who like to set up their own etiquette and force it upon others. I was once involved in a conversation with a fellow book blogger about the importance of Queen Bees in the book blog community. “Someone has to call the shots.” This book blogger thought very highly of herself because she mentioned that she was the Queen Bee of all book blogger interactions and rules.
I´m not a bee. Neither are you. The book blog community isn´t a bee colony and book bloggers aren´t workers or drones. This is what I told her before I unfriended and unfollowed her.
Sadly, there are many book bloggers out there who think someone died just to leave them in charge. This is the type of book blogger I just know I won´t meet eye to eye with, despite our mutual love for books. Hierarchy doesn´t exist in the book blog community. Should you give the impression that you believe you have any kind of authority in this branch then you won´t gain me as a follower. And if I´ve been following you you can bet your ass I´m going to unfollow. I don´t like bossy people.
#4 Deal Breaker
Social Justice Book Blogger Warriors. Yeah, these folks won´t ever win any plus points from me. Ever heard of “No two persons ever read the same book.” ? Let´s say SJBBW and I read book X- A romance filled with fluff, hearts, and rainbows. I´ll bet my house and car on the fact that SJBBWs will hate the Hero and Heroine because the Hero is a “typical” guy and the Heroine doesn´t have that golden backbone a woman needs these days. Even if the MCs are portrayed as equals… it´s not enough. The Heroine has to be superior in order for SJBBWs to accept a romance. “It´s 2019. Authors need to stop hanging onto traditional relationships where the male lead is dominant.” * sigh *
What do these people expect when reading a stink normal romance? Want a badass Heroine? Go write your own damn book if you´re so God damn unhappy.
It´s pointless to start any discussion with SJBBWs because no matter how often you tell them traditional relationships in romances aren´t outdated and that they´re perfectly fine ( even IRL )… they´ll always find something to nag about. It´s a book. Get over it. Now, kindly fuck off. I will most definitely unfollow SJBBWs because their hate for the male population is too bogus.
#5 Deal Breaker
Sensitive Book Bloggers. These book bloggers are easy to spot as they´re the ones who´re constantly offended by minor actions. They´re also very unhappy and seem to have a hard time finding the beauty in many things. They feel the book world is against them. They create drama and attract drama. Thankfully, I don´t have to unfollow these book bloggers because I usually don´t follow them in the first place.
Now, don´t worry. Despite my enormous dislike of certain book bloggers, I still follow quite a few book blogs. Mainly the people who treat me with the same amount of respect I give. Because at the end of each day, it all comes down to acceptance, respect, and kindness ( along with interesting blog content ).
I´m also aware that I might come across as someone who´s super judgemental. I won´t deny that I question actions and ideas. If I´ve been treated with disrespect or have seen others being discriminated for no good reason I´ll react and handle the way I feel is best. If that means I´m judgemental then so be it.
You can have opinions and dislikes. Just offer these things without being a dick.
What are your deal breakers? Do you have any? Let me know what they are ( if you have any ) in the comments below. I´d love to chat. ❤
Thank you for reading this blog post. I totally appreciate it. Hope you enjoyed.
Have a wonderful day.
Much bookish love,