Book Shaming A Reader

 

“She read books as one would breathe air, to fill up and live.” –

Annie Dillard in The Living

A beautiful quote fitting for most book lovers. There´s just something magical about reading. Whether it´s a romance, horror, Young Adult or a fantasy novel… There´s always magic waiting to reach our hearts and minds.

The other day I had a lovely chat with a fellow book blogger about books. We covered everything book related. At some point, I asked about her current read. She refused to tell me.

 

“I´d rather not say.”

 

What?! I mean, come on. We´re not sharing intimate secrets with each other. I don´t want to know how many people you´ve buried in your backyard. It´s just a book. When I asked why she answered with this:

 

“Because you´ll just make fun of me.”

 

My actual response

 

If the book blogger knew me better she´d have known I don´t judge people´s reading tastes. Never have and never will. I would never want to make any reader feel guilty for the books they read or the genres they enjoy.

It was clear someone must have done this or else the book blogger would´ve been more forthcoming with the book title.

The book blogger, a grown woman, was shamed after mentioning her favorite books-The Twilight Saga – in an online book group. Book lovers book shamed a book lover?

 

 

I´ll admit, I don´t have the hots for the Twilight books. I read them. I saw the appeal. I never belonged to the fan brigade, though. I even watched the movies ( which weren´t my cup of tea, either ). But does that give me the right to shit on someone´s favorite books? Absolutely not. Anyone who comes to my house and takes a good look at my bookshelf will see the Twilight Saga– all four books. So?

I read 50 Shades of Grey because I was told the sex in the books was out of this world ( I´m a HUGE fan of book sex ). I ended up actually liking the story. Shit on my reading tastes, for all I care- It doesn´t change the fact that the story wasn´t the worst that´s ever been published.

90% of the books I read are considered worthless by all sorts of self-proclaimed book experts because they´re not ” proper literature “.

 

 

When someone mentions a book or a genre I´m not a fan of then I won´t shame them. Instead, I´ll just think  “Oh, so she/he likes vampire romances/smut/whatever. That´s interesting“. Because that´s just what it is- Interesting. Different people, different tastes.

 

It´s the fact that you´re reading that´s important. Not the book or genre.

 

 

From what I´ve gathered, many book people like to hold the “You´re not a true bookworm if you haven´t read…” card in people´s faces. I´m sorry, but YOU DO NOT have to read Jane Austen´s books or Kafka´s works in order to call yourself a proper bookworm. You´re still one if you stick with modern novels only. YOU READ an old ham when and if you feel like it.

This really ticks me off because the emotional damage these people cause is unbelievable.

There are popular and less popular books and book genres. Romance is the least popular book genre ( yet it´s the most profitable ). Knowing that will not keep me from reading romances. I do not read certain books for the sake of wanting to belong.

 

“Fools have a habit of believing that everything written by a famous author is admirable. For my part, I read only to please myself and like only what suits my taste.”

– Voltaire

 

If your passion is YA fiction then I´m more than happy to share the excitement with you, even if I´m not as passionate about the genre as you are. The same applies to every other genre or book.

Book shaming is such a shameful act. How highly these book people must think of themselves when they attack someone´s reading tastes. And how little they know about the effects their words have on others.

To people who book shame…

 

 

My hope for the future is that the book community finds a way to respect one another and their reading choices. This book-universe can be such a beautiful place if we all allow it to be.

After a while, the book blogger FINALLY revealed the book title she didn´t want to share.

House of Salt and Sorrows by Erin A. Craig. A YA, fantasy retelling.


 

Dear book people,

Book shaming is toxic. It doesn´t need to happen. Instead of judging someone´s reading taste we should be celebrating the fact that we share the same passion- Reading books.

 


What about you? Have you been book shamed before? Do you know someone who´s been book shamed? Let me know in the comments below. I´d love to chat. ❤

 


Thank for reading my blog post. I truly appreciate it.

Much book love,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Book Review: My Life In Shambles – Karina Halle

When Valerie Stephens made the resolution to say yes to new adventures, she never thought she’d end up in the tiny town of Shambles, fake engaged to one of Ireland’s top rugby players. But there’s a first time for everything.

They say bad things happen in threes.

After my boyfriend broke off our engagement, I lost my apartment, and was laid off from my job, I can definitely attest to that.

They also say life is what happens when you say yes to new adventures.

So when my two sisters invited me to ring in the new year in Ireland, I decided to throw all caution to the wind and go for it. I was going to let “saying yes” be my new resolution.

Little did I know I’d spend New Year’s Eve having a hot and dirty one-night stand with Padraig McCarthy, one hell of a sexy Irishman. I also didn’t know that the brooding and intense sex god was one of Ireland’s top rugby players.

A rugby player with a proposition for me:

Come with him to his tiny hometown of Shambles and pretend to be his fiancé for a few days, just so that his ailing father can have some peace of mind.

It sounded simple enough.

It was anything but.

Not when a town gets up in your business, not when the media hunts you down, not when your past comes back in the picture, not when there are real hearts and feelings at stake.

Not when there are secrets that could break you.

They say life is what happens when you say yes to new adventures.

This is my life in Shambles.


Hmm… * scratching head * I guess you could say this is the type of book that takes on a completely different route than one would expect.

`My Life In Shambles by author Karina Halle is a 350 page standalone romance that gives you all feels, even the ones you didn´t necessarily ask for.

To be honest- I´m a little torn about this book. I loved the romantic side of it but I didn´t necessarily enjoy the overall depressing vibes it gave off. My Life In Shambles is sort of a tragic romance. Heavy topics such as illness and death weigh the story down. It´s hopeful but not hopeful enough if that makes any sense?

There´s absolutely nothing wrong with the story. It´s a story well told. The writing was great. I can´t even complain about the characters. It´s just that I wasn´t looking for this type of romance.

I bought My Life In Shambles thinking I´d get something different… something maybe about life as a fake fiance of a rugby player, trying to keep her wits together while dealing with his lifestyle. Well, that´s almost what a reader gets… Only with additional gloom darkening the newly couple´s lives.

 

My Thoughts In A Nutshell…

 

Its me, not the book. The book is fine. The story is great. I just not something I´d drop everything else for as this type of story isn´t what I usually enjoy reading.

 

Would I recommend this book? I would.

Would I reread this book? Probably not.

 

The Cover – 3 Stars:  It´s cute.

The Story – 3 Stars:  Meeh. It wasn´t for me.

The Characters – 4 Stars: I actually enjoyed the MCs and even the sub-characters.

My emotional state after finishing this read – Indifferent.

 

 

If you think `My Life In Shambles` by author Karina Halle would be something you´d enjoy then click here and get a copy!

 

 

My Thoughts on Lit Chat: A Conversation Starter About Books

The solution for a successful bookish-eventful evening!

 

Here´s the deal- I love having book chats. I love having book chats until I drop. Because these types of chats are so informative and fun. There are so many topics one can talk about.

Well, my dear book-loving bunch… Normal book conversations are great but there is something out there that has the potential to spice these conversations up a bit.

May I present to you Lit Chat: Conversation Starters About Books & Life !

 

You´ve probably already seen or heard about this Q&A card set from Book Riot. But have you actually bought one of these little conversation starters? I admit I was so curious that I took the risk and bought it.

In all honesty? This is such a cool bookish thing to have.

 

 

Each of the 50 cards in this conversation deck is printed with two reading-themed questions (100 questions total). Some invoke books that are tied to memories (name your favorite childhood picture book); others prompt you to choose ideal reading material for a hypothetical situation (if you were stranded on a desert island, what book would you want with you?). Some of them aim to get people comparing their favorite (and not-so-favorite) characters or authors, and others engage in popular debates amongst readers (name a movie adaptation you liked and defend your choice). Created to give readers of all persuasions an excuse to talk about books, ideas, and life itself, this deck is a great addition to any booklover’s shelf.

Description taken from Amazon.com

 

 

There are 4 categories divided by color, each offering fun, interesting and engaging book related questions. And trust me- there are enough questions for one evening in this bundle.

 

Just perfect for when friends are over!

 

This Q&A set also works beautifully for book bloggers! Want to start a fun book discussion on your book blog? Just pick a card and start writing! Seriously, it works. I´ve done it.

This also makes the perfect gift for book friends.

And the best part of all? It´s affordable. ( I think I paid 10 Euros ).

If you´re looking for something to make those book chats a little more alive then I suggest you get Lit Chat. It´s not necessarily something everyone needs in their lives but definitely, a nice thing to have at home for yourself, or as a gift for others who´d appreciate something book related.

Just thought I´d get that out there.

Sounds random, I know.

But it´s cool. I swear.

Bah, I have to leave or else I´ll sound even more awkward. ( * mumbling to myself * should´ve typed up that one review post instead of doing this )

Have a good one, book loves!

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Book Blogger I Am

I guess it´s time…

For countless weeks I´ve been yapping about making blog changes. Well, I can proudly announce that I´m one step closer to the blog I want to be. A blog that represents me visually. A blog that supports my purpose as a book blogger much better.

After already making subtle changes I decided it was time to upload my blog header. This was without a doubt the most nerve-wracking part of my apocalyptic blog make-over. Why? Well, I´m showing my face. And I don´t mean I´m using a pic of me with sunglasses or an image of me taken from a 2-kilometer distance. I´m talking about ” Here´s my face.” So, without further ado… Here´s my new book blog header image.

Am I happy with the new header image? Absolutely. Even if I had my doubts in the beginning.

There´s a positive and negative side to revealing one´s face on the internet.

The pros

  • I´m not a complete faceless voice anymore. My followers now know who they´re following.
  • A face gives the opportunity to connect on a different level.

The cons

  • My followers/blog visitors can and will judge my appearance before they judge my blog content.

Even if the pros outweigh the cons, it´s the cons that can make blog life a challenge.

I´ve thought long and hard about putting my face on my blog header. At first, I was advised to do it. My internet guru friends convinced me it was the best approach.

You´re not selling books. You´re selling yourself.“, they said ( sounds a little like prostitution. * sigh * Oh well ). I agree. As a book blogger, it´s my opinion I´m sharing. I´m not a business owner who can advertise and connect my business with objects. It makes sense for a Café to have an image of a cup of coffee in its header. It makes sense for a barber to show scissors & combs/a mirror/products in a header image. That´s somehow a given. The visuals help to drive the point home.
But what about book bloggers? We don´t have much to work with, to begin with. From what I´ve seen, many book bloggers go for typical graphics or ideas. A stack of books, books & a mug, an open book, cartoon self-images… Which is perfectly fine. I´ve never had anything against what fellow book bloggers use for their blog headers. Whatever works, am I right?

That´s my problem- None of the typical images used by others felt right for me. I don´t have a flashy style and I don´t classify as any type. The natural thing to do was to think about who I am and what I can bring to the book blogger table.

That´s when it dawned on me that I have nothing spectacular to offer aside from my opinions. My words are my tools. I work with my tools. So, it made sense to me to include my face in the header image. Keeping things simple is the way to go for me.

The biggest challenge will be having to deal with additional judgments ( should there be any ). It´s one thing when someone judges a book blogger´s opinions. It´s another thing when you give people one more reason to judge something about you.

I´ve heard quite a few bloggers talk about the hate they receive for their appearances. Online hate for the stupidest things is real. Do I want to add more online hate to my plate? 2019 wasn´t the kindest book blog year for me, and that was without my picture. I guess we´ll have to see what happens in 2020.

As uneasy as this topic has made me feel, I don´t feel uncomfortable enough to not upload a header with my face on it. I´m all for giving new things a try. Should this book blog header image bug the crap out of me then I´ll just change it. Nothing is set in stone.

My idea was to use a header that represents me, my book blog and the content I have on my blog. No pink flowers or butterflies, stars, cartoon self-images, coffee mugs, books, or overly wild and/or cool designs could ever do that for me. What you see is who I am. The everyday me. The book lover who´s constantly tired. The 37-year-old book blogger who loves to wear hoodies 24/7 ( comfort is everything, y´all ). The book blogger who´s just your everyday plain Jane with strong opinions.

Me. The book blogger.


That´s it for today, my dear book-loving-tribe. I hope you enjoyed. If not then at least I hope any part of this blog post made sense.

Before I go I´d like to know:

How did you pick your book blog header ( or blog header in general )? What was your thought process behind your choice? Are there blog header images you love/like/dislike? Let me know in the comments below. I´d love to chat ❤


Many bookish hugs,

Book Review: Credence – Penelope Douglas


From New York Times bestselling author Penelope Douglas comes a new standalone…

Tiernan de Haas doesn’t care about anything anymore. The only child of a film producer and his starlet wife, she’s grown up with wealth and privilege but not love or guidance. Shipped off to boarding schools from an early age, it was still impossible to escape the loneliness and carve out a life of her own. The shadow of her parents’ fame followed her everywhere.

And when they suddenly pass away, she knows she should be devastated. But has anything really changed? She’s always been alone, hasn’t she?

Jake Van der Berg, her father’s stepbrother and her only living relative, assumes guardianship of Tiernan who is still two months shy of eighteen. Sent to live with him and his two sons, Noah and Kaleb, in the mountains of Colorado, Tiernan soon learns that these men now have a say in what she chooses to care and not care about anymore. As the three of them take her under their wing, teach her to work and survive in the remote woods far away from the rest of the world, she slowly finds her place among them.

And as a part of them.

She also realizes that lines blur and rules become easy to break when no one else is watching.

One of them has her.

The other one wants her.

But he…

He’s going to keep her.
*Credence is a new adult standalone novel suitable for readers 18+.

If Credence, by author Penelope Douglas, was a movie then it would most definitely be a porn. Since Credence is a book ( not a movie ) I´m going to flat out say that this is an adventurous rated – R, polyamorous romance that touches many delicate bases ( what a way to describe a story ).

Credence is fun. It´s exciting. It´s unpredictable at times. It´s one of those romances that´ll get you all hot and ready!


What I absolutely loved about this book…

  • The beginning. Let´s face it- There are books that have a shitty start. This book belongs to one of the few that begin interesting. A 17 year old who had been neglected for most of her life becomes an orphan. Tiernan ( Heroine ) ends up leaving home ( and fame ) to live with a step-uncle in the Colorado mountains. Tiernan goes from one extreme environment to the next. I liked this type of start a whole lot because I was able to predict so many outcomes for the story… which none happened.
  • The characters. I loved Tiernan´s character development. There was a lot of strength and growth on her part.
  • The sex. Hands down- I´m a fan of graphic scenes.
  • The age gap. I do love me some good ol´ age disparity.
  • The ending. Although I wasn´t completely knocked out of my socks I still liked the way the story wrapped up.

Sounds great, right? If only there weren´t those pesky little things that I didn´t appreciate so much…

  • As much as I adored the graphic scenes I wasn´t able to warm up to the foursome thing. I´m not against polyamorous relationships but the idea of having such relations with “family” members was not easy to digest. Step-uncle and step-cousins? I´m aware that there wasn´t a blood relation involved but it still screwed with my mind a little ( possibly because I have quite a few step-family members myself and refuse to see them as anything but family )
  • Kaleb. One of the “cousins”. I felt his character didn´t receive as much spotlight. I would´ve loved more scenes with him just to be able to connect a little more.

But this is just me being picky. In the end, the only thing that matters is that I really enjoyed this book. I mean- What´s not to enjoy? Three possessive mountain men ready to give a neglected girl some attention.


Would I recommend this book? I sure would. Readers who love raunchy romances are in for a real treat with this one.
Would I reread this book? Probably.


The Cover: 5 Stars – It´s really pretty. Love the color theme.
The Story: 4 Stars – Everything was spot on except for that little bit I mentioned above.
The Characters: 5 Stars – I have no complaints what-so-ever.

Be sure to grab yourself a copy of Credence by Penelope Douglas!