Terrible Book Conversations I´ve Had

 

In an ideal world, we´d be able to talk about books and our conversation partners would respond exactly the way we´d want them to respond.

Curious. focused. Interested. And above all – willing to engage in a pleasant exchange. Much as the way we behave when someone mentions books.

We don´t live in an ideal world, though. And we don´t always have the opportunity to have great book chats at parties, coffee meet-ups, dates, etc. Which is sad. What´s there not to love about book talk? There are so many book-related topics one can discuss. Cover art/design, story, editing, Kindle Unlimited, Kindles, genres… You can chat about what book topic you like. There are no limits.

I´ve had my fair share of book conversations over the years. Some were great. Some were questionable. But all in all, I´ve had a decent amount of memorable bookish téte-á-tétes. And as it is with everything else in life – The negative often stands out best.

I´m an extroverted book person. I love to hang out with the people who curse themselves my family and closest friends. I love people and I enjoy meeting new people.

What I don´t love is to have conversations about blogging or reading. Why? Because more often than not I have bookish discussions with non-readers, with self-proclaimed intellects, worldly people and… with my mother. I’m a very patient and open-minded person. But certain discussions can literally drive me bonkers.

Alas, here are a few much-hated book/blog conversations I´ve had in the past years.

 


#1 `You… blog?` – with an emphasis on `you`

You´d laugh at this if you knew how many times people have said that too me. Usually, people say this with a confused and/or amused look on their faces. As if the concept of me blogging is totally bogus. At first, I thought it was because I don´t necessarily look like a blogger. But then again – What does a book blogger look like? I have the proper attire ( comfortable clothes and a mug permanently attached to my hand ) and I certainly have the unrequired qualifications. Is it because of my wrinkles? It´s true that the years haven´t been too kind to me but still… Is it an age thing? Or is it just me in general?

 

 

I feel a little bummed when people approach me with this because it kind of makes me feel out of place.

” Yes, I´ve been blogging for years.”, is what I usually reply with and quickly switch the topic. It´s not that I´m ashamed of blogging and don´t want to talk about it. I most certainly am not ashamed of what I do in my spare time. I just don´t want to make the situation more awkward than it already is.

 

 

 

#2 `Romance novels?!` – spoken in a high pitched tone

Yes, I read romance novels. I blog about romance novels. The shame. THE SHAME. * insert dramatic voice *

Look, I´m fully aware that the romance genre isn´t that popular. Not everyone can stomach so much fluff. I don´t blame anyone who doesn´t like romances because I truly know how difficult they can be. Love is complicated sometimes and people would rather like to lose themselves in something with a little more excitement. I get it. But that doesn´t mean others can´t enjoy romances. The most popular ( and most hated for me ) things people say to me during discussions are:
” You don´t strike me as the type who reads romances.” Your people reading skills have failed you this time, huh?
” I never knew you were the romantic type.” Oh, just shut up already. I don´t need to be romantic if I want to read a romance novel.
“Are romance novels still a thing?” Who invited you to this party?!

Then there´s the audible reaction- Laughter. As if the genre´s a joke. Weeeell, it´s just as much of a joke as any other genre, I can assure you. Ask me how amusing I find the battleship that was in your last book.

This is something I don´t like.

 

 

 

#3 `I thought you only read romance novels`

 

 

No. I never said I only read romance novels. I may blog about romances and read lots of romance novels but my tastes go in all directions, honey. You just made your own assumptions. You may get over the shock now because this isn´t a shocking moment. It shouldn´t be.

I understand that small talk often doesn´t give opportunities to get to know someone better. If those people had listened carefully, though, they´d have known I read anything that sounds remotely interesting. Fantasy, horror, thrillers, YA, contemporary romances, biographies… My bookshelves aren´t decorated with one genre only.

This is a clear case of I-was-only-half-listening-and-picked-up-one-word-to-hang-onto. Which is fine. But it´s annoying when people lock you in a lane and call it a day. Romance reader = reads romances 24/7. This might fit someone else´s bill but not mine.

 

 

 

#4 The `Why` Questions

 

  • Why do you blog for free?
  • Why do you read so much?
  • Why not blog full time?
  • Why put up with everything?

 

Sometimes a book/blog conversation makes it to the next step. This means that your conversation partner was interested and wants to know more. They start throwing more questions your way. This is a tricky step because in most cases the conversations change from light to melancholic. Because the answers you give don´t make any sense to them.

I´m blogging for free because I just don´t make any money. This concept is alien for someone when they find out your hobby can be compared to a full-time job. If I´d give my hobby enough attention then yes… I would feel the need to want to get paid, too. But I don´t so…

I read so much because I love to read. Again, this is something someone who doesn´t blog or doesn´t like to inhale books won´t always understand. “I like to read, too, and you don´t see me reading 2 books a week.” I know, buddy. I know. Let´s meet for coffee so I can give you a complete rundown on why I read so much.

As to why I don´t blog full time: I love blogging but I don´t love it enough to make it my daytime job. Truth be told- I´d be a miserable schmuck if I had to do this during the day. Besides, I love my part-time day job. I also need something where I´m able to distance myself from the virtual world. As much as I love to sit here and chat with you all I do need human contact once in a while.

Why do I put up with everything? By this they mean going online, writing reviews, hanging out on social media, chatting with authors, bloggers and friends, dealing with positive and negative feedback, etc. I do this because- Why the hell not? Why do people do what they do? Beats me. But if it brings them any type of happiness then that shouldn´t be questioned.

I can tell by the looks on people’s faces when they think I’m wasting my time with my hobby.

I don´t mind the `Why` questions. It´s just that, for me, it feels like I´m justifying book blogging and reading, and that´s what I don´t like. No matter what I say they´ll never understand so I avoid the next step questionnaire at all costs.

 

 

 

#5 `That´s not a proper book.` – My mother said.

I love my mother to bits. We´re nothing alike but we get along wonderfully. I´m the super mellow version of the atomic bomb that is my mom. So, you can imagine how different our reading tastes are? They´re worlds apart, and even that´s too close.

Sometime during my teenage years, my reading tastes changed. I began picking up comics and short stories. I don´t remember what possessed me back then to show my mother my newest purchase but I did and that earned me one of the most horrifying discussions I´ve ever had, including a painful 1997 powerpoint presentation on the books she deems worthy of being called proper reads.

A traumatizing experience for me. I didn´t like the book she challenged me to read. To this day my mother tells me I don´t read proper books when she overhears a book convo between me and my brother. The last book that wasn´t proper according to mom? `Political Correctness Gone Mad ` by Stephen Fry, Jordon Peterson, Michael Eric Dyson, and Michelle Goldberg. Oh, but the Laura Ingalls Wilder books are?!

I know many people who think someone´s reading history isn´t what can be considered proper literature. I mean, okay. Fine. You do you and more power to you. But don´t tell me or anyone else what´s proper and what´s not.
I have the “That´s not a proper book” conversation at least twice a year with mom.

 

 

 

 

#6 `You read too much.´

One of the few moments that have me coughing, gasping and sputtering- When someone just pulls out the `You read too much` card. The nerve. As if it´s a terrible thing to read a lot. Well, for some people, I´m sure reading is horrible. But I like to read. Telling me I read too much is like telling me I blink too often. Huh? Say what? Please, repeat that. And they will. Even with so much confidence that it makes you question them:
“Yeah, you read too much. You need to get out more and live. See the world and stuff.”

 

 

Aah, now I get it.

It wouldn´t help to explain that by reading I am seeing a world- One an author has created. I am living when I read- I live the lives of many characters.

But these people mean reality. Okay, I can do reality, too. So I start telling them this:
“It´s all about time management. I can get out, live, see the world and STILL read a lot.”

* Sigh *

 

 

#7  `Book blogging isn´t a real hobby`

Okay, one could argue over that. Some people think book blogging is a hobby. Some think it´s work. I think it depends on the blogger and how they treat book blogging.  I don´t continue any discussions on this topic because it´s pointless.

So, book blogging isn´t a hobby. What can be considered a hobby? A hobby is an activity done regularly in one´s leisure time for pleasure. Book blogging doesn´t fall into that category? Do I need to take tennis lessons so I can say I have a hobby? Horse riding? How about collecting stamps?

When someone says book blogging isn´t a hobby I would like for nothing more than to have a strong drink.

 

 


 

Thankfully, not everybody I talk to says these things or reacts shocked or appalled. Sometimes I have wonderful book conversations with people who are genuinely interested in my hobby. Sometimes a book convo will end with:

“I think what you´re doing is really cool.”  Thank you.

I live for these moments. It´s not often when someone thinks I´m actually doing something useful ( aside from my “real” hobbies, of course ).

Here´s to many more terrible book conversations!

 


 

What about you? Have you had terrible book discussions at parties or with friends? What was your best / worst book talk? Let me know in the comments below. I´d love to chat. ❤


 

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I hope you enjoyed.

 

Much bookish love,

 

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Book Review: Tara Road – Maeve Binchy

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With each new book, Maeve Binchy continues a remarkable progression of sales and audience growth, reaching fans of all ages and backgrounds with her matchless wit, warmth, and sheer storytelling magic. “Tara Road,” her first full-length novel since “The Glass Lake,” again shows her incomparable understanding of the human heart in the tale of two women, one from Ireland, one from America, who switch lives, and in doing so learn much about each other, as well as much about themselves.Ria lived on Tara Road in Dublin with her dashing husband, Danny, and their two children. She fully believed she was happily married, right up until the day Danny told her he was leaving her to be with his young, pregnant girlfriend. By a chance phone call, Ria meets Marilyn, a woman from New England unable to come to terms with her only son’s death and now separated from her husband. The two women exchange houses for the summer with extraordinary consequences, each learning that the other has a deep secret that can never be revealed.

Drawn into lifestyles vastly differing from their own, at first each resents the news of how well the other is getting on. Ria seems to have become quite a hostess, entertaining half the neighborhood, which at first irritates the reserved and withdrawn Marilyn, a woman who has always guarded her privacy. Marilyn seems to have become bosom friends with Ria’s children, as well as with Colm, a handsome restaurateur, whom Ria has begun to miss terribly. At the end of the summer, the women at last meet face-to-face. Having learned a great deal, about themselves and about each other, they find that they have become, firmly and forever, good friends.

A moving story rendered with the deft touch of a master artisan, “Tara Road” is Maeve Binchy at her very best — utterly beautiful, hauntingly unforgettable, entirely original, and wholly enjoyable.


 

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When Oprah´s book club recommends a book you better get your wallet ready to buy the book. Or, that´s what I believed.

Turns out that not everything Oprah´s Book Club recommended is worth gold.

`Tara Road` by author Maeve Binchy is a sophisticated version of what I´ve been reading for years- Women´s fiction. Tara Road

I have many things to say about this book. None of which I feel would be helpful because this is one of those reads a reader truly has to experience for themselves.

What I will say is that I was smitten with the writing.

 

The writing is beautiful – The story less so. 

 

I can´t really say why but I was bored senseless with the story. The whole thing wasn´t gripping enough to hold my attention for longer than an hour at a time.  It took me almost a month to finish this 648-page read. A month!!

I´m also a little disappointed ( after having invested so much time reading ) with the way the story ended. * shaking head * What a shame. The end was like a sweaty lukewarm, barely-there handshake.

Oprah disappointed me this time, y´all.


 

Would I recommend this book?  Yes. I know many people who loved `Tara Road`. My guess is that many more will probably love this book, too. It´s basically a chick-lit with a dash of everything I never knew I didn´t enjoy.  This book wasn´t for me.

Would I reread this book? No.


 

The Cover – 3 Stars:   A painting cover image… This isn´t something that would make me drop whatever I´m doing, you know?

The STory – 2 Stars:   The synopsis sounded a lot better than the story actually was.

The Characters – 2 Stars:   They felt as helpless and hopeless as the story felt.

My emotional state after finishing this read –  Tired.

2 stars

 

You can purchase `Tara Road` by author Maeve Binchy on Amazon.com

50 Days Until RARE ´19 London

Only 50 days left until RARE ´19 London!

 

Hard to imagine that in only 1200 hours I´ll be hopping from one author table to another with my two trusty book chicks.

The last time I posted a milestone post was when we hit the 100 days mark. There, Brina @Brina And The Books and I talked about our unicorn authors and who else we´re looking forward to meeting at the author signing.

This time my book bestie and I teamed up again to reveal our preparations for the event.

 

It´s been kind of a back and forth with this author signing event for me. The first thing I had to secure were tickets- The rest will be a piece of cake. A piece of triple fudge cake with extra chocolate sprinkles.

So what have I been doing to prepare for this event?

Normally, I´m the type of person who has all the time in the world until no more time is left. Then I run around like a headless chicken and panic. This time is different, though. I´m going in P.R.E.P.A.R.E.D. Because I´d like, for once, for things to happen smoothly. I don´t want to encounter any bumps along the way. My grand plan? A Check List.

 

 

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Tickets for the event: 

Flight:  

Hotel: 

Get my hair done:

List for Unicorn authors:

 

 

Those are my essentials. My must-haves or else why bother. The tickets were the first thing we purchased. Then we went ahead and marked all the authors we´re dying to see ( the list is real, y´all ). Since I travel a lot I always have power banks in a bag so there won´t be a problem with that. Comfy shoes are a MUST HAVE. a) I´m in London. I´ll be putting some miles behind me. b) I´ll probably be standing most of the time at the event.

Then there´s the issue with my hair. Does anyone remember what Madonna looked like back in the ’80s? Yeah. That´s what I have. I´ve been married to my flat iron ( or straightener ) since I stopped ironing my hair with a clothes iron.

 

 

madonna
Nope. 

 

 

Money has been an issue ever since the tickets were bought. How many books do I want to buy? How many can I afford? How many books can fit in my suitcase? Do I need 2 suitcases or a suitcase and carry-on? An extra duffle bag? This is why I decided I won´t buy more than 10 books at the event. 1 book costs about 10 smackers. Ten is a good limit, I think. Besides- I just can´t carry more than 10 books, including my own luggage, around with me.

The flight: In preparation for my flight I had to think long and hard about what I wanted. I´m flying in from Germany. That´s a 1.5-hour flight. To fly in early on Friday or late? I have no flipping clue. All I know is that I have to get my butt in gear or else I won´t be able to get a flight at all.

Don´t get me started with a hotel room. I have yet to book a place to stay at.

 

 

My inner 20-year-old is having a field day knowing I´ll be without my kids and husband for a few days! * sigh * It´s been so long since I had a moment for myself. So, the RARE weekend will be a whole other experience on so many levels for me.

From what´s been posted in RARE´s social media groups some authors are offering pre-order books for the event. I´ve decided against this for a few reasons:

 

  1. Sometimes books don´t arrive with the authors and that can lead to an author not having books to sell/to have the pre-ordered books with them. I´ve seen this happen.
  2. I like the unknown. I´m that type who likes to talk to an author and ask them questions

 

I need a romance with relatable characters. Preferably characters that are close to 30 years old. Do you have that? You don´t? Then pick a book you´re most proud of and I´ll buy it.” ( of course, I only do this with authors I´m not well acquainted with) This isn´t just about wanting to read books and have those books signed. I´m at RARE to support authors as well.

A little chat gives me and the author the opportunity ( in 5 minutes) for book talk and maybe the casual small talk. I tried this at the Berlin ´17 signing and it worked beautifully.

I also won´t be taking any books to the event to have signed because… Well, it wouldn´t make sense for me.

To sum this up- I´m going into this signing half prepared, wearing sweats and sneakers, sporting fashionable era-appropriate hair to see my favorite authors and meet one ones. What an impression I´ll make, huh?

To see what my book babe Brina@Brina And The Books has done to prepare for RARE London ´19 just click here. I promise she´s much better at this preparation thing than I am ( because I´m like a total loser with these things )

 

Okay, I guess that´s it for now. Until next time, my dear bookish Padawans.

Sending you much love,

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Hello August.

Hot damn! Time seems to fly by quicker than I thought it would. It´s August, my beloved bookish squad.

Instead of doing a book cover post, a monthly recap post or something heavily book related but I decided not to get too bookish this time. No. I want to welcome you all and the beginning of the new month by letting you in on something personal. Something that could possibly cost me a few followers. An insider joke, if you will. Okay, it´s not much of an insider joke when I´m the only one who knows about it ( and also finds it amusing as hell ) but hey… It´ll be fine. Don´t worry, a book is involved so this post won´t be completely bookless. All in the name of books, right?

I want to share what I found on one of my late-night searches for book covers.

 

 

For this to make any sense I think it would be wise to start with a little personal fun fact.

My husband. He´s a wonderful guy. We´ve been together for 19 years ( married 14 years ). What I love most about him are the many quirks he has. You know, the stuff people do that seem odd sometimes. That and his non-existent humor ( bless him for trying, though ).

Well, there´s something I call the “Stefan pose”. It´s where he stands like he´s preparing to analyze something. Hands on hips and a serious stare. Much like this:

 

Stefan
A most recent Stefan Pose

 

Don´t waste your time trying to figure out what he´s analyzing. He´s looking at a waterfall. There were no ancient drawings or signs to read. * sigh * I´ve learned it´s best to let him do his thing. Don´t ask questions.

Well, he does this all the time. No matter where we are, who we´re with… He´ll whip out that move unintentionally. I have this type of pic for every vacation we´ve been on.

Okay, so now you know about the `Stefan Pose`. It´s time to get to my private joke.

The other night I was looking for specific book covers for upcoming posts. I stumbled upon a gem that had me laughing all night. I´m talking a hysterical laughing fit with tears and hiccups. I usually laugh this intense when I watch comedies or favorite movies ( Christmas Vacation- The squirrel scene ). When I saw this book cover I just couldn´t.

 

 

Best Book Cover pose!! Like Stefan
The `Stefan Pose` on a book cover!!

 

 

Do you see it? Do you?!

Ever since I spotted that cover I cannot unsee the bogus image of my husband playing a part in what looks like a romance novel. My husband. Stefan. In a romance novel.

 

 

I don´t think I´ll ever get over this.

 

Yes, I´m fully aware that there´s a huge possibility that you don´t find this funny. I have a very odd sense of humor sometimes. My deepest apologies. I can be weird.

Before things can get any weirder I think it would be best if I logged off for the day.

I hope you enjoyed this little personal tidbit. If not, just leave me a comment below. I´m not sure I´ll be able to justify my humor but I´ll see what I can do to make up for this weird welcoming post for August.

 

Sending out lots of bookish love.

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Thank The Books It´s Friday

Helloooo * insert sing-song voice*.

Welcome to another magnificent Friday. I hope you all are ready to kick back and relax because… you all deserve it.

I decided that this week´s weekend kick-off is going to be a little different. Sit tight, buckle up, my dear book-loving gang… My beloved followers and avid commenters. I´m about to unload a bunch of sap.

At first, I thought about baking you a cake. But then I remembered how apocalyptic my cake baking skills are ( I can screw up a Betty Crocker cake mix because I´m THAT special ). This is why I bought brownies. So, these are for you. A thank you for sticking around for so long and letting me torture you with some of my odd posts.

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Then I thought of other things that could show my appreciation. Things I would randomly give people who are nothing but kind, funny and supportive- Such as the dedicated bunch who follow me and show me through the comments that my posts aren´t for nothing. Thank YOU!

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But what good are brownies when I´m the only one eating them? I can´t share my brownies with you. What good are flowers when you all aren´t able to accept them properly?

It dawned on me that there´s nothing I could give you as a token of my appreciation for what you´ve given me. Which is sad. The internet and its ability to let us all communicate while we´re all scattered across the world is a blessing. But it does have one major downside – We´re all still worlds apart. This makes it harder for me to invite everyone over for a BBQ or meet for drinks. I´d like to return the love I´ve received in some form but… I can´t. Not really. So, you´ll have to do with a simple Thank You.

I know. That´s nothing special, either. But it´s all I have. Just my fat fingers holding up a sign. * sigh *

Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ Your comments made me smile. All your likes don´t go unnoticed and they´re much appreciated. ❤

Drew @The Tattooed Book Geek

Norrie @Reading Under The Blankie

Jonny @Jaunts & Haunts

Jess @No Fiction Chaser

eLPy @Little Face Publications

Inge @The Belgian Reviewer

Tetiana @Unbolt Me

Shannon @Spellbound Librarian

Marie @Marie´s Book Boutique

Christine @Purple Manatees

Davida @The Chocolate Lady´s Book Review Blog

Elizabeth @Lizs Book Buffet

Brina @Brina And The Books

Dini @dinipandareads

Deanna @A Novel Glimpse ( Deanna moved to – A Novel Glimpse )

Pooja @lifesfinewhine

Stefanie @The Magic Of Wor(l)ds

Ami @Luv To Read

Debby @alwaysbooking

Elaine @Elaine Howlin – Literary Blogger

Sara @The Bibliophagist

Jack @Book Reviews/ Jack´s Bedtime Reading

I´m sure I´ve forgotten quite a few avid commenters and blog post likers. I apologize deeply for not having mentioned you. I hope you feel just as included like the rest.

Also…

A huge THANK YOU goes out to all the new Morgana´s Book Box followers. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. If you want to know what this blog is all about I would kindly suggest you click Hello & Welcome instead of visiting the About Me. I haven´t included a read-worthy About Me yet * shamefully hiding face *. Although- I´ll probably update my About Me by the time you all see this, so… You´re welcome to take a look at either. ❤

Puuh. I guess that´s it.

Feel hugged. Feel loved. Know that you’ve made an impact. 💜

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