The languages I speak fluently. I guess this can be blamed on the fact that I live here, in Germany. How I would love to blame this on ( what I lovingly nicknamed to be ) the “European curse”. Everything´s so multicultural here that it´s impossible to speak just one language. It´s not the curse, though. I´m a cultural mutt who happens to have a knack for speaking languages.
“You should become a translator!”, they said when I first started applying for jobs. Back then, I couldn´t have thought of anything more boring than translating. Now, I kind of regret not having gone that route. To be able to speak four languages does have its perks. It comes in handy when going on vacation, watching TV shows in OT, etc. But with perks also come downfalls: Out of the four languages, I´ve only mastered the art of writing in two. English ( which is my native language ) and Spanish. German and French? Not so much, if at all. So, that´s my personal burden. This explains why I only blog in English – Why I only read English written books.
Just recently, I started to dabble into German romances. Never, not even in my wildest dreams, did I believe I´d pick up a romance written by a German romance author. I mean, why would I? The language is hard enough as it is to speak. Reading a German romance novel would take me months, or so I thought.
Since I´ve been spending lots of time in bookstores lately ( gotta support your local bookstore ) I´ve been noticing lots of new romance releases by German authors squished in between translated novels by American writers. Which is great for German readers. It´s nice to see the niche branching out over here and not just in the U.S and U.K.
German romance writers are stepping up their game.
It was only a matter of time before I´d stop before one of the German romance titles. One thing I´ve noticed was: German romance novels definitely know how to grab someone´s attention with their covers. Bright colors and great contrasts with fun elements ( glitter, metallics, prints ). Personally, I feel like the Germans have visual book marketing down to a T. You can´t walk past a beautiful book cover (s).
I began to think. What if I started to read a German romance novel? But then a little voice inside my head reminded me that I´d only be reading a German book, not reading & reviewing it. Because I´m a total disaster when it comes to writing anything in German. The book blogger in me wants to review everything I read, though. It´s become a second nature for me to give feedback. How weird would it feel to only read and not review, especially for a new release?
So, I asked my husband. He´s German. He´d be able to help me with my feedback, right? “I think I want to write reviews in German.”, I started. The look on his face said more than he did. “Please, don´t.”, was his reply. I couldn´t help but laugh at his horrified expression. “I´m serious. I think it wouldn´t hurt to try. Maybe you can spell-check my reviews before I upload them.”
After a short, panicked discussion ( hubby was panicking, not me ) he agreed to help me out. We agreed on one German book review per month. That´s more than acceptable for me. If I´m honest, I don´t think I´d be capable of doing more.
So, that´s it. The start of a new chapter in my book blogging career. A new challenge. I can officially call myself a bilingual book blogger now. Even if the majority of my book reviews will be in English, I´ll have one German review each month to offer.
Do I have any doubts about my new blog feature? Kind of, yes. I´m normally a confident person. I´m nowhere near confident when I even think about writing in a different language, though. Maybe what I´m feeling isn´t self-doubt. Maybe it´s just a weird sense of excitement for the unknown. Something like being nervous in a positive way. Who knows what´ll happen. I might end up filing for a divorce after the first review. Perhaps I´ll slay the German review thing. Whatever will happen, I´ll be prepared.
What about you? Do you speak more than one language? If so, which ones do you speak? Do you blog in a different language? Let´s chat. ❤
Thank you so much for reading this blog post. I hope you enjoyed.
” But the world is getting worse and I blame the beginning of it´s demise on social media.”
– Ricky Gervais
I bet you saw this one coming, didn’t ya? The Art Of `Live And Let live`. Folks, this is exactly what it is. A post about living and leaving others alone.
This is not a click bait.. For the record: I’m not a click bait book blogger so there will be none of that here.
Normally, I´d go ahead and give you a generalized post on my thoughts regarding the topic at hand. I´d throw in some pros and cons and provide some real examples and include my personal opinion. Not this time. I´ve something else in mind.
Stay factual. Stay realistic. Stay diplomatic. Try to stay neutral. That´s what I try to aim for when typing up my posts. For most of the time I reach my own standards. I don´t blog about books and book related topics to unleash hell onto others for the sake of personal pleasure. Why am I even telling you all this?
Well, something happened today. Something that had shocked me. I spotted a tweet on Twitter that hit close to home. And the weird part? It was about my blog post and what it did for other people.
Initially, I had not planned on publishing a post over the weekend. Now I feel like one has to go up. For many of you, this might sound so petty. So annoying. Trust me- I´m just as annoyed. Please bear with me, dear annoyed non participants. My fingers are crossed that this´ll find an end sooner than later. I have just as much important shit to do.
There has been talk regarding my blog posts. Mind you- this isn´t the first time someone disagreed with one of my posts. But it´s the first time I´m seeing a complaint done behind my back.
My life motto is
`Live and let live.`
Unfortunately, this concept is totally alien for many people, It´s easy to live and let live. It´s apparently more fun not to. This also applies for book blogging. Most of the time the things I see happening in the book community are fairly harmless ( by harmless I mean things that don´t have people sobbing in the fetus position at night ). A little bitching here, and a lot of nagging there. Most of the time I find this really great. Opinions are what get conversations rolling. You have an opinion on a topic and share it, even welcome other opinions? I´m in! What I don´t like is when things become personal.
By `live and let live`I´m saying accept what others do and move on. Respect a book bloggers opinion and continue with life as it was.
`Live and let live.`
Yeah. The offended book committee doesn´t share my life philosophy. They say they do but they don´t. Instead, these people make it their mission to keep my name within their radars. Because they were offended by one of my posts.
Which posts, you ask? What could be so awful that have people feeling all sorts of uncomfortable? Even feeling personally attacked?
Excuse me for not being a friend of finger pointing at book bloggers. You don´t post links from a book blogger and bash them in a group because you´re fucking unhappy. Have you no common sense?
A post about how unnecessary I feel it is to feel offended by the fakeness of Instagram. My personal opinion on this subject aside- I was told my post offended people. No one cared about my opinion. And it was a positive opinion. I was pro `live and let live`.
Here´s what happened: I was a new member of a Facebook book group and shared a post of mine. Keep in mind that I had been a member for only a short period of time before I shared a link to one of my blog posts. The first comment I received was from the admin.
” Just read some fucking books.” A sad response from someone I had only exchanged a few words with in a previous post ( she was moody there as well ). Practically a stranger. So, this is how we speak with group members now? I´m appalled by this attitude and behavior. We´re a book blog community. You can dislike my post but you are not allowed to be uncivilized. My post was clean. I had an opinion. Take it or leave it. Don´t tell me my post was offensive when in reality, you just didn´t like it. There´s a difference. See the difference.
I will not lie- this has been my top 2019 post so far. I´ve had dream worthy views ( and still counting ). I´m pretty sure the majority of the views on this post had been from the offended committee. Because, how dare I talk about a subject and publish my link in a group for book bloggers! Shame on me for trying to be a part of a group.
After that I left the group. Because I´m not stupid. Once an attitude, twice an attitude.. I´m not sticking around for round 3. So, I left. I dusted my hands off and moved on. Best decision I had in a long shot. Unfortunately for me, one group member followed me to my blog and thought it would be wise to continue what I ended in the group underneath one of my blog posts. One person hunted me down to give me a piece of her mind. Keep in mind- That pilgrim had her little moment in the group I posted my link in. She wasn´t done, though.
Turns out, I have no empathy because I don´t care about the feelings of others. My post was “harmful”. No, it wasn´t. This discussion was long done for me before the loyal book pilgrim followed me to my blog.
So, people who are offended by posts are allowed to post about their feelings and I am supposed to sit back and accept wordlessly? No. That´s wrong on so many levels.
Then there´s this gem of mine that has caused more than just a stir. This time more people were involved. This is the Twitter post I spotted. The post about my post. A fellow book blogger defended me on her Twitter page and ended up being blocked. Why? Because I published a post about
The title says exactly what´s in this post. I reveal the reasons why I don´t participate in book blog tours anymore. How can this be misunderstood for anything else? And this had the bush drums going in a book blogger group. Not sure if I should laugh, cry, feel flattered, be shocked…
The reasons have stemmed from my personal experiences. Things that have occurred in the span of my 10 year book blogging career. I have not, and will not reveal the names of these book tour organizers because they´ve retired 2 – 5 years ago.
Why has this post about my not participating in blog tours been written? What was my motive? Do I need one? No. But I´ll amuse everyone anyway. It felt right to share my experiences. I wanted to share my stuff and maybe help others even if it´s by showing them that they aren´t alone with this. What´s wrong with that? Should I have not posted about why blog tours don´t work for ME anymore? Should I have worded the whole thing differently just to have the approval of the offended party? No can do. That would go against my book blog religion.
“Some people just don´t care.”
Here´s something to think about:
What would happen ( after having read an experience post of mine ) if the offended person just sat down and asked themselves how this could have happened to a book blogger? The post is open for discussion. Why not get in touch and ask for details. Ask about specifics instead of feeling offended. Because that´s how it looks like from my end of the stick. “I´m offended. I feel attacked.” When it reality my post was never about others. Just me. What is there to feel offended about? Unless these people felt offended on my behalf. Which I highly doubt.
My experiences are my personal facts. You can have your opinion on my opinion but you can´t feel offended by something I´ve dealt with. That´s ridiculous. Unless you´re offended on my behalf. I still doubt that.
To sum this whole thing up:
Believe it or not- I wouldn´t publish anything I don´t like. Should someone feel offended by whatever banal post I deem worthy of publishing then there´s always the option of ignoring me.
It´s simple. If you´re not convinced then try it out for yourselves. It works wonders for me.
People, if you are not able to live and let live then at least try! Try for the sake of peace. You can have a good rant. Make a post out of the topic you want to rant about. Ranting is healthy. The behavior I´ve been unofficially subjected to ( because, technically, I haven´t seen the post in the actual Facebook group. Just saw the tweet and was informed by a blogger friend ) is a low form of confrontation. Behind my back. A questionable act against someone who can´t defend themselves because they´re not in the group anymore.
Here´s another thing to consider:
It was clear the person and I weren´t able to meet eye to eye from the start ( although I tried ). The most logical thing to do would be if both went on our merry ways. I did that. The other person didn´t. The fact that this person has been checking on my posts tells me the person is just waiting for something to feel offended about.
The person who targeted my post stated she had planned to comment on my post at first. She didn´t. I´m now grateful she decided against it. God knows how many more gray hairs I would have gained after a chitchat.
I am not interested in a discussion with this person anymore. Not now, not ever. Should this person reach out to me for whatever reason I will not react. I´ve reacted enough already. The offended parade is officially over. It´s time to move on.
Here´s a kind reminder for the future book blog community: Stop being fucking dicks.
And start working on social skills. Learn how to agree to disagree. Learn how to respect opinions. Learn to live and let live.
On a side note:
I´d like to give a huge hug to the person who posted that tweet. She didn´t tag me and I will not tag her because she has been through enough already by defending my blog post and herself. And of course a Thank You to the person who sent me the screenshot via DM. Thank you. This is what book blogging should be about. Helping each other and standing up for one another. Because what hurts one of us can hurt another book blogger if we keep silent. Thank you, both.
On another side note:
No book blogger should ever stay silent when they feel they´ve been wronged. Speak up. And if you´re not the type then get in touch with a fellow blogger. We don´t just write reviews. We´re a community.
This has been a long post. Much longer than I wanted it to be. My first thought was to dismiss this whole idea of standing up for myself. But I couldn´t. I could be helping others. I want to help others.
What I don´t want it to approach this subject ever again. It´s done. The joke is around the corner. It´s time to read and review and do other fun shit.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. If you belong to the people who were offended by my posts then do yourselves a favor- Don´t bother commenting. I don´t appreciate wasting my time discussing my crystal clear posts with you. I am not interested.
If you´ve been through the same situation or know someone who has dealt with something similar.. Feel free to share. I´d be more than happy to chat. ❤
Much love and don´t forget to share the book love,
So, I had an idea. Granted, it´s nothing outrageous but I thought it would be interesting to review my own blog. To see what worked really well and what didn´t, ergo: which posts received the most views in 2018.
I´m not normally interested in numbers and stats. I work with numbers all day so I´m not too keen on checking more out in my spare time.
I will say though that I was a little surprised when I reviewed my own blog the other day. Shocked, even. From all the posts I´ve posted last year the ones I thought weren´t worth it generated the most views. And then I realized that my blog had gone through a phase where reviews were more popular than discission posts and the other way around.
I´m not sure if this has something to do with specific books or authors, or if it has something to do with the right targeting, using the correct keywords, but it was definitely something to think about.
If I´d sit down and take my time to analyse everything ( which I won´t because I don´t have any nerves left ) I might get behind the actual reason as to why certain posts gained a nice amount of views and why others haven´t.
So, without further ado here are my most viewed posts in 2018.
The one topic I never thought would get attention was the Faleena Hopkins post. Dear pink fluff, that one sky rocketed and showed me numbers I haven´t seen in years. For some reason, I wasn´t too late for that gossip and thought I´d try to write a post about it. If only I were better at the gossip game….
The next surprise was the What Does A Book Blogger Do post. I never thought anyone would be interested in finding out what it is us common foot folk do. I guess I thought wrong.
And then the Religion In Romance Novels post. This one is very tricky as it didn´t generate lots of views on the day I posted it but it is the post with the highest views in 2018. To be honest- I wasn´t sure in the first place if I was doing myself a favor by posting an article on religion in romance novels. I don´t believe in God and was afraid of the backlash from religious fanatics. In hindsight, I´m glad I took that risk, though.
These posts were extremely fun but so exhausting to create. I bow before all the hotshots who do these posts all the time because I couldn´t. Not even for all the glorious views they´ve generated. I have a few more book cover trends posts I want to upload this year but the rest? I need to be in a good mood to create another 10 funny…. .
Reviews are a universe of their own. Sometimes you generate views with a popular book and sometimes you don´t. Sometimes an older book gets all the spotlight. That´s just the way it is. Many things have to be taken in consideration when it comes to romance reviews.
1) Romance is not the most popular genre ( it´s children´s fiction and fantasy, for those of you who wanted to know ). Statistics show that women´s fiction doesn´t sell as well as YA fiction, historical fiction and mystery / thrillers do. I´m not surprised and can live with this.
2) Views vary with the type of publishing. I´ve had more views for a world wide bestseller than I have had with the majority of my books from self published authors.
3) Timing is everything. From what I´ve noticed, the timing plays a crucial role when it comes to reviews. If I wanted for my blog to achieve something then I should be glued to my laptop screen minutes before release day or for any new reveals. This generates views. Strike while the iron is hot. But since I´m a lousy book release spy I end up reading and reviewing new releases much later and that generates less views ( for me ).
♥ July, August, November
And here I thought people would be on vacation and doing… vacation things instead of reading posts during the summer. I was wrong. November doesn´t surprise me, though.
Not bad considering how much I slacked. That´s roughly a post every other day.
All in all I can´t say 2018 wasn´t successful. And looking at how well some posts did I do think I have a better picture on what type of content works wonders for my blog and which don´t.
Have you reviewed your blog? Do you check your stats regularly? Let´s chat ❤
Thank you for reading. I hope you all have a wonderful day.