Book Review: Gay Girl, Good God by Jackie Hill Perry

“I used to be a lesbian.”

In Gay Girl, Good God , author Jackie Hill Perry shares her own story, offering practical tools that helped her in the process of finding wholeness. Jackie grew up fatherless, experienced gender confusion, and embraced both masculinity and homosexuality with every fiber of her being. She knew that Christians had a lot to say about all of the above. But was she supposed to change herself? How was she supposed to stop loving women, when homosexuality felt more natural to her than heterosexuality ever could?

At age nineteen, Jackie came face-to-face with what it meant to be made new. And not in a church, or through contact with Christians. God broke in and turned her heart toward Him right in her own bedroom in light of His gospel.

Read in order to understand. Read in order to hope. Or read in order, like Jackie, to be made new.

 

 

 

When I usually read books written by strong religious people I kind of know what I´m getting myself into. There are always parts I find utterly ridiculous. Interesting, but still nothing to take too serious. Gay Girl, Good God by Jackie Hill Perry is not one of those books I´d consider light or easy to digest. This isn´t a petty guide on how to be the super Christian or how to live your life the ridiculously God-honoring way. This book is a memoir about a woman who was once a lesbian until she was made new. Ergo- until she turned into a heterosexual by the likes of religion.

I´m at a loss for words. And I don´t think I´ll ever find the right words to describe my feelings for this memoir.

I´m not here to force my atheist agenda on anyone but this book is far from a pleasurable read. The author made some bold statements I just don´t agree with.

While written rather well, I also wasn´t able to understand the true purpose of her story. It was clear the author wanted to share her experiences and views but with what goal? To give others who´re struggling with sexual identity/life hope that if they´d turn their attention to God they´d be fine? Poof! You´re cured of homosexuality? Because that´s the message I got from reading this book. A life with God is a good life. Sure. I can float with that. But the indirect message- Nope.

Most important, though.. Do I want to pass this message forward? Do I want to direct struggling individuals towards God? I don´t think I want to. Which is why I won´t recommend this book. Gay Girl. Good God is an interesting and slightly disturbing memoir.

 

 

For those who still want to give this book a go… You can click here and get a copy on Amazon.com.

 

 

 

Book Review: Girl Defined – Kristen Clark & Bethany Baird

 

 

In a Culture of Distortions, Discover God-Defined Womanhood and Beauty

In a culture where airbrushed models and career-driven women define beauty and success, it’s no wonder we have a distorted view of femininity. Our impossible standards place an incredible burden of stress on the backs of women and girls of all ages, resulting in anxiety, eating disorders, and depression. One question we often forget to ask is this: What is God’s design for womanhood?

In Girl Defined, sisters and popular bloggers Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird offer women a countercultural view of beauty, femininity, and self-worth. Based firmly in God’s design for their lives, this book helps women rethink what true success and beauty look like. It invites them on a liberating journey toward a radically better vision for femininity that ends with the discovery of the kind of hope, purpose, and fulfillment they’ve been yearning for.

Girl Defined helps readers

– discover God’s design for femininity and his definition of a successful woman
– uncover the secrets of lasting worth, purpose, and fulfillment
– be equipped and empowered to live out a radically better vision for womanhood
– gain personal insight through the chapter-by-chapter study guide

 

 

 

Here we go again…

Another book from the radical Christian authors Kristen ClarkBethany Baird. Only this time I´ve decided to get myself my own copy ( since no one from my social circle has bothered to buy it yet ) and read more about true Christian values.

This isn´t me wanting to mock this particular group of fanatics. I have a genuine interest in other people´s beliefs, even if I find these beliefs to be bat-shit-crazy. ( just thought I´d get that out of the way before I continue )

So, after I read `Love Defined ` and having gone through one hell of an emotional hissy fit afterward ( read review here), I thought I´d give these fine authors another try. Everyone deserves a second chance, amirite? Have Kristen and Bethany published other books? Ha! They sure have.

`Girl Defined: God´s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity,  for example. The one I decided to purchase. I wanted to know what `God´s radical designs` were. 

I´ve tried my best to stay within the respectful boundaries with my thoughts on `Girl Defined` but can´t seem to find respectful words to describe the nonsense I´ve read. The only thing that comes to my mind is Jesus H. Christ.

The depiction of their ” God ” is a glorified schmuck. And these ladies apparently see themselves at the gateway to the Almighty. The advice given by these Christian fundamentalists in this book can be summed up in 4 points.

  1. Don´t have sex with anyone before marriage
  2. Equal rights are evil and should be banned from society
  3. Obey the male population. 
  4. To be a judgemental asshole is okay… As long as you´re a proper Christian

Do I find this helpful? I actually find this ridiculous. So much so that I had to call my mom ( who is a Christian, btw. Doesn´t share my nonreligious views but we were on the same page regarding this book ). How is it possible that there are people, especially women, who buy into all this? This book was designed to lure in innocent women into a cult.  This book has nothing to do with Christianity.

 

Bah, I´ve complained enough for now. It´s safe to say I won´t be giving these authors another go. I don´t think I´m able to handle more God´s word should always be above all shibaz.

I´m giving this sucker a solid…

 

 

Book Review: Love Defined: Kristen Clark & Bethany Baird

 

 

 

Our culture is obsessed with love and romance–so why are so few women experiencing satisfying, long-term love?

In this insightful and encouraging book, sisters Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird help single women of all ages discover a radically better approach to navigating their love lives. Covering topics such as true love, romance, purposeful relationships, purity, boundaries, singleness, and glorifying God in every stage of our relationships, Love Defined unpacks God’s original design for romance, showing modern women how to experience God’s best for them in their relationships. Full of biblical truths and step-by-step application of concepts discussed, the book also includes a chapter-by-chapter study guide to be used individually or in small groups, as well as four letters from godly women who have been married for 30, 40, and 50+ years, offering priceless, hard-won advice to single women.

 

Before I start with my thoughts I´d like to say that I LOVE when a question pops up in a book description. Just like the above:

” -so why are so few women experiencing satisfying, long-term love? “

I actually sit here with a hand that´s just itching to raise itself. Because I know the answer. Since I know my answer will be a lengthy one I´ll keep it to myself and focus on this book review.  

I´ve learned quite a few things after I finished this bogus gem.

  1. This book isn´t anything near a gem
  2. The authors are homophobic
  3. I need to move closer to a winery

It´s safe to say I wouldn´t recommend this book to anyone. `Love Defined ` is not only the worst, unsafest and damaging book existing, it´s also the most absurd piece of work I´ve ever read.

On the other hand- If you´re up for a round of being brainwashed into believing you´re sole purpose in life is to live via ” God´s plan ” then… You might as well give this ” inspirational ” guide a try. I wouldn´t though.

Because…

It´s clear the authors are Christian fanatics. They live and breathe Jesus. These are not your everyday Christian friends who live and let live. These ladies are making it their mission to spread their crazed agenda. 

Since this is a nonfiction read I won´t be giving my usual rating-breakdown. Instead, I´ll leave you with this piece of knowledge:

`Love Defined ` pissed me off as much as it amused me.

 

Book Review:`Those Chance Encounters` by Pearl Khatri

 

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𝑲𝒆𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒕𝒉:
She shattered my soul with the very first smile she gave me. I wanted her, craved her, yearned for her…
She wanted nothing to do with me, but I was an adamant bastard through and freaking through…

𝑨𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒂:
He pulled at my being with the very first wink he gave me. I desired him, ached for him, broke entirely for him.
He didn’t live up to his promise, keeping me waiting…praying…hoping…dreaming…


 

Warning From The Author ( taken from Goodreads )

𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒃𝒐𝒐𝒌 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒔 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒄𝒖𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒈𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒔 𝒔𝒖𝒄𝒉 𝒂𝒔 𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚-𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒐𝒓𝒅𝒆𝒓, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒃𝒖𝒍𝒍𝒚𝒊𝒏𝒈. 𝑰𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒆𝒍𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒐𝒓 𝒖𝒏𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆, 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒊𝒔𝒆𝒅.

 


 

On  a kind note:

This is my opinion. My opinions are not facts. This review is also a pro-consumer. This means I´m offering my opinion via review to guide and possibly help indecisive readers.

 

My Thoughts 2

 

Me stumbling upon `Those Chance Encounters by author Pearl Khatri was a chance encounter. It was one of those accidental bump-ins I believe others would appreciate more.

 

It´s romantic. It´s cute. It has humor. It´s revealing. It´s supposed to be great on a level I´m not acquainted with yet.

 

Much to my dismay, `Those Chance Encounters` didn´t meet my reading standards. Not by a long shot. I´m actually disappointed.

Before I dive into a more detailed explanation of my thoughts I´d like to point out what drove me to read this book in the first place. Those

The Cover & The Synopsis

There´s no denying how cute the cover image is.  And although a little slim, I found the synopsis interesting. I figured I´d be getting loads of story with the little description provided.

So, what´s keeping me from adoring this book? Let me put it this way…

 

The whole problem with this story wasn´t the story itself. `Those Chance Encounters` had the ability to be a great story. But it was the lack of structure in all areas that prevented this from being a great read.

This is probably the most chaotic story I´ve ever read. The author included topics such as body image issues, bullying and lack of self-awareness and all I was able to see was how respectful and at the same time dismissive these topics were handled. How am I, as a reader, supposed to feel empathy when I´m hardly given the chance to develop feelings?

There were moments when I had the feeling the author made the story up. But then again, this story felt like a strong case of „The protagonist is the author´s self- insert“ and that the whole book was based on personal experiences. There´s nothing against using one or the other. But for a reader to feel both is a little confusing and doesn´t work in the book´s or author´s favor.

Which leads me to my next point:

 The writing. I discovered I´m not a fan of the author´s writing.

Wordy. Excessive. Uncontrolled. My reading flow was constantly interrupted by the overuse of words I haven´t seen or heard of in two decades, which, I might add, is exhausting. Usually, this can be a breath of fresh air while reading but in this case, I was confused and irritated.

As for the characters- I tried. When the characters are 2-D you´ll find it hard to have a connection with them. I need to be convinced by actions instead of words in order to develop a bond with fictional people. I would like to relate. I´d rather not sit here and ask myself how this character made my top 3 list of most unliked characters. I didn´t feel anything for Amara or Kenneth. I wasn´t able to warm up to them due to the indecisive character portrayal.  Let´s not forget the kinks and quirks- Yeah, no. I´d rather forget them as they added nothing valuable to each character or the story.

With that being said- I think I won´t check out another book from this author.

While I´m pretty sure this book will find fans, it wasn´t strong enough to win me over.


 

Would I recommend this book? To the people who value my opinion- No.

Would I reread this book? No.


 

The Cover – 5 Stars:   Hands down- It´s a beauty.

The Story – 2 Stars:   Trite and, at times, confusing

The Characters – 1 Star:  It´s a no from me.

My emotional state after finishing this read – I´m not happy.

1 star

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Book Review: Unseen Messages – Pepper Winters

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“There is a message for everything. From handwritten to verbal, seen and unseen. Messages exist all around us.” 

But what if you don’t see?
What if you don’t understand?
What if, by ignoring the message, your life is never the same again?

Estelle Evermore morphed from nobody to somebody overnight.
Galloway Oak put his past behind him and endeavoured to make his fortune using his trade.

Two strangers.
One plane.
Multiple unseen messages.
From sky to island, they find neither fame nor skills can save them. Stripped from society and left alone to survive the elements, the very task of staying alive outweighs all other needs.
Until survival turns to desire.
And desire turns to danger.

 

 

My Thoughts 2

 

Sometimes short reads need to be longer.  Sometimes long reads need to be shorter.  With `Unseen Messages` by author Pepper Winters, I believe the latter is more fitting. unseen messages

 

Pepper Winters is a talented writer but there is one thing that gets on my last nerve when it comes to her books. The way the author emphasizes certain parts in her stories. This will look something like this:

 

” A minute  t..i..c..k..e..d  past.”

 

What´s also very popular with the author is not always giving complete sentences, which often ends up seeming lazy.

“I cried.

I sobbed. 

I begged.

Anyone… please…

Help us. “

While this isn´t world shattering, it does irritate me. So much so that I feel the need to mention this is my review for `Unseen Messages`, one of the author´s ( in my opinion ) less finest published works.

I´ve read quite a few Pepper Winters books and all of them were quite special in their own special way. But `Unseen Messages` really tops off all the special in the world.

The main killer for me was the overload on details. This almost 600 page book could have easily been a 300 page read if half the unnecessary additional info had been taken out. Imagine how excited I was to finally get to read a nearly 600 page book and have that excitement turn into sheer boredom after finding out what made the book so long.

Too.

Many.

Details.

And.

This.

Crap.

Killed.

My.

Interest.

&.

Reading.

Flow.

( isn´t that annoying?)
And I haven´t even started on the story.

What made this book a terrible sort of special was the fact that the story felt like nonsense to me.

Because when your flight crashes and you end up on a deserted island with a guy and 2 random kids  you feel all kinds of sexual helplessness, right? Yes, because that is always on the top 5 survival trick list- 1) Find food. 2) Find a bed. 3) take in your dire situation. 4) Have some inner thoughts. 5) scratch that itch.

( note to self: Watch Bear Grylls and see if he´s sexually sparked on his survival shows )

I kept in mind what other fellow bloggers said: This is not your typical Pepper Winters book. Yeah, they weren´t lying. It was worse for me.

I also never thought inner dialogues could annoy me as much as a dragging story could. Good Lord, I began to notice my own annoyed deep breaths everytime an inner dialogue came up.

Normally, I would have DNF´d this book in a heartbeat if it weren´t for the fact that I thought I was going to end up getting a mind blowing ending. I mean- almost 600 pages and a burning wrist from holding the brick of a paperback tricked me into believing I´d get my “holy shit” ending. I did not.

 


 

Would I recommend this read? No. I sincerely wouldn´t. Just watch Tom Hanks in Castaway. I swear Wilson had more spark.

Would I reread this book? I already passed it down. No point in keeping a book that enraged me more than it pleased me.


 

The Cover – 4 Stars:    Not bad. I like the colors.

The Story – 1 Star:      I refuse.

The Charcaters – 1 Star:    I´m still refusing.

My emotional state after finishing this read – I´m done.

 

1 star

 


 

You can purchase `Unseen Messages` on Amazon.com 

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