My Favorite Book Obsessions

“Some books you read. Some books you enjoy. But some books just swallow you up, heart and soul.”

 

A quote that couldn´t be more fitting. The whole idea of reading a book is to be able to dive in to a new world and become lost in a story´s beauty for a few minutes or hours. And when a book is good it leaves a lasting impression on us. It´s even better when a book touches us emotionally.

There are books us readers hold close to our hearts. The ones we could swoon over for years. We hold these books high above others.

You know, the ones we  always go back for a re – read, a re – re – read and a re – re – re-read until the pages threaten to fall out and the spine and cover are wrinkled.

I don´t normally like to talk about my all time favorite books. In a weird way- I´d feel like I would be betraying all the other books I have. They ( whoever they may be ) don´t lie when they say having to pick a favorite book is like having to pick a favorite child.

 

 

Besides, my favorite books are… mine. They feel like they´ve been written for me, and me alone.

 

 

I like to call my favorite books my personal obsession reads. The books I would like to dip in gold and display them somewhere where EVERYONE can see them. Just to make a point 🙂

If you think wanting to dip my books in gold is weird, try talking to the one good friend of mine who wraps her all time favorite books in Saran wrap and stores them in Ikea boxes.

 

So, what are my favorite books? The untouchable reads I hold high above all others? Don´t worry. There won´t be a mile long list of book titles because I don´t consider that many as favorites. I´m a very picky person when it comes to reading. And because of that I have only a handful of books that have wowed me enough to want to dip in gold.

Before we continue I´d like to say that I have not reviewed these gems because I simply refuse to. How do I find the right words to describe a book I truly adore? I can´t.

 

Book Obsession #1

Thoughtless ( Thoughtless #1 ) – S. C. Stephens

 

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I call Thoughtless my romance Bible. It has everything I could ask for in a romance. It´s realistic, slow burn,  cute, and filled with so much emotional pain. A frustrating love triangle that tops all other love triangles. You will be rooting for both guys so much because all characters ( including the slightly annoying Heroine ) are delightful.

Thoughtless is the first of 5 books ( with the 5th being the Heroes POV from book #1). While I´m THE #1 obsessive fan of this book I´m not so wild over the other books. Don´t get me wrong, they´re great and add to the couple´s story but the first book is where all the magic happens.

I get slightly nervous when friends go near this book.

 

 

Book Obsession #2

Into The Wilderness ( Wilderness #1 – #6 ) – Sara Donati

 

Into The Wilderness

 

Reading historical fiction definitely belongs to one of my guilty pleasures. This book. This series. I love Into The Wilderness so much that I can´t find the strength to write a review about them. The way Sara Donati has woven in real historical events in this series is fab. You will fall in love with the beautiful details. I swear, at one point I was able to smell pine trees while reading. I suffered so bad through these incredible gems… that´s how good I think these book are written.  If you enjoy epic historical fictions with romances that´ll rip your heart to shreds then you need to get your hands on these books.

I have these books in my bedroom where they´re safe from people who like to borrow books and put dog ears in the pages… like my own mom.

Me, every time my mom asks if she can borrow a book.

 

 

 

Book Obsession #3

The Picture Of Dorian Gray – Oscar Wilde

 

The Picture of Dorian Gray

I am not a fan of classic literature. I actually think most of the old hams written over a century ago are overrated. There are a few I´ve enjoyed but none as much as The Picture Of Dorian Gray. I first read this when I was a teenager and it has been an all time favorite of mine ever since. This is timeless perfection for me. It tackles issues our society still deals with. The darkness of the story is terrifyingly beautiful and captivating.

`The Picture Of Dorian Gray` is high on my bookshelf.. high enough so the kids can´t reach it.

 

 

Book Obsession  #4

Charlotte´s Web – E. B. White

 

Charlottes Webb

This book. This powerful little story. I was done for even as a child. Even today, I can´t understand why I love this so much. I just do.

My copy is already so terribly beaten. The pages are fragile and the cover looks like it´s been through hell and back. It´s suffered from moving around the world 9 times. It´s been read to me and I have read this very book to my children. And now it rests in peace in a hope chest ( yes, I have one of those, as well ).

 

 

Book Obsession   #5

The Stand – Stephen King

 

The STand

 

T´was when I was at a party once in 2001 when a guy told me that reading tastes can tell you a lot about a person. Challenge accepted! I rattled down my short list of romances and watched his smug smile grow until he heard me mention The Stand by Stephen King. “The Stand?!” After that he eyed me all night as if I had an enormous pimple on my forehead.

What can I say? I appreciate great writing. The Stand has been one of those EPIC reads for me. One I will ALWAYS mention and get super passionate about. And Cujo… well, I loved Cujo. I stole Cujo from my mom when I moved out. She noticed her copy was missing after my brother moved out ( 5 years later ) and has accused him ever since.

 

So, that´s it. My sad short list of ALL TIME favorites. Although I do love the romance genre I do enjoy lots of darker reads that have an admirable size.


Did you see a favorite of yours in my short list? What´s your all time favorite? Let me know in the comments below! ❤

 

Thank you for reading. I hope you have a wonderful day,

 

Much bookish love,

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The Art Of `Live And Let Live` ( In The Book Blog Community)

” But the world is getting worse and I blame the beginning of it´s demise on social media.”

– Ricky Gervais

 

I bet you saw this one coming, didn’t ya? The Art Of `Live And Let live`. Folks, this is exactly what it is. A post about living and leaving others alone.

This is not a click bait.. For the record: I’m not a click bait book blogger so there will be none of that here.

Normally, I´d go ahead and give you a generalized post on my thoughts regarding the topic at hand. I´d throw in some pros and cons and provide some real examples and include my personal opinion. Not this time. I´ve something else in mind.

Stay factual. Stay realistic. Stay diplomatic. Try to stay neutral. That´s what I try to aim for when typing up my posts. For most of the time I reach my own standards.   I don´t blog about books and book related topics to unleash hell onto others for the sake of personal pleasure. Why am I even telling you all this?

Well, something happened today. Something that had shocked me. I spotted a tweet on Twitter that hit close to home.  And the weird part? It was about my blog post and what it did for other people.

Initially, I had not planned on publishing a post over the weekend. Now I feel like one has to go up. For many of you, this might sound so petty. So annoying.  Trust me- I´m just as annoyed. Please bear with me, dear annoyed non participants. My fingers are crossed that this´ll find an end sooner than later. I have just as much important shit to do.

There has been talk regarding my blog posts. Mind you- this isn´t the first time someone disagreed with one of my posts. But it´s the first time I´m seeing a complaint done behind my back.

My life motto is

`Live and let live.`

 

Unfortunately, this concept is totally alien for many people, It´s easy to live and let live. It´s apparently more fun not to. This also applies for book blogging. Most of the time the things I see happening in the book community are fairly harmless ( by harmless I mean things that don´t have people sobbing in the fetus position at night ). A little bitching here, and a lot of nagging there. Most of the time I find this really great. Opinions are what get conversations rolling. You have an opinion on a topic and share it, even welcome other opinions? I´m in! What I don´t like is when things become personal.

By `live and let live`I´m saying accept what others do and move on. Respect a book bloggers opinion and continue with life as it was.

 

`Live and let live.`

 

Yeah. The offended book committee doesn´t share my life philosophy. They say they do but they don´t.  Instead, these people make it their mission to keep my name within their radars. Because they were offended by one of my posts.
Which posts, you ask? What could be so awful that have people feeling all sorts of uncomfortable? Even feeling personally attacked?

 

The Art Of Pointing Fingers At Book Bloggers

Excuse me for not being a friend of finger pointing at book bloggers. You don´t post links from a book blogger and bash them in a group because you´re fucking unhappy. Have you no common sense?

A post about how unnecessary I feel it is to feel offended by the fakeness of Instagram. My personal opinion on this subject aside- I was told my post offended people. No one cared about my opinion. And it was a positive opinion. I was pro `live and let live`.

Here´s what happened: I was a new member of a Facebook book group and shared a post of mine. Keep in mind that I had been a member for only a short period of time before I shared a link to one of my blog posts. The first comment I received was from the admin.

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” Just read some fucking books.” A sad response from someone I had only exchanged a few words with in a previous post ( she was moody there as well ). Practically a stranger. So, this is how we speak with group members now? I´m appalled by this attitude and behavior.  We´re a book blog community. You can dislike my post but you are not allowed to be uncivilized. My post was clean. I had an opinion. Take it or leave it. Don´t tell me my post was offensive when in reality, you just didn´t like it. There´s a difference. See the difference.

I will not lie- this has been my top 2019 post so far. I´ve had dream worthy views ( and still counting ). I´m pretty sure the majority of the views on this post had been from the offended committee. Because, how dare I talk about a subject and publish my link in a group for book bloggers! Shame on me for trying to be a part of a group.

After that I left the group. Because I´m not stupid. Once an attitude, twice an attitude.. I´m not sticking around for round 3. So, I left. I dusted my hands off and moved on. Best decision I had in a long shot. Unfortunately for me, one group member followed me to my blog and thought it would be wise to continue what I ended in the group  underneath one of my blog posts. One person hunted me down to give me a piece of her mind. Keep in mind- That pilgrim had her little moment in the group I posted my link in. She wasn´t done, though.

 

 

Turns out, I have no empathy because I don´t care about the feelings of others. My post was “harmful”. No, it wasn´t. This discussion was long done for me before the loyal book pilgrim followed me to my blog.

 

 

So, people who are offended by posts are allowed to post about their feelings and I am supposed to sit back and accept wordlessly? No. That´s wrong on so many levels.

 

Then there´s this gem of mine that has caused more than just a stir. This time more people were involved. This is the Twitter post I spotted. The post about my post. A fellow book blogger defended me on her Twitter page and ended up being blocked. Why? Because I published a post about

Why I Don´t Join Book Blog Tours Anymore

The title says exactly what´s in this post. I reveal the reasons why I don´t participate in book blog tours anymore. How can this be misunderstood for anything else? And this had the bush drums going in a book blogger group. Not sure if I should laugh, cry, feel flattered, be shocked…

The reasons have stemmed from my personal experiences. Things that have occurred in the span of my 10 year book blogging career. I have not, and will not reveal the names of these book tour organizers because they´ve retired 2 – 5  years ago.

Why has this post about my not participating in blog tours been written? What was my motive? Do I need one? No. But I´ll amuse everyone anyway. It felt right to share my experiences. I wanted to share my stuff and maybe help others even if it´s by showing them that they aren´t alone with this. What´s wrong with that? Should I have not posted about why blog tours don´t work for ME anymore? Should I have worded the whole thing differently just to have the approval of the offended party? No can do. That would go against my book blog religion.

 

“Some people just don´t care.”

Here´s something to think about:

What would happen ( after having read an experience post of mine ) if the offended person just sat down and asked themselves how this could have happened to a book blogger? The post is open for discussion. Why not get in touch and ask for details. Ask about specifics instead of feeling offended. Because that´s how it looks like from my end of the stick. “I´m offended. I feel attacked.” When it reality my post was never about others. Just me. What is there to feel offended about? Unless these people felt offended on my behalf. Which I highly doubt.

My experiences are my personal facts. You can have your opinion on my opinion but you can´t feel offended by something I´ve dealt with. That´s ridiculous. Unless you´re offended on my behalf. I still doubt that.

 

To sum this whole thing up:

Believe it or not- I wouldn´t publish anything I don´t like. Should someone feel offended by whatever banal post I deem worthy of publishing then there´s always the option of ignoring me.

It´s simple. If you´re not convinced then try it out for yourselves. It works wonders for me.

People, if you are not able to live and let live then at least try! Try for the sake of peace. You can have a good rant. Make a post out of the topic you want to rant about. Ranting is healthy. The behavior I´ve been unofficially subjected to ( because, technically, I haven´t seen the post in the actual Facebook group. Just saw the tweet and was informed by a blogger friend )  is a low form of confrontation. Behind my back. A questionable act against someone who can´t defend themselves because they´re not in the group anymore.

Here´s another thing to consider:

It was clear the person and I weren´t able to meet eye to eye from the start ( although I tried ). The most logical thing to do would be if both went on our merry ways. I did that. The other person didn´t. The fact that this person has been checking on my posts tells me the person is just waiting for something to feel offended about.

The person who targeted my post stated she had planned  to comment on my post at first. She didn´t. I´m now grateful she decided against it. God knows how many more gray hairs I would have gained after a chitchat.

I am not interested in a discussion with this person anymore. Not now, not ever. Should this person reach out to me for whatever reason I will not react. I´ve reacted enough already. The offended parade is officially over. It´s time to move on.

Here´s a kind reminder for the future book blog community: Stop being fucking dicks.

And start working on social skills. Learn how to agree to disagree. Learn how to respect opinions. Learn to live and let live.

 

On a side note:

I´d like to give a huge hug to the person who posted that tweet. She didn´t tag me and I will not tag her because she has been through enough already by defending my blog post and herself.  And of course a Thank You to the person who sent me the screenshot via DM. Thank you. This is what book blogging should be about. Helping each other and standing up for one another. Because what hurts one of us can hurt another book blogger if we keep silent. Thank you, both.

 

On another side note: 

No book blogger should ever stay silent when they feel they´ve been wronged. Speak up. And if you´re not the type then get in touch with a fellow blogger. We don´t just write reviews. We´re a community.

This has been a long post. Much longer than I wanted it to be. My first thought was to dismiss this whole idea of standing up for myself. But I couldn´t. I could be helping others. I want to help others.

What I don´t want it to approach this subject ever again. It´s done. The joke is around the corner. It´s time to read and review and do other fun shit.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. If you belong to the people who were offended by my posts then do yourselves a favor- Don´t bother commenting. I don´t appreciate wasting my time discussing my crystal clear posts with you. I am not interested.

If you´ve been through the same situation or know someone who has dealt with something similar.. Feel free to share. I´d be more than happy to chat. ❤

 

Much love and don´t forget to share the book love,

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Thank The Books It´s Friday

People. PEOPLE! You will not believe what a week I´ve had. More the reason to welcome Mr. Thank Fuck squirrel.

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It´s friday. A day to sit back and relax. Or in my case- sit back and make plans.

Yes. Aside from the virtual book blog drama that has decided to involve me without me knowing I took it upon myself to book a spontaneous mini vacation. 4 days London, baby! I just have 1 more week to go before Easter break for the kids begins and we´re off. I´m taking the family with me. Hubby, kids…. We´re all going and I am SO looking forward to some much needed time off from my surroundings. And the book shopping! Lord have mercy, I´m gonna be in a financial mess when I get home.

If you happen to see a short blonde american with a loud voice in a Waterstones then feel free to approach me. I might scream because I´m super jumpy and a natural chicken shit but that´ll pass. 🙂 I´ll buy you a coffee and make up for it. 🙂

What I´m looking forward to most is meeting up with my bestie Lindsey also known as the award winning author of Hedoschism. It´ll be so good to see her in person again and give her ( and the family ) a huge hug. ❤

As for the book blogging. I´ve mentioned above that my week has been going fairly well until I heard about what´s being said about my blog posts behind my back.

Something as banal as my previous post has evoked strong feelings from some people. I´m not sure I have enough energy to care ( that´s not true. I have a post about that topic already in the works ). Let´s just say that it´s beyond me why anyone would feel offended by my personal experiences. These people must love me to bits for keeping me on their radars or they hate me and have made me their target. Did I mention I´m going on a vacation? I did? Okay, I´ll just remind you again.

So yes. It´s been an eventful week.

As for the bookish part:

I´ve had an equally successful week. But having a look at some other blogs I feel like I´ve achieved nothing at all. The 3 books I´ve managed to read in April are nothing compared to what others have read. I feel major book envy right now. Still, I´m holding in there.

As of late I´ve managed to start and finish ( yes, I know. It´s weird I managed to do both ) the following:

The Silver Swan ( Elite Kings Club #1 ) – Amo Jones

Sparrow – L.J. Shen

Before We Were Strangers – Renée Carlino

Reviews for these gems will be up and about very soon so keep your eyes open.

Thankfully, the month isn´t over yet and I have more than enough time to read some other long forgotten masterpieces that have been collecting dust on my bookshelves.

Let´s completely ignore the ebook collection that´s growing faster than the tomato seeds I just planted.

That´s about it for this week.

Other than spending time checking my travel check lists there will be loads of Netflix while imitating lazy cats. Drum roll for the cat gif parade!

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You´re very welcome. So, as you can see, my life is boring.

What are your plans for the weekend? What books will you be reading / finishing? Let me know in the comments below so I can envy you! ❤ Let me be a part of your glorious, eventful life.

Have a safe weekend, everyone. Feel hugged and loved. Share the book love.

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Why I Don´t Join Book Blog Tours Anymore

Book blog tours- You either love them or you dislike them. Either you participate in one or you don´t.

 

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There are many ways for an author to successfully promote their book but none are as effective as a virtual book blog tour. I´d even say it´s THE MOST idiot proof way to get a reader´s attention. So many people hang around social media- Why not take advantage of that?

 

 

While I do believe book blog tours are a nice additional marketing tool for authors I can´t say I´m too impressed with how a book blog tour usually pans out for book bloggers. Sure, we can receive new followers along the way and might be able to form a bond with an author.  But if you take a long hard look at book blog tours you can tell that many MANY things are a little fishy. Things that stink to high heaven.

 

 

As it often is- One simply cannot speak for all book blog tours. But one can definitely speak for the majority of ´em ( in my case- I can speak for the tours for romance, YA, erotica, women´s fiction genres ).

You see – There are rules for a book blog tour. Rules I often never agreed with because most of them made no sense to me. As a book blogger who treats this whole thing as a hobby ( and who knows what can be gained in the business ) I never felt at home with all the restrictions and rules that were set out. Now, I dont´disagree with rules. In some areas in life rules are very much needed. But none of the hobbies I actively live out during the day have rules. Why should a book blog tour have them? Why should book blogging in general have rules?

Alas, the rules of book blog tours were what made me whisper “fuck this shit. I need a drink.” to my laptop.

 

 

Rule #1     

Don´t Forward The ARC 

I know there are some airheads who think it´s acceptable to receive an ARC and then pass it on to their friends / family / fellow bloggers. These people need to be reminded what an ARC is and how to handle them. I´m not mad about this rule. I´m just annoyed that it still has to be mentioned. Bloggers should KNOW by now how harmful it is for an author if their book gets passed around. This annoys me. But not as much as the way some authors & book promo people go about this whole ARC business.

Look, I get it. By clicking the box on the Google doc form I agree to not forward the ARC to a third party. But what´s stopping the next book blogger from doing it anyways, you know? This is not me condoning piracy or anything. All I´m saying is that there are some tec savvy bastards out there. By agreeing to not do so by clicking a check box is not preventing this from happening. Use an anti theft ebook software, secure your files by restricting certain actions, send a pdf then delete it after it´s been read. There are ways to make life hard for someone who wants to share an ARC.

My advice for authors offering ARCs would be: Create a check box option that says-

 

“I understand that this ARC is protected by ____ and cannot be forwarded to a third party.”

 

That is something I will take seriously. It´s a statement that the book has been protected and can´t be shared. Voila!

Regardless of my feelings towards this check box clicking agreement, I have never and would never forward an ARC. Because I don´t have time for this shit. Read / review / move the fuck on.

 

 

 

Rule #2   

Promote The Book. Not Your Review.

 

Pretty simple, right? You sign up and request to review the book that´s  being promoted. Then you write a review and promote the book. Wrong. Quite often your opinion will be sorted out before you even manage to write a review for the damn book.

 

“Please contact us if you feel you aren´t able to rate this book with 3 or more stars. We will make sure to give you a new assignment.”

 

In other words- My opinion is only wanted when it´s dripping with praises. Gottcha. Wait, what?!

I´m seeing this issue with a black and white mindset. There´s a high demand for reviews in the book world. And authors need reviews in order to get sales going. So, when an author kindly provides me with an ARC for their book in exchange for a review, and I type up a 2 star review because that´s how I felt about said ARC… it´s not wanted?! Well, screw that!  Authors aren´t allowed to be picky. Of course, I understand the dynamics of book promotions and that you can´t necessarily promote a book with a 2 star review. The whole idea of a book blog tour is to promote an author and their book, right? But what if I told you that a 2 star review isn´t necessarily harmful? This is something many need to wrap their heads around. 1 star, 2 stars, 3 stars…. They´re generalized subjective opinions. It may be an opinion no one else will share.

A book blogger is then asked to not publish the review during the tour. Okay. So, basically, the author has saved themselves from a lesser review…. for the time being. Because they´re not interested in your opinion. They´re interested in praises and future sales. They´re interested in rainbows and unicorns.

I used to hate this so much. Most of the time I was able to give good book ratings for blog tour books. But when I did stumble upon a 2 star read, and I was asked to swap my assignment for something less “harmful for the author” I stepped away from the tour then waited until the tour was over and published my 2 star review for that same book days later.

My point is: Authors and book promo sites can´t avoid a book receiving a less than stellar rating. It´ll happen on way or another. Seeing a book blog tour with shining reviews looks unrealistic.

“Promote the book, not your opinion.” Yes, yes. My bad for misunderstanding that this is a shower the author / the book with praises tour instead of a book blog tour. How unthoughtful of me.

 

 

 

Rule #3   

Publish Your Post On Time. Preferably At An Impossible Time.

There´s a brilliant way to get on a book promo site´s shitlist- Not posting your scheduled post on time.

Whether it´s because you´ve posted too early or because you´ve posted way too late ( or not at all because you´re a ditz that has a memory of a goldfish )… You will most likely not win any plus points on this subject. Unless you´ve been sitting at your Mimaw´s death bed, you´re other excuses might not be accepted. Because there´s always the pre – scheduling option.

Yes, that small button that allows you to pre schedule a blog tour post can make your life so easy. But not all book bloggers schedule ahead. Why? Because a book spotlight isn´t a life or death situation for many bloggers. And why is that? Because many of us treat this as our hobby. Some book bloggers can´t give their hobby the attention it needs.

Still, book promo sites and authors demand to see posts go up at a certain time. For whatever reason, it doesn´t make sense.

I belonged to the people who pre scheduled blog posts. But on a few occasions, I slipped. Simply forgot about a blog tour because of a rough week at work, or having to deal with real life issues. Sometimes I forgot about a blog tour because friends dropped my unannounced with cheese and a bottle of rosé.

And because of the few times I slipped I received shit from the other end.

 

“You will be removed from our A – List. “

“I asked for all posts to go up at 7 EST.”

 

( insert appalled tone ) Yes, and I deeply apologize for holding my daughter´s hair back last night while she hung over the toilet screaming “I´m dying” as she puked the life out of her tiny body. Next time I´ll just call the babysitter. Would that put me back on your A – List?

My point is:  I understand how important a book blog tour is for an author AND book promo people. I´m aware how much authors pay for marketing geniuses to promote their work. I understand the need to make dreams come true.  What I don´t accept is how egotistical people are.  This is my hobby. We had an agreement. I clearly wasn´t able to meet the standards. This is not the end of the world. This can be fixed.  I´m not getting paid for any of this. Shit happens and when you have kids shit happens more often than not. Why this is not accepted is beyond me.

Mind you- This isn´t always the case. Some promo sites are forgiving and understanding when reality demands our attention. But many others aren´t forgiving. And I´ve simply had enough of this.

 

 

 

Rule #4   

The More Participants, The Better

 

Yes, yes. * waves off * We know. The more people who partake in a book blog tour the better. Because this means when many book blogger post about a book the further the book will travel. And that means more exposure. A total win for an author! They´re getting their money´s worth and maybe earning a buck or two. It´s their dream to see their book make it´s rounds, collecting feedback from all corners.

 

 

There´s a small yet crucial problem with this. And it has all to do with the package an author picks. Say an author wants exposure for their book. They want have a book blog tour done but only pick the simple book spotlight package. This book package offers a small feature for the book including an even smaller book info slip with social media & purchase links. Not a terrible choice but when this option is offered and 150 book bloggers sign up for this option there´s a huge chance people will be seeing this post for longer than expected. This works in favor for the author, sure. But it´s annoying, especially when these 150 book bloggers follow each other. And the problem with this is: We see the same post over and over again without having the option do see anything else that might spark our / a followers interest about that book. And worse? When the publication date is months away. Doing a book tour for a new release months before it hits the market isn´t the wisest choice. People tend to forget shit or become less interested when they know the book release is in 3 months.

But hey, at least people got to see the book, right?

This has bugged me for a long time. You get a book shoved down your throat months before it even releases.

 

 

 

Rule #5   

Don´t Expect A Thank You

I admit, this was what drove me to swear off book blog tours- The lack of recognition. The fact that book blog tours are sometimes ungrateful for a book blogger. I really don´t know how often I need to repeat this, but… Book bloggers are hard working minions who will bend over backwards for an author.  A simple Thank You has never killed anyone. I am not aware of any deaths of authors after they´ve expressed their gratitude towards a book blogger. In my opinion, the least an author could do is:

  • Visit the book bloggers blog and leave a comment
  • Follow the book bloggers blog
  • Thank them privately or publicly

I´ve witnessed authors who boldly claimed it wasn´t their job to thank a book blogger. It should be the book promo people who need to send out the thank you emails, simply because these people have been paid to do the job. To be honest- Almost all book promo people are well-mannered and thank all the book bloggers who participated in their tours. Book bloggers acknowledge that but wouldn´t it be nicer is the authors themselves took 5 minutes out of their busy, creative schedules to contact the bloggers personally?

It´s not about showering a book blogger with love. A book blog tour is about putting the author in a bright light, making them stand out so people will recognize them / their book. A book blog tour isn´t about a book blogger. We´re just needed to help. Without book bloggers, there are no book blog tours.

Every book blogger I know is starving for recognition and are often satisfied with a simple Thank You. How hard is it to say two words? It´s not and many authors who don´t get in touch with the people who promoted their books should be ashamed of themselves.

Many might not care about this. But I care. We´re living in a world where kindness is being taken for granted.

 

“They´re book bloggers. That´s what they do.” 

 

Yes, but there´s more to it than just click click, publish.

Many authors / publishers won´t bother with a thank you. A few make it a point to thank the invisible helpers.

 


 

I guess you can say book blog tours have pissed me off. That´s not entirely true. I once believed book blog tours were a brilliant way for authors to receive recognition. Now, after having seen so much go down with blog tours, I can say I´m not interested in this part of the business anymore. Because a writer isn´t the only person who exists. the 20 – 150 book bloggers promoting the author exist as well.

I write reviews under my own terms. I publish posts when I decide. I promote when the time is right for me.

As for the benefits of receiving early ARCs… The euphoria stage has passed and I´ve become a patient woman. I don´t have to read a book months before release. I have time.


 

What do you think about book blog tours? Do you participate in them? Do you enjoy being a part of a virtual book tour? Let´s chat ❤

 


 

Thank you so much for reading this post. I hope you enjoyed and that you were able to see my reasons for removing myself from book tours. ( if not, that´s fine. You´re forgiven )

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10 Most Bizarre Religious Book Titles

ATTENTION

This post includes religious content. What you are about to read contains explicit language, perhaps an unwelcome opinion and may not be suitable for an audience who takes religion far too seriously. In short: I have a thing or two to say so if you are religious and easily offended you´re welcome to leave in silence. You are not welcome to pray for me, though. 

 

Religion – What a touchy subject. People, pro religion and anti religion, are so opinionated and most will stop at nothing to try to convince the other of their truth. The truth is, though – We all just have to wait until we die to find out what the exact truth is.

In the meantime, Christians ( and other religions ) have done their best to “spread the word of God”. Although I´m an atheist I do ( despite popular belief ) respect religion. What I can´t respect are the book covers and titles for these religious books.

To say these gems are absurd would be an understatement.

 


 

#1  `Anyone Can Be Cool… But Awesome Takes Practice` – Lorraine Peterson

anyone can be cool

First Thought:    Oh for Christ´s sake.

Let´s Talk:    Here´s a quick life lesson: You become your own special type of cool and awesome when you´re older. In the meantime, read a science book.

 

 

 

#2    `Mommy Drinks Because You´re Bad` –  ?

mommy drinks because you´re bad

First Thought:    No. Mommy drinks to survive the day preserve her beauty.

Let´s Talk:   ( preparing a drink for myself ) Aside from the EXTREME high pedagogical value the title has- I´d say this book/booklet deserves to be bashed and the person who wrote this “Quality religious book for children” deserves to be tarred and feathered.

 

 

#3  `God´s Masturbation Solution`– Rev. M. L.  Brown D. D.,  D. C. L

god´s masterbation solution

First Thought:    There´s a solution?!

Let´s Talk:    Okay. Say you don´t like masturbation, or even the thought of it. Fine. But this book makes hands on hanky panky sound like a sin. Or, maybe God is sitting up on a cloud looking down at Egor thinking

“Okay, fine. If you can´t stop then I´ll give you some pointers on how to masturbate the catholic way.”

Perhaps God´s like: “You´re all doing it wrong! Left hand, people Left HAND.”

Or wait! I have another one!

I bet God´s advice would be to sit on your hand until it´s numb then start masturbating. That way, it´ll feel like you´re not touching yourself. Cheat the system, bro!

 

 

 

#4   `Helping The Retarded To Know God`

–  Hans R. Hahn

Helping the retarded to Know God

First Thought:  Fucking hell….

Let´s Talk:    Okay. I have my limits and they´ve just been reached. I had to check for publication date for this gem because I was positive no one in their right mind, not even the hardcore Christians, would be politically incorrect. Sure enough – Published 1969. All jokes aside… This is one of the reasons why I don´t like religion. I couldn´t really care less about the political correctness of the title… It´s more the fact that something like this exists in general.

 

 

 

#5    `Jogging With Jesus` –  C. S. Lovett

jogging with Jesus

First Thought:    Jesus doesn´t have to go everywhere with you.

Let´s Talk:    A life with Jesus can give comfort. A daily jog with Jesus can give you more comfort. I don´t jog, so I wouldn´t know.

 

 

 

#6    `Jesus Calling` –  Sarah Young

Jesus Calling 2

First Thought:   Don´t pick up!!

Let´s Talk:    It seems harmless, right? More the reason to dig deeper. 🙂 From my understanding the author claims to have received messages from Jesus and has written down what HE had said to her. She´s the “mouthpiece” so to speak. I don´t know about you but I find people who claim that ANY voice ( one that doesn´t belong to a solid form ) has spoken to them creepy as fuck. I swear, this makes Carol Anne from the 1982 Poltergeist movie seem less creepier.

 

 

 

 

#7     `Religious Gals Can Play Naughty Too!! `

–  Jamie M. Jones

Religious girls can

First Thought:  There was never a doubt in my mind * wink *

Let´s Talk:    I´m not sure if this was written for hopeful religious men or if it´s supposed to act as an invitation for non religious men. The “No Jezebel Here” made me laugh, though. That gives this whole weird thing a nice touch. What does the author consider to be naughty? Socks on? Socks off? Bra off? Lights on? Do I want to know?

 

 

 

#8    `The Beginner´s Guide To Sex In The Afterlife`

– David Staume

Sex

First Thought:   PRAISE THE LORD

Let´s Talk:   And all of the sudden religion doesn´t sound too bad ( just kidding ). I hope this is true. Would hate to miss out, you know?

Hold on a second…. With who would I be having sex with after life? Please don´t tell me I´d have to deal with afterlife dating, as well? Where´s the `Dating In The Afterlife` book? Is there an afterlife Tinder? A Ghost Anonymous program I can visit in case of a sexual emergency? DAVID!!!!!

 

 

 

 

#9    `How Should Christians Vote?` –  Tony Evans

How Should Christians Vote

First Thought:    Put your right foot in, put your right foot out, put your right foot in and you shake it all about….You do the Christian Voting and you turn yourself around. That´s what it´s all a-bout.

Let´s Talk:    This is by far the most idiotic thing I´ve seen in a long shot. The description reveals that Christians shouldn´t ask themselves for WHO they should vote for, but rather ” equip you with solid biblical principles that will challenge you to vote with a “kingdom perspective”- informed, compassionate, and aware of Who is really in charge. ” 

 

 

 

 

#10    `Weekend With Jesus` – Michael Edwin Q.

weekend with Jesus

First Thought:    Did he bring any wine? He better have wine….

Let´s Talk:    It says in the description that this book is written in Christianese. But the title does suggest a wild house party with Jesus. What am I missing here? And why can´t Jesus start wearing Bermuda shorts?

 


 

On A Friendly Side Note:

Although I am not a friend of religion ( at all ) I will not ignore that there are a few religions that actually do good for the world we live in. This post was meant to enlighten and not bash on a specific religion for their extreme and often unexplainable beliefs.

 

Many thanks for taking your time to read this post. I hope you enjoyed ❤

Have a wonderful day,

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