Thank The Books It´s Friday

Hola, bookish family.

Guess what? It´s Friday…

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Thank fuck, indeed. It´s been a busy one, I can tell ya that much. Reading. Thinking. Blogging. It´s no wonder I´m in desperate need of all those cocktails I pictured myself drinking throughout the week.

But nonetheless- I had a great time roaming the internet and reading all sorts of book-related blog posts ( more about that next week ).

Since it´s Friday I thought we´d cast all the negative shit from the book community aside and shift our focus on what´s really important: Enjoying a few days off.

My grand plan is: To have no plans for the weekend. Maybe I´ll do a little reading, relaxing and let my paper white skin fry in the June heat or maybe I´ll do none of that and just sit outside and listen to my neighbors threaten each other with the cops again.

 

 

As long as I have a cocktail to slurp then I don´t really care.

 

As for my reading options…

I´m going to play a round of `Eenie, Meenie, Miney, mo` with a stack of unread books. Hopefully, that´ll help me pick my next read ( because flipping a coin wasn´t creative enough for me ). I have 3 romances and 3 fantasies waiting for my attention.

 

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Has anyone already read any of these? Are they any good? Make sure to drop me a line in the comments. I´d love to know what your thoughts are ( if you´ve read these, of course ).

Speaking of books. Remember my ramblings on book covers? Weeeell, I finally gave myself that much needed last kick and came up with a concept and even put it into action. Yay for me! One that hopefully works. What exactly my new concept is will be revealed next Thursday, so stay tuned folks. ❤  ( a little tip: One look at my blog menu will tell you everything )

I guess that´s pretty much it for this week. Lots of everything and nothing has happened. The usual, I´d say. And with that, I´ll leave you and wish you all a wonderful few days off.


 

Before I leave:

What are your plans for the weekend? Do you have anything special planned? Or will it be another wonderful time doing absolutely nothing? Let me know so I can envy you.

 


 

Stay safe. Have a blast. Feel hugged.

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100 Days Until RARE ´19 London

We´re officially scooting our way towards September, y´all! Only 100 days left until the RARE ´19 London book event!

In celebration for the 100-day mark, Sabrina @Brina and the Books I thought we´d reveal our unicorn authors! Our ultimate favorite writers who´ve put us through impossible emotional rides with their badass stories.

RARE ´19 London has announced 150 + participating authors from all corners of the romance genre. 150+!!

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What an impressive line – up

Personally, I´m not sure if I should weep with joy or feel financially screwed beyond repair. But we´re talking about books. Books I´d like to have.

Actual footage of me at an author´s table

So, who am I looking forward to meeting/see/say hi to?

It´s time to introduce my personal unicorn authors.


lesley

`Carnage` was my first Lesley Jones read and I can´t say I´ve ever read anything like it before. Brutally emotional in a crude and beautiful way. `Carnage` isn´t for the faint of heart, nor are the other books in the series ( check out my review here )

I met the author back in 2017 at the RARE Berlin signing and even got myself a signed copy of Carnage. I´ve put some extra $$ aside in case Lesley Jones is selling other books at the London event.

Monica

Monica and I go WAY back. I can pride myself by saying I was the first who created and hosted a book blog tour for her, back then, first book release `I surrender`. I´ve been a fan of the lovely and charming Australian author for the past 6 or 7 years and continue to be a fan of her incredible romances. She´s THAT good.

Since it´s hard for me to visit any book signings I hardly get to see any authors in person. Well, I made it my mission to meet Monica at the RARE ´17 Berlin signing. It was a mission accomplished. My hopes for the London signing? To finally spend all the cash I saved for the rest of Monica´s paperbacks ( should she bring any with her ).

Jessica

I did an actual happy dance in my living room when I saw Jessica Sorensen’s name on the attendance list. This will be my first time meeting the author. This will also be the first time I won´t need to purchase a book ( s ) at a fav author´s table because… I already have all her books. I might get a picture with the author, though. And maybe I´ll even get a chance to profess my undying love for her books. We´ll see…

Either way, I´m excited and I´ll probably won´t shut up about it anytime soon.


Of course, the list of must – meet authors is a tad longer…


A small list of 8 authors compared to the number of authors attending, I know. But this just means I get a chance to introduce myself to new authors and in return, see all the goodies they have for us desperate book loving romance readers. I seriously can´t wait.


Be sure to head on over Brina and the Books and see who Sabrina´s unicorn authors are for the RARE ´19 London event. Don´t forget to leave my book bestie some book love ( and virtual chocolate ). Drop a comment and leave her a like while you´re at it. ❤


Do you have a unicorn author? Whether he/ she is on this list or not… Share them in the comments down below. Let´s chat about our unicorn fav´s! ❤

I hope you all have a wonderful day. Don´t forget to share the book love.

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Mug Monday & What I did while I was on my break

Mug Feature:    White porcelain mug with Alice in Wonderland motive: The Cheshire Cat

Book Topic:     What I did during my break


 

Heya! Welcome back to my long lost and nearly forgotten Mug Monday special.

How is everyone this beautiful Monday? I hope well.

As some of you might remember, I was on an apocalyptic book blog break. My time off wasn´t only used to refill my low running book blogging battery. I utilized my time away from my blog to catch up on my other passions. Like- spending time on Sky and Netflix and… to my utter shame… Youtube.

For some reason, I have a new fascination with watching beauty gurus and makeup tutorials. Now, I´m not a person who wears a whole lot of make-up. It´s mascara and blush for me, and that´s only when I leave the house.

Watching beauty gurus, though… It´s oddly satisfying. You get to listen to them talk about God and the world and watch them apply makeup like magicians. I admit- I tried a few things recommended by a booty guru and… well… Let´s say I´ll stick with applying facial masks. Moisturizing my face is a much safer option for me.

As of now my favorite beauty guru is Tati Westbrook.

 

She´s soooo pretty and comes across as a genuine person. And I would kill to have the ability to do my makeup like she does. * sigh *

 

Can we just stop here for a moment so we can appreciate this mug?

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I got this while I was in London in April. T´was a get a free mug if you purchase 30 smackers worth of tea deal. Guess who has lots of tea now * pointing at myself * So loving the orange Cheshire cat. ♥  

I´m going to be honest with you, though… This mug is not firm or sturdy and kind of gives the impression that it´ll break if I put too much tea in it. But the cat looks pretty 🙂

 

On to the next thing I´ve done on my break: Gardening

This might sound a bit boring ( and kind of is so I won´t blame you for skipping this part ) I found out that I don´t have a pitch black thumb. I´m normally the type of person who could kill plants just by being in the same room with them ( hence the reason why I don´t have any inside my house ). For years I´ve been the wicked plant witch. Now? Now it looks like I´m the veggie and fruit fairy.

Right now I have 4 hip high tomato plants, 1 outrageously large zucchini ( courgette ) plant, chives, parsley, mint, carrots, 2 blueberry bushes, 1 raspberry bush, 1 red currants bush, and 3 gigantic bean stocks.

I went from having a ghetto garden to having a miniature food court/ green jungle. Do you want to know how big of a deal this is for me? I have people stopping by and asking me what the hell happened to my garden. I kid you not. And I just stand there and give them a standard answer:

“I think it´s because I don´t go near them.”  I don´t want to take any risks so I admire everything from the window.

 

On to books!

Yes. Books. The one thing that hasn´t brought me any personal joy during my break. Well, I´ve overcome my funk. I´ve come to terms with not being able to read all my untouched reads. I´ve learned that life is about taking one step at a time. That includes reading. I seriously don´t want to end up being overwhelmed again so I´m entering the book world with baby steps.

Right now I´m trying to finish `When Ashes Fall` by author Marni Mann.

When ashes fall

I started this one a while back but had to put it down because…. ( try not to laugh ) I can´t touch the paperback. I´m NOT kidding. I have a problem with touching matt covers. I don´t like how they feel. I have to get out my cotton gloves to be able to touch any book with a matt cover. Since our temps are above 30 degrees I´m not too happy to wear gloves and therefore can´t continue to read any book with a matt cover.

 

 

But do not fear- I´ll finish the book sometime this year. Lol.

 

Okay- That´s a wrap for today. Monday can officially continue to give me hell.

I hope you enjoyed this week´s Mug Monday post. But before I leave…

 

How was your weekend? Did you do anything special? Let me know in the comments below. I´d love to chat. ❤

 

Sending out many hugs and book love. Until next week, my dear bookish Padawans.

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Why I Don´t Join Facebook Book Groups Anymore

Facebook book groups – Oh, how I love to hate and hate to love them.

 

You´d think there wouldn´t be much to tell about Facebook book groups. The truth is- There´s not enough time or space to put down every single detail about what goes on behind those invisible group walls.

From the groups themselves, how they operate, the interaction, etc. There´s a lot of ground to cover when wanting to discuss these groups. Topics I can´t possibly cram in one simple post. Because there are so many different types of Facebook book groups.  We´ve got groups for:

 

  • fans of book blogs
  • book groups for specific genres / mixed genre groups
  • author groups
  • book blogger support groups
  • book promotional groups
  • bookmarket groups
  • groups for individual books
  • Book character groups
  • groups for the smut-loving society
  • street team groups
  • beta reading groups

 

Whatever a book lover´s looking for, Facebook´s got it in spades.  You want it, you´ll find it. You´ll also find a little more ( or less ) than you bargained for. And you´ll be able to find these hangouts categorized into three different types of groups:

 

  • Open groups
  • Closed groups
  • Secret groups

 

From a neutral standpoint, I can say that Facebook book groups are truly a blessing. There are countless ways you can benefit from a Facebook book group. From meeting like-minded fans of a specific book to making new friends… Facebook book groups are a wonderful way to connect and receive book-related info.

Unfortunately- If you´ve been in the business long enough you eventually see the cursed side of these Facebook book groups. I´ve seen this side as I´m sure many others have. While some FB book groups are wonderful… some groups just aren´t great places to spend time in.

 

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Okay. I think we´re good to go, now.

Alas! Here are my reasons why I don´t join Facebook book groups anymore.

 


#1    Dead Book Groups

 

At one point I realized I was following over 250 Facebook book groups. 250! And from 250, only a few were consistently active. There are many reasons for Facebook book groups becoming silent but I don´t feel like sticking around when there´s nothing to stick around for. Being a part of a group for no greater reason goes against the idea of a group. I don´t see a point in collecting inactive groups.

Yes, Facebook can be blamed for the deaths of many book groups, but many book groups can be blamed for their own deaths. Either way- I´m out.

 

 

#2  If You´ve Seen One…

 

Yes. I´m saying all Facebook book groups are very much alike.  Each group is more or less a copy of another. Is this a bad thing? Well, sharing the book love can never be considered an evil cause. It´s seeing the same posts, the same shared content that´s ruined it for me. Personally? Aside from the design and colors, I see no differences. Unless a Facebook book group has something that makes them stand out then I feel no need to follow anymore.

I know it´s hard to come up with a unique concept these days. It´s even harder to maintain a certain standard when so much is constantly changing. The idea is not to settle for the safe option and copy what works for others. If you want to stand out or be seen you

a) should offer something no one else offers

b) maybe sell the copied concept differently

c) invest time, sweat and love ( and money for ads )

It sounds so much easier than it actually is. Trust me – I know. But it´s possible.

 

 

#3  Dictator Admins

 

Do I need to say more? Yes, I do. Dictator admins are real. They´re also very busy people. Busy monitoring posts and comments like a crack whore, busy talking about themselves and their achievements, busy warning members and keeping them in check. Admins basically have all the power over a group, which is perfectly fine. But some like to wield that power and play King Fuck – Who doesn´t give two shits about what their members want or need because it´s only important what the admin says /does/wants.  They set the rules and it´s in everyone´s interest to follow these strict rules. Should any member fall out of line then there will always be some type of consequences. This is NOT fun.

I´ve been in many groups where the admins acted like this and I´ve always wondered what happened to make them act like glorified cunts. Do I have to continue to follow these people? Of course, not. Life is too short to follow these people.

Admins of Facebook book groups need to act as mentors and help their community feel like they´re in the best place ever. I don´t want to be in a group run by a dictator. I want to be in a group where the focus is on open communication, sharing content, helping each other, etc.

 

 

#4  Rules

 

Rules, schmules. As if book lovers need rules in a Facebook book group. It´s stated NOWHERE that a social media group needs rules, so why do many Facebook book groups have them? I have my suspicions. One of them includes a dictator admin.  Because how can you be an active member and contribute when you´re being restricted from the start?

  • Self-promotion is not allowed

So, a book blogger isn´t allowed to talk about / share their work even though the group could benefit from it. How unclever.

  • Offensive posts will be banned

First of all- Define the word `offensive`. Seems like everyone has a different definition these days. This point basically means that if the admin believes your post is offensive ( even though it isn´t ) you´ll be warned, banned, deleted, asked to leave, kicked out. Wonderful.

  • Healthy debates are welcome

No. They´re not. Don´t fool yourselves. Respectful opinions are never welcome because they´re often seen as an attack. Especially when you disagree with the admin or a golden card member. Most groups use this point to lure in debate friendly people and end up blocking them for not liking what they have to say.

These are just a few rules from MANY.

With so many rules how is someone supposed to act in a book group? Maybe not act at all? Always agree with everyone? That´s just ridiculous. I´m not in a book group to follow rules. I´m here to join in on the fun and to maybe learn a thing or two.

My personal experiences have taught me to stay far away from groups with so many rules.

 

 

#5   Secret Safe Havens For Dick Pic Haters

/ Secret Safe Havens for Dic Pic Lovers

 

There are groups and then there are secret groups. Since I mingle with the romance novel crowd ( where the smut levels range from 1 – 10  ) you can imagine what goes on in some book groups. Sometimes posts are squeaky clean and respectable ( even informative ) and sometimes you´re involuntarily rewarded with a dick pic of a firefighter on a Friday. That´s just how the romance world rolls. Am I bothered about this? No. I couldn´t care less, to be honest.

The funny thing, though, is that some of these Facebook romance book group members have created side groups for people who are offended by aesthetic pictures of respectable men * cough * And at the same time there  have been secret groups created for dic pic lovers where members can secretly share porn all day long in any shape, color or form.

 

” This group is a safe place for romance lovers. “

“This is a safe place for readers who like it dirty.”

 

 

At one point these secret groups were growing like weeds in the Facebook book community. So, I became a safe place member and a member of the dirty gang. My experience in safe places was short lived. I eventually removed myself – Wordlessly. Then I came to this bright conclusion:

It´s a picture. You always have the option to ignore oiled abs and a thrusting crotch. You may allow yourselves to look away and return at another, less sexual time.

If you read romance then you are familiar with the often raunchy sex that can often be compared to porn. You have no reason to feel offended by a picture of a firefighter stroking the one-eyed snake. I guarantee you, you´ve read worse.

This makes the romance book community look like a circus. I mean- There´s humor in everything but this is beyond ridiculous.

 

 

 

#6   The “This isn´t book related but….” Posts

 

Listen- I get it. A Facebook book group is a community and in a community members should support each other during good and bad times. But sometimes private posts are uncalled for, especially when a book group is focused on book promotion ONLY ( or any other specific book group ). There´s a place for private posts and that´s on the person´s private Facebook timeline. I´m not saying it´s terrible if a group member posts about their uncaring neighbor who mows his lawn when the baby´s trying to take a nap. I´m saying the topic isn´t necessarily appropriate for a book group.

Like I said- It isn´t world shattering. I just don´t understand why this needs to be in a book group.

 

 

#7  Questionable Members

 

From what I´ve seen there are a few types of FB book group members:

 

  • The actively supportive members 
  • The Like & Leave members 
  • The cliques/squads/ best of best group buddies members
  • The hypersensitive bunch
  • The Alpha members with their platinum membership cards

 

Three out of the five group member types are most likely to also fall into the questionable member’s category.

What exactly is a questionable FB book group member, you ask? Well, these people make it their mission to make anything their problem. It´s possible that you can become their focus, their target. They will try to discuss you to the ground and tell you what a shitty person you are and how disgusting your opinion is. They will tell you how you hurt THEIR feelings even though you never knew they existed before.

They´re basically the FB book group mafia.

In the beginning, you hardly realize they´re there. But once triggered they´ll reveal themselves and they become very vocal and extremely illogical. What triggers these people? Anything can trigger the mob or a mobster. As soon as they don´t like whatever is posted or said in a group then that´s it – They get their shit lists out. They won´t hesitate to act as if a crime has been committed.

I´ve come to learn that these questionable members are scattered all over the place. Some aren´t as vicious as others. Some come in smaller groups and some are lonesome mobsters. It really depends on the person. Maybe they´re dealing with an offline private issue. Maybe they´re just frustrated and bored.

What I´ve also learned is: You gotta let special be special. And Facebook has way too much special going on. You can´t help the mob understand that you´re not a disgrace to mankind. You´re not a disgrace. They´re just angry people eating chips in front of their laptops. You don´t have to teach these people what the difference between an offensive comment and a diplomatic one is. They´ll only refuse to listen.

But you can remove yourself from a group and never have to deal with questionable members any further. Everything is always just a few clicks away, am I right?


 

Mind you- These weren´t the only experiences I´ve had during my active Facebook book group days. I´ve had the pleasure of being a member of some fabulous Facebook book groups in the past where the admins understood what it meant to be a leader and where the members understood the importance of online kindness.

Despite the positive sides, Facebook book groups have I don´t think I can overlook the fact that many of these groups are just playgrounds for people who have nothing better to do than to wait until they can explode.



 

If you so happen to be a member of an active and well functioning Facebook book group then I´m truly happy for you. It´s always a great feeling to know you´re surrounded by a positive community. As long as the FB book group works for you then all´s good. Keep being a FB book group supporter. ❤


 

What about you? Are you a member of a Facebook book group? Do you agree with my list? Do you disagree? Care to agree to disagree? Let me know your thoughts or share your own personal experiences. Let´s chat! ❤


 

Thank you for taking the time to read this post.

I hope you all have a wonderful day.

Don´t forget to be kind, stay kind and share the book love.

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Book Giveaway Winners

Hey everyone.

It´s Sunday. Meaning – It´s time to reveal the `winners` for my recent giveaway.

I´m going to keep this post as short and simple as possible ( because you´re all probably busy with being unproductive, which is totally acceptable and understandable ).

Some books from my recent giveaway have found new homes.

 

Congrats to

Rinas bookish blog for being the new owner of The Cruel Prince ♥

alwaysbooking for wanting to give `Vicious` a new home ♥

Livin´ That Savi Life for adopting `Hush, Hush`♥

 

Please make sure to check your emails or social media DMs within the next few days. ❤

 

Thank you, again. I hope you enjoy your new reads. Be sure to tag me if you read and ever get to post reviews of your new babies. I´m dying to know what you think ❤

There´s no better feeling than sharing the book love, y´all. Feel hugged.

Much love,

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