Sunshine Blogger Award

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Hugs and virtual chocolates go out to Norrie @ Reading Under The Blankie for nominating me to participate in the Sunshine Blogger tag. I shall do my bestest of bestest to answer all questions provided by Her Blankie Majesty….

 

Here we go…..

 

#1    Do you believe in ghosts?

Yes and no. Let´s just say I get spooked easily and I also have a wild imagination. I´m also a chicken shit when I´m alone at night. I once nearly attacked my own reflection with a baseball bat. ( The Tv was off, the lights were dimmed, I was reading while husbutt was out. I had my trusty baseball bat at my side. I turned a page from my book, saw from the corner of my eye my own reflection in the Tv and got armed.) IF I´d believe in ghosts I´d seriously be fucked with a baseball bat. I don´t believe though, so…

 

 

#2    Have you ever sneaked out of the house to go to a party in your wild teen years?

Guilty on multiple accounts. I was successful for most of the time, too. It all slowed down when I once tried climbing out of my window ( at age 16 ) and spotted my mom standing under my window with her arms crossed, just waiting for me. You can´t imagine how fast I fell back into my room. Then my sneaking out of the house days stopped when ( at age 18 ) when I had one admirer in the livingroom and one at the front door. My only option was to escape through my bedroom window again. Fuckers both caught me. I gave up afterwards.

 

#3    What´s your take on flowery food? (Lavender biscuits, wild flowers in salads, and so on). Yey or nay?

Sure, why not? Flowery foods wouldn´t be my first pick off the menu but I´d never say no if I were invited to a flowery food dinner party.

 

 

#4    What’s a book that you thought was kind of trashy but you still enjoyed?

That would be Beautiful Disaster by Jamie McGuire. Omg, that book was just so trashy in a college trashy over exaggerated way but I still enjoyed it. Even grab it for occasional reread sessions.

 

 

#5     Imagine it’s time for a cookie. Do you dip it in milk, sip coffee with it, or munch on it in its dry glory?

I like my cookies sand – paper – dry.

 

 

#6     Would you say you are a morning person?

I´m happy I don´t kill myself in the morning by accident. That´s the only thing I´m happy about and it´s the only happy thought I harbor until lunch.

 

 

#7     Winter sports. Yey or nay?

I hate to say nay because winter sports are kind of cool in their own right… So, I´ll say this: Sports indoors, during the winter are awesome.

 

 

#8     Has it ever happened that you liked a film or series adaptation of a book? If so, which book was it?

I can´t think of one. There probably is…

 

 

#9     Do you find house chores (cleaning, dish-washing, etc.) relaxing, or necessary evil?

Depends on the room. The kitchen is an evil place so naturally, everything happening there is always evil and designed to make my life a living hell. I do find mopping floors relaxing and oh so satisfying.

 

 

#10     Do you chill in your pjs all day when you don’t need to leave the house?

 

 

#11     What was the last book that knocked your socks off?

That would be The Book Of Love, by Fionnuala Kearney. Still can´t get over it.

 

That´s it, dear bookish Chicititas. I hope you enjoyed. ❤

Now let´s see what Aurora LibrialisSuzieyBrina, and Nina have to say about these wonderful Q´s. No pressure, loves….. ❤ Get ready for Life´s Favorites…

#1 What´s your favorite era / decade? Why?

#2 What´s your least favorite genre to read? Why?

#3 What´s your favorite day of the week?

#4 What´s your favorite movie / Show? Why?

#5 What´s your favorite song?

#6 Who´s your favorite literary villain?

#7 Do you sing along with your favorite song when you hear it?

#8 Your favorite author has retired. What would you do to get him/ her to write a book just for you?

#9 Who´s your favorite person?

#10 Would you rather ride your favorite bike or drive your favorite car?

 

Thank The Books It´s Friday

Yes, it´s my favorite day of the week, dear bookish Padawans. And what a week it´s been. I was amused, shocked, stunned… I´m glad I survived.

Let´s all greet Mr. T. F. Squirrel before we proceed.

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Very happy to see you, too T. F. Squirrel.

I swear, this week has been super taxing. I finally found a cure for this hellish flu. The key is to pump yourself with vitamin C. I had a minor skin break out from all the oranges and lemons I ate the past week. But hey, I don´t feel like dying in the a.m. anymore, so that´s a plus, right?

Then there was my apocalyptic B-day on Wednesday. Not only did I call my family in the States ( to thank them for the Valentine´s – Birthday cards ) to remind them for the x-th time that my birthday ISN`T on Valentines day, I also had to let the 37 sink in. Meeh, I did that over cheese cake so it wasn´t that bad. My daughters asked how old I am now- And because I know both are worse than the newspaper with their gossip I told them I just turned 30. Word has spead already. #VillageLife

 

 

Speaking of Valentine´s Day- Am I the only one happy it´s over? Seriously, all the pink hearts and flowers and love declarations…. Do we need a special day for all that?

 

Let´s dive in to the book world now!

 

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Evil tongues claim there are people accusing others for cheating on Instagram. Okay, fine. I´m the evil tongue who has been spying on certain online personalities and has noticed there´s a small “fake coffee” war going on. And it´s quite a vicious one, too. I swear, someone always has to share their shit fit about some petty issue and act like a victim. And here I thought this book community was a full on hugger place.

 

 

But do not fear, friends ( and all you fake coffee victims )… I have a post about that scheduled for the upcoming week. Who´s excited? I`M EXCITED!

 

I still haven´t been able to read this week. Trust me- I had such a hard time acting like I wasn´t home on Wednesday. I spent all my energy on my hiding skills. Now I have no excuse as to why I haven´t read. This will be my last excuse.

 

Okay, bookish Padawans…

It´s time to bid you all farewell. I hope you enjoyed the Friday gossip ( even if there was a little ).

Until next week.

Shower the world with book love, y´all! ❤

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One Book. Different Covers. ( Foreign Editions )

We´re slowly ( oh, ever so slowly ) moving in the direction I´ve been raving about all this time. Book cover discussions.

As weird as this may seem… I´m feeling more and more inclined to talk about the one thing that makes my heart explode with love or my blood pressure rise.

If you so happen to be new to this blog then you probably haven´t had the pleasure of finding out what my general opinion on book cover images / book cover art are. I´m sure none of you have scrolled that far back to search for my apocalyptic ideas and thoughts on certain covers. And that´s perfectly fine.

To save you time ( because I´m THAT extra ) I´l give you a quick bullet point rundown on what I prefer to see on a book cover ( not genre fixed )

  • non character images
  • bold color contrasts
  • large images
  •  non busy

As long as the book cover is an eye catcher in a positive way I´ll stop and take a look.

Now, we all know the saying `Never judge a book by it´s cover`. There isn´t a saying that´s more annoying to me than that one. Because of course (!!!) I judge a book by it´s cover. Who doesn´? It´s the first thing we see before reaching out for a book ( unless a book has been recommended and said person spoiled 1/3 of the story for me beforehand… in that case it´s then book purchase by recommendation ).

An eye catchy book cover is a silent invitation to take a closer look at a book. And when you like what you see you´ll take your time to check the book out and read the synopsis on the backside. It´s as simple as that.

To judge a book by it´s cover is okay. There´s no crime committed when saying a book cover has caught your attention. Because book covers are important!

With all this being said- I went on a book shopping spree the other day and noticed a few book covers that I haven´t seen before. Now, most of you probably figured out that I live in Germany, and that my german language skills are * cough cough * for shit. This also includes my reading skills. It takes me F.O.R.E.V.E.R to read a 200 page novel written in german. This is the reason why I´m Amazon´s best customer because I order all my english editions on there.

Back to the book shopping spree:

The book store I like to shop at does have a small aisle with english published books. Yes, the fantasy and horror corner takes up much of that aisle but that´s okay. I can live with that. It wasn´t until I was searching for books for the girls when I noticed the different cover images for the books I already have.

 

A Court Of Thorns And Roses by Sarah J. Maas. Now, while I wasn´t a fan of the cover ( or the story, for that matter review here) from the english edition, I did find myself drawn to the german cover. It just speaks to me more with its light cool colors.

This got me thinking…. What other book cover treasures were out there for the books I already have. I went on a foreign edition hunt…. and I was successful!

 

 

 

Cinder & Ella by Kelly Oram is a cute romance written for people who aren´t me but I must say that while I love the cover for the english edition ( left ) I´m not so sure what to think of the german edition ( right ). It´s plain and simple but… maybe too simple?

 

 

Yeah, not digging the english edition for Sarina Bowen´s The Ivy Years #1 but I do fancy the german cover. I blame it on the backside of the guy´s head in the left image. Uugh.

 

 

Love the color theme on the english edition for Monica Murphy´s Never Tear Us Apart ( Never #1 ) but I hate seeing the faces. The german edition, though…. Good Lawd, the orange bits on the cover reflect in a bronze tone and it´s just stunning. Would rather have the german cover on my shelf. * sigh *

 

 

This one rubs me the wrong way. The left image is the english edition for Slammed by Colleen Hoover. The cover image was perfect for when it was published. Now it´s outdated. The german edition ( right ) might be more trendy but it doesn´t really fit the story. I still prefer the german edition, though. Would look impressive on my bookshelf with all the other black outdated book covers.

 

 

Hands down, the english edition ( left ) of Maybe This Time by Jennifer Snow is nothing I´d ever purchase in a book store. Not with that cover. If only the book had the cover from the german edition….

 

So, there ya have it. One book. Different editions and covers. I can´t really say if the germans are far better at creating book covers but I can say that it´s nice to see what a difference a cover image can make.


Which book covers / forgein editions do you like or prefer?


 

Thank you for reading. I hope you have a lovely bookish day,

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Spam Box Treasures: Part 5

Well, hellooo! It´s great to have you back. You´re just in time for my out of this world post on my latest spam treasures. Today we´re welcoming Part 5 in the series and I can´t be more proud than I am now knowing that I´ve been blessed with a large amount of wonderful, slightly confusing spam comments. 26 spam comments total! Can you believe that?

Well, 20 of those spam comments were just links, which was a little disappointing. I L.I.V.E for these comments, spammers! Y´all can´t send me a pathetic link. What should I do with links?

Fortunately for me ( and you ), the remaining 6 spam comments were well worth my time. Especially spam comment #6. Whatever you do…. do NOT skip the 6th comment. I promise #6 will be a life and game changer. You´ll either age rapidly or you´ll fall asleep. There´s really no telling. Comment #6 gave me a reason to fetch a drink.

Let´s begin the spam parade!

  1. I abolut am thankful your father is a fan.

 

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2. Aye aye, Captain 3win8 kiosk.

 

spam 2

 

 

3. Ooookay, Myrna * shoulder shrug *

 

spam 3

 

 

 

4.    You could have told me this over wine instead of a pfft comment.

 

spam 4

 

 

 

5. Can rewrite like human, you say?

 

spam 5

 

 

6. The Comment That Never Ends ( including my equally never ending reply ).

 

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Dude, 70´s fashion? I just LOVE flared pants. Ever since the return of bell bottoms in the early – mid 90´s I´ve been a fan and can´t seem to get away from em.

Oh, Jason Everman. You mean the guy who played for Nirvana? Nirvana, the reason why I wore an oversized red flannel shirt with ripped jeans and Doc Martins. But I have to admit, I wasn´t a fan of the music.

I must say 918kiss pc – you tickled my interest with your Sophomore music choices. I was a HUGE fan of System Of A Down, even managed to go to a few gigs in my early 20´s. Oh, the days * sigh * Did I ever tell you I was in a crowd ( what I learned was the actual mosh pit ) and was nearly beaten to death. I´m short so I received a few blows from elbows. You should have heard my mother when she saw me after I got home. Sheesh. I was also at a Manson concert once. Gotta tell you, though… 45 minutes without an encore for 60 euros. Kind of a rip off, if you ask me. But back to you: Does one need a reason to like SOAD? No. On to the second part of your message…..

 

 

6.2 HAIR?!

 

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Oh, we talking hair now? I absolutely feel you on being a maniac about one´s own hair. Can I tell you a secret? I´m a hairdresser with a master’s degree. So, I actually enjoy cutting hair, too ( sometimes ). There was a time when I hated it so I decided to go to uni and get a degree in chemistry. I am now officially overqualified for my job. * sigh *

The “one of the days” chorus line you mentioned- Sheesh, I misread that one and thought you were talking about the Foo Fighters song “These Days”. Great song but for a minute there I thought we would go back to Nirvana. Because you know the issue with him being the “new” drummer and all that.

The Beatles- right. Wait… what´s wrong with “Hey Jude”? That´s the song I always sing when I´ve had one too many….

Let me read the third and final part of your comment before I sing Hey Jude to you.

 

 

6.3 UNCLEAN?!

 

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Meeh * wave off * Never been a fan of The Used, either. I somehow grew out of that style of music. How can you say The Used scream a lot? System Of A Down is worse.

Honey, what´s this about being unclean? You ain´t washing yourself? I feel that our friendship has already evolved so I´m going to give you a little advice, from one friend to another- I grew up with brothers so I´m in the know-how on how male hygiene works.  Muchacho, you need to wash yourself if you feel unclean.

Back to music: You like breakup albums? Remember when Take That broke up? No, wait- Technically, the band was already done for when Robbie Williams left and the album sans Robbie was for shit. Remember when Guns´n Roses broke up? Pfft. I actually refuse to discuss that one because I get kind of emotional ( and I was 15 at the time. A delicate age for a band to just throw the towel, you know? )

I don´t doubt your mother´s judgement. If she says it rules then it rules. I imagine your mom´s super cool. Mine wasn´t. She nearly killed me when she saw what I did to my new Doc Martins ( the same day I got them I hopped on my bike, put some speed on it and let the caps of my boots glide over the concrete, creating the “used, worn out” look. No one ever wanted new Docs. Then she almost passed out when I took a stone and rubbed it over the knee section of my 501 Levis jeans, creating authentic holes. Mom was not amused, not even after I told her she had no idea what fashion was. She threatened to send me to a home when I presented my new necklace to her ( a dog collar with spikes ). Now, after all the years that have passed she fondly remembers the days when her daughter acted like a possessed person. She also wonders what would have happened if she had actually sent me to a home. Lol.

 

And for some odd reason the strange grunge chic became a book blogger.

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One of my better outfits back in 2002.

 

That´s it for the Spam Treasure Box! I hope you enjoyed the little blast from the private past * wink *

 

Thank you for reading.

Sending much normal, mature love to all the bookish hombres out there ❤

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Let´s Talk Trigger Warnings ( An Answer To The Tattooed Book Geek )

A post about a blog post I recently read from the awesome Drew @The Tattooed Book Geek and am too ashamed to leave a lengthy comment ( as I´m positive I´ll either blow up his comment section, his WordPress account or WordPress in general ).

Earlier today I spotted Drew´s post, Let´s Talk Trigger Warnings, published in a Facebook group and just had to drop my drill ( yes, I was drilling… making a greenhouse, y´all ) because I´ve become a new fan of Drew´s and will literally stop whatever I´m doing to read his blog posts.

Whatever you do I would advise you to read Drew´s post ( click here to read ) before continuing with mine as his post is a) much better, b) more diplomatic, and c) worthy enough to shower with chocolates.

While reading his latest update I couldn´t prevent the smile from growing on my face. Trigger warnings for books.

A subject many book lovers LOVE to argue over ( myself included ).

I think it´s hard to write about your opinion on the matter because the risk is just too high. You risk losing followers. You risk your reputation. You even risk friendships. But on the flip side – You might also gain new followers, your reputation might glow and you might make new / more friends if you state your opinion on controversial subjects. Either way- there´s no telling what´ll happen. Guess it´s only fair to try and see where your opinion will take you, right?

Where were we? Aah, yes, Drew´s trigger warning post. Right.

Before I start agreeing or disagreeing with Drew I think it would be wise to know where I stand on the matter.

Trigger warnings / warning labels do nothing for me. I´ll aknowledge them but they don´t sway my interest or reading choices. Trigger warnings of all sorts don´t influence my book purchase what so ever because I don´t care for them. In that fragile moment before buying a book I read the synopsis and already have a rough idea on what the story is about and piece the rest together. I don´t need to know more. Should a subject I don´t necessarily like pop up then that´s just the way it is. I have no one to blame. Not me, not the author, not the publishers or even the book itself.

Now, let´s cover up Drew´s points on trigger warnings.

On a Twitter post of his he asked if people included trigger warnings in their reviews.

I wish I had seen that Twitter post ( I didn´t because I suck at Twitter ) because I would have voted with “No”, I don´t include trigger warnings in my reviews and as Drew, I won´t start including them, either. I will give a vague description on what the book entails in my review ( e.g. It´s a dark romance with steamy scenes ) but I will not go out of my way and include a warning label for my reviews. Pick out what you like out of my review and decide for yourself. While many of the world´s population feels triggered… many also don´t. And everyone has the option to follow or unfollow me, depending on what my content did for the readers.  I won´t waste my time apologizing to sensitive / or triggered people for expressing my thoughts. Call me rude, crude, insensitive, mean… I refuse to walk on egg shells for the sake of likes or out of fear of not wanting to make someone suffer more ( the reason for that is below ).

Here´s the thing- I can´t tell the difference between someone who truly has a mental illness or suffers from PTSD and who just claims to suffer from it because they can´t tell the difference between a a dislike and an illness. I can´t smell through my laptop screen who´s just being sensitive or who´s truly struggling. Not everyone reveals their life story online and I don´t expect them to, either. I have no problem with the trigger topics Drew listed and I run my blog with what feels comfortable for me. I will voice my likes and dislikes ( e.g. I hate when religion is included in romance novels /I love second chance romances ) but I will not shy away from “trigger” topics. This is just me. I can´t speak for others. I think the main problem with this IS because it´s hard to tell the difference between just being sensitive and really suffering. My heart goes out to those who truly suffer but I have no sympathy for overly sensitive people who just don´t like a topic.

Authors these days include trigger warnings for a few reasons:

  • They want to prevent angry and potentially harmful reviews for their books. This can damage sales as many “civilians” ( non book bloggers ) just look at the star ratings and hardly ever read the review behind the rating
  • Because they can´t know who´ll be triggered by what and to what level they´ll be triggered. This is something authors need to realize that they can never win at. Whatever they include there will always be the 1 asshole demanding a refund or bashing a book for the tiniest issue THEY had.

 

And there are authors nowadays who include so many trigger warnings that it can almost be seen as a major spoiler.

“This book contains age gaps, adultery, alcoholism, sexual assault. Extreme graphic scenes.”

A field trip for me, as I´m a reader who actually wants these topics to be woven in to a story. Imagine my disappointment when I read about the age gap of 10 years ( 26 and 36 is not the end of my world ), the adultery turned out to be a simple peck on the cheek ( again, not cheating for me ), the alcoholism was a case of the Hero having a weekend drinking spree ( you are not immediately an alcoholic if you drink alcohol over the weekend ) and the sexual assault was the Hero farting the wrong way ( in my opinion ). And what about the extreme graphic scenes? Well, folding laundry can be graphic, too.

In short: The book was about a couple who lived and loved until he cheated, then he partied, tried to get back with the Heroine, was successful and they had steamy sex and remarried. The nutshell synopsis / trigger warning.

My point is- authors are often too careful for no greater reason. They want to play it safe because they don´t know who will be triggered when and for what reason. This is not the author´s fault. The problem is with the readers. Authors know this. Readers don´t. They refuse to see the difference between what Drew mentioned as Reality vs. Fiction.

To Drew´s question:

Bloggers come in all shapes and sizes, all ages too and I’ll ask, do you think that age has any influence on the attitude towards trigger warnings? Do you think that older bloggers are less inclined to include trigger warnings in their reviews and have a different attitude towards them than, say, younger bloggers? Or, is the age of the blogger irrelevant?

Yes and no. I think it has a lot to do with age and generation and also a lot to do with one´s personal mindset. I´m an 80´s kid born into the military life. Without wanting to bore you- The first half of my life was anything but easy. Now, I´m 36 and can say that I don´t have the energy to deal with most of the shit younger bloggers deal with- ergo: the reason why I can´t relate to most younger book bloggers. Sometimes I sit here and read reviews and think “Please, find Jesus.” just because I can´t understand WHY certain topics ( usually the topics I consider to be peanuts ) bother them so much. But then on the other hand, I´ve met young book bloggers who are genuinely level headed, who publish really great reviews and give excellent explanations on their feelings and thoughts in a mature way. So, I definitely have a more of a “kiss my ass” attitude and that, in my opinion, has to do with a combination of the above. Lol

Trigger warnings genre specified? Pfft. Part of me wants to yell “YUPP! OVER HERE IN THE ROMANCE DEPARTMENT BIG TIME TRIGGER SALE. GET ALL FOR THE PRICE OF 1!”

Does anyone remember the case back in 1992 ( if you don´t remember then keep reading. I was 10 back then and still remember it as if it happened yesterday. My dad bitched so much about this )?

An older lady sued McDonalds because she spilled hot coffee on her lap. For me, that was an epic moment because even then I asked myself if the lady was unaware of the fact that coffee is hot. Coffee = Hot. Even older people know this. Which brings me to my point:

Readers of certain genres KNOW what type of book they´re getting themselves in to. They should NOT act surprised when something genre related pops up in the story.

YA – You´ll more or less be confronted with young adult problems. Stuff you wished you could still consider as a problem. Angst, love, drama…

Erotica – I really hate to break this to y´all… but there´s a 100% chance of sex being included in erotica novels. Lots of it. 3 scenes per chapter if you´re lucky. Don´t expect to find a greater purpose in eroticas. Very few have sex AND an actual story.

Romance – This is where all the fun can take place. Be prepared- you might be confronted with at least 2 trigger topics you react to.

Fantasy – This is where the gate is kept wide open because anything is possible for fantasy novels.

Horror – Boo!

Thrillers – Well, let´s see…. blood, death, suspense,…

A reader has a rough idea what they´re getting in to when picking a genre. Should a reader need more details then a visit to Goodreads has been claimed to be helpful.

I don´t think there are more trigger warnings for certain or specific genres. My wild guess is that all suffer from the same issue.

Now, to answer Drew´s final questions:

My thoughts on trigger warnings are: If you feel you need to include them then go ahead. Just ask yourself WHY and for WHO you are including the warnings. If you don´t feel the need to include them- even better. Do I think reviews need trigger warnings? Absolutely not. Entertainment needs no warning. Are trigger warnings important? HA! In some cases, yes. Other cases, no.

Here´s a small ( and sadly true ) example of  books that have a certain trigger warning but don´t need them.

LGBT, LGBT+…

I once had a heated discussion with a book blogger on her distaste for gays in romance novels. Look, this is not an issue of liking a topic or not. This is a matter of humanity. She wanted a warning beforehand to not be confronted with what she believed is a mentally unstable person.

Although we live in 2019 there are still youngsters who believe the LGBT community should be locked up and treated…. preferably with a cross and a priest. To demand a warning label for a book that has a sub character who´s gay just shows what type of person you are. You don´t have to like LGBT romance novels but you don´t have to voice your small minded and hateful opinion in your review and demand a trigger warning.

I would rather not read romance novels that have children included. And now that we know this, what are we going to do about it? What can I or you buy with this information? Nothing. The reason for my dislike is simple: I have kids. When I read I want to mentally escape motherhood for a few hours. This does not mean I´m triggered. It also doesn´t mean I´m giving a book with kids a lesser rating. And PLEASE- Do not think I don´t love my kids because of this. I´d just prefer to read a romance novel without kids involved. Nothing more. Nothing less.

 

Dear Drew,

I thank you loads for the awesome blog post you´ve written. I applaud you for being diplomatic in every way possible and for pointing out what the true issues are.

I agree with 95% of your post and am looking forward to read more!

PS: See why I couldn´t comment on your blog post? Lol

Keep it up.

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