Another Book Blogger Quit Book Blogging

 

The other week,  my ex-co-book blog-bestie contacted me on Messenger with this:

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” The fun times.”  she texted after sending me a poorly self-made banner we once used for our Facebook page. The fun times, indeed.

For those who don´t know- This isn´t my first Book Blog. I used to share one with 2 of my book besties years ago. Different interests were the reasons for us going our separate ways. To this day we´re still close as we were back during our glorious active book blogging years.

 

After her text, I called her ( to my shame – without considering the 9 hour time difference ). Because you don´t just send a random picture for no good reason, right? It´s been years since we´ve book blogged together and we don´t often talk about our first online baby. We did this time, though.

We talked about the fun times.

 

“We winged the crap out of everything,” she said.

 

How true. We didn´t have the slightest clue what we were doing but we made the most of it. We had a great laugh, as you´d have when going down memory lane. Then the laughter died down. We entered the phase of awkward silence. Then THE question was asked.

“So, how´s the blog doing?” Bah. How to answer that without killing the mood?

“It´s different,” I answered truthfully. “Things aren´t the way they used to be.”

It surprised me when she agreed. It surprised me, even more, when she announced she was quitting her book blog. When I asked her why she simply said:

 

“The community has become too vicious for my taste.” 

 

A sad statement coming from someone who´s so full of book blogging goodness. This woman is more than capable of running a successful blog. She has it down when it comes to mingling with the book crowd. Out of all three of us, she was everyone´s darling. Authors adored her. Our followers loved her. For her to call it quits is heartbreaking. But, I understood. After she unleashed the tsunami of other reasons upon me I couldn´t blame her for wanting to quit.

 

“Reviews seem to be worthless,” she said.  Sometimes they feel that way, yes.

“I´m doubting my posts.”   Oh, I can sing a song about that.

“I´m making my husband read my posts, to see if he thinks they´re offensive before I upload them. “    Uhm, okay. I´m not that at that stage yet.

“Book bloggers aren´t what they used to be.”  * nod *

“The hate is unreasonable.”  * choke, cough * Unreasonable is a nice word.

 

All this boiled down to one thing: Things have changed. It has yet to be revealed whether this is actually the case or if we´ve simply overstayed our welcome in the book community. The bottom line is- A book blogger is quitting for alarming reasons.

 

I´ll admit- Just like my book bestie, I doubt my posts. I don´t doubt my ability to create content. I doubt the way my posts will be perceived. But I´m not at that stage where I won´t want to upload my posts, yet. Who knows,… If I have to create more graphic notes I might decide to hang my blog on the nail.  My bestie never doubted her content. Not once did she say anything about not being sure about blog posts. She´s not the type. But then again, neither am I, and here I am… doubting things. This is understandable.

 

As for reviews feeling like a waste of time: I see her point. Reviews are pretty much the same as they´ve always been, though. It´s the lack of response to the reviews that´s changed. And this makes reviews seem worthless. Personally, I´m not too worried about feedback for reviews because a review will always be read at some point. Somewhere down the line someone will need an opinion and will stumble upon yours.

 

I had to laugh when the bestie said she´s been forcing her husband to read her posts. Even if the reason itself is sad, it´s such a comical moment picturing her husband´s face. I´ve never asked my husband to check my posts but I can understand why the bestie asked hers. She´s afraid of discriminating a bookish group/an author/anyone. It´s easy to step on people´s feet in 2019. All it takes is a misunderstanding. We´ve trained ourselves to care too much of what people think that it´s influencing our personalities and messing with our minds. We have to remind ourselves that it´s not our fault if someone doesn´t agree with us. 

Pissing someone off ( even for the stupidest reason ) can cause a hurtful online backlash. We don´t want to start a war over our opinions, thoughts, or ideas.

 

“I`m tired of having to defend my posts.”

 

As for the unreasonable hate… * sigh * Yeah, I´ve seen content being attacked for no good reason. Hell, I´ve seen these attacks become personal. Never would I´ve thought the bestie would be subjected to this behavior and crumble underneath it.

 

“At first I didn´t react. Ain´t gonna waste my time with people who don´t understand what they read. But when the hate added up I wasn´t able to sit here and let it happen. Who the fuck are these people and why do they have internet access?”

 

Oh, ain´t that the truth. I had an easy answer to her question- People who´re living in a state of constant frustration. I imagine these people being those cringe-worthy folks you see on Youtube in one of those public freak out compilations * shudders *.  Angry, yelling, at a loss for reasonable words, lacking the ability to be civilized over stupid shit.

 

I cannot begin to tell you how gutted I feel that a wonderful person felt the need to quit her passion because of a few special members of the book community.. Because of the unnecessary building negative feedback, my ex-co-blogger bestie deleted her book blog.

 

“The community has become too vicious for my taste.” 

 

In what universe is this okay? If anyone feels the need to quit then it should be because of not being able to invest enough time or other things.

I´m more than pissed that people claim to be passionate readers but can´t seem to read and understand a blog post.

 

Our phone call lasted an hour. The bestie felt liberated and I was ready to open up a bottle of wine.

Here´s a sad fact: I´ve seen quite a few fellow book blogger friends quit in the last few months because of the same reasons.

 


So, there ya have it. Another book blogger resigned. How sad to see someone leave.

 


 

I´m pretty sure this post will have some people´s panties in knots so I´m not going ask questions on what all your thoughts are. I´ve already been accused of being the reason why book bloggers are quitting. “It´s because of people like you…” Not into another round of that. This post wasn´t about me. It´s about a close friend of mine ( who happens to be my ex-co-blog bestie ) quitting her book blog because of the actions from fellow book bloggers. If you´d like to add something useful in the comments below then I´d be more than happy to get back with you.


 

Thank you for reading this slightly depressing blog post.

XO´s

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11 thoughts on “Another Book Blogger Quit Book Blogging

  1. Aw this is depressing. The internet in general is just very vicious and hateful. I always think of us bookworms to be above the fray so it’s disappointing to see that it reaches into our book community as well :/

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  2. I just find that so sad. Not that I blame your friend for stepping away. Individually we have to look after ourselves. Some parts of the internet can be so lovely but then I think we are living in fraught and angry times (it certainly seems like that in Britain). I guess the ink spills everywhere. I hope your friend is ok.

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    1. The ink certain does spill everywhere. No one’s really safe. I agree- although sad it’s understandable. I’d rather have her quit than watching her crumble under the attacks. She’s okay now, or at least that’s what she says. It hurts her not to be able to publish content as she’s done nothing else for the past years. I offered to give her room on my blog as a permanent guest blogger but she said she needed a long break. She doesn’t want to run from one group then fall into another. Breaks my heart

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      1. That is really heart-breaking. I hope for you both, after a break, she can come back to it and it can make her happy again. Even though she’s the one to choose to stop, being subject to trolls, it’s a form of censorship really. Of course it will hurt her not to be allowed to express herself! 😢

        Love your posts btw! Keep on! 💜

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  3. this was enlightening to read tbh. i’ve only started book blogging and haven’t really ran into anybody nasty like that yet so i’m kind of blown away but not shocked because unfortunately those ppl exist everywhere. I feel for your friend.

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    1. Thanks💗. Yeah, they’re everywhere. And thank all that’s pink and fluffy you haven’t been confronted with these people yet. It’s really no fun. The only advice I can give you is to stand your ground when it happens ( fingers crossed you’ll be spared ).

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  4. I agree with you so much. I went into a full on panic about one of my posts because someone made an innocuous comment and I read too much into it. That’s not me! This pile on culture we seem to perpetuate makes us scared of our own thoughts. “Was that really original?” “Is someone going to be offended?”
    These are absolutely things we need to ask ourselves, but we shouldn’t be full on panicking every time we post just to sit back and see if we get yelled at. Love this post and your blog. Keep on!

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    1. I hear you. And I feel your panic, too. Every time I upload a post I hold my breath and hope certain groups/people won’t react. I check my own posts like a crack whore although they’re fine as they are. I brace myself for whatever idiotic comment I get. We shouldn’t be feeling this way. As for being original: that’s impossible these days. Oh! You just gave me an idea for a blog post! Ha! Thanks 💜 . Thanks for you comment. I loved it as much as you love my post.💜💜💜 the same applies to you: keep on!

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