Book Discussion: To “Like” Or To Leave A Comment?

Original source: Dominic Sceski   The Reason Why People “Like” But They Don´t Comment

Where I spotted this post:   author Mel Cusick – Jones blog


What do you do after you´ve read a blog post? Do you leave a “like” or do you leave a comment? Do you do both, or are you one of those silent ninjas who just read and move on?

I admit when I saw this post I dropped everything to have a closer read. Because why wouldn´t I want to know what other bloggers believe could be the evil issue behind this like & comment dynamic? It´s interesting… or, let´s just say I find it interesting.

I live for statistics and diagrams ( yes, I´m one of those people ).  I like to take thinks apart and see how things work. But getting down to the nitty gritty of WHY people are more inclined to hit a like button and not comment? That sounds like a year long mission. It might be impossible for someone to figure this complicated issue out. But there might also be an easy answer to all this.


Dominic´s post was a joy to read. Straight to the point and informative.  I agree with what he believes are the reasons for why people “like” and not comment. ( If you haven´t already, I recommend reading his post. It´s interesting ) I also believe there´s more to it than the reasons he mentioned.

Dominic has stated that it´s a matter of what makes people comment on a blog post And that would be:


A sense of blog personality


It´s true that if a blog doesn´t offer some sort of personality a blog post will probably  seem like a robot- cold, clinical, technical…. The people who follow said blog know about the posts but they won´t “know” the blogger if there isn´t something that includes a speck of humanity.

This also applies to blogs / bloggers offering too much personality. As soon as things turn into “me, myself & I”  then they can easily slip into the “they´re so full of themselves” category.

How will anyone be able to comment on someone´s work if they have little or too much personality?

So, it´s about finding a healthy middle way.



Hmm… But not everyone can do that. Okay- let´s move on.

It doesn´t end there. Having a decent online presence isn´t the only thing you need. A blogger would need to also publish posts people want to read about. There´s a problem with that, though- What is it exactly people want to read about?


So, we have two big points that need to be addressed, followed by questions that need answers:


  • Have a personality that´s appealing to the general audience
  • Have the content people want to read about  / need


Unfortunately, these points open a whole new can of questions.


  • How do I know if my personality is appealing or not? 
  • What if I have a great personality?
  • How can I run a personal blog if it doesn´t represent me, myself & I?
  • What if I am up to date with my topics?
  • Is my content less valuable because I´m not publishing what´s needed?
  • What content can I offer that gets people to comment?


Tricky, isn´t it? It sure as hell seems like it.

Now here comes the part where I agree with Dominic´s post to some extent:

Yes, having a personality is important. But who´s to say what type of personality works best? Because the world is filled with people, and people. There are young and older book bloggers. Parents and people without children who blog. Introverts and extroverts who type their fingers sore from blogging. All these types of people will most likely have different personalities and life priorities that will  influence their personalities in one way or another. And as it is with bloggers, there are different types of readers. People who seek out certain content that has `hopefully` been written by people who´s personalities speak to them. Because, yes- people feel comfy with others who fit their bill. 


In a sense, it´s a matter of liking a personality.


Let´s take my sorry self as a totally random example ( because I have no one else at the ass crack of dawn who´ll play guinea pig for me ):

I´m an extrovert. I´m outgoing and love to meet new people. I´m straightforward and I have a take it or leave it attitude. All this will reflect in my posts because that´s just the way I am. There will be people who won´t be able to relate with my posts. There will be people who won´t like my personality because it comes across as too crass. But there will be people who will approve. There will be some who don´t feel intimidated / offended / bored.

And this is where I can answer the first 3 questions from above:


  • Your personality, whatever type you have, is appealing. There will always be people who will appreciate the character of your posts. You can be an asshole or a wallflower – You will find your audience. 
  • Maybe it´s not your personality but a slight lack of confidence in specific areas? Say you have a great post, a wonderful personality but your post didn´t end with an invitation for a discussion? 
  • Your blog automatically has a personality when you include your opinion or thoughts. The moment you include “I think.. / I believe.. / In my opinion..” you´re already revealing pieces from yourself. This personal info can be tiny or lengthy but you´re still there. 


As for the content:

Unless you´re a gossip blog there will hardly be anything unique you can write about that hasn´t already been seen / read before. We live in a fast moving world where stuff is being published by the minute and all the hype over controversial topics, all discussion posts have already had their shining hour. This should always be remembered when becoming a public figure:


The demand is high, but the number of suppliers is higher.


Meaning – there is competition. Granted, book blogging is for most a hobby and therefore can´t be considered a rat race ( although some think it´s just that ) but there are more book bloggers out there than you can imagine. It will be impossible to stand out unless someone comes up with a shockingly brilliant marketing idea ( naked bookstagram features, just offering a suggestion. lol ).

For me, the comments and `likes `ratio isn´t a personality problem. It´s more about  “fitting the bill”.

If a blog has over 2000 followers and only a handful are active fans ( the people who leave comments and likes ) then the problem lies more likely with


  • the majority only followed in hopes for a follow – back
  • the majority doesn´t spend time reading a blog feed
  • people don´t care
  • the majority is too busy with themselves
  • the majority of followers are silent ninjas: read & move on


And all this isn´t terrible because this is how the world works.You can have the best personality ever and have the best blog posts ideas, well written content, etc. and STILL be subjected to a few comments despite your large following.

Also, by working harder ( or by giving your online personality a shift ) to gain more followers  there´s a huge chance you´d only be pushing numbers around.


2000 followers = 20 – 40 comments

4000 followers = 40 – 80 comments


Of course, I could be wrong. I could also be right. What do I know? I´m just a book blogger trying to figure this whole thing out at  3:25 a.m.

As an experienced book blogger, I can easily say that gaining comments and likes takes time. You have to invest time to find like-minded people who´ll recommend you/your work and invest more time waiting for others to find you. This is easier said than done but it´s possible.

Remember- your content is valuable. Your ideas and thoughts or even your reviews are contributing to the book blogging community. If you´re a book blogger and you´re wondering where the comments from all your 2000 followers are – There´s no need to worry ( unless you purposely shit on someone, then you need to worry ) Book blogging is not about comments or likes ( although it´s nice if they appear ). It´s supposed to bring a book blogger joy or some sort of satisfaction to express themselves and share their thoughts.

As for myself- I love to comment and like on other posts. In some odd way I see commenting as a form of recognition. “Hey, I actually read your post.” is what my comment ( aside from my actual comment ) is saying. A like is quickly given but doesn´t hold as much worth as a comment. But this is just me and my opinion.

Others might not feel comfortable commenting. Others might not feel the need to comment. Who knows. We can´t and never will be able to read people´s minds and win the comment war ( just as authors will never win their review war )

Should you be a blogger who  wants / needs the comments under your posts because you´re on some bookish mission then there are ways to reach that goal. Prepare yourselves to dive deep into the book blogger treasure chest because there´s a whole lot that can help generate comments.


How about you? What are your thoughts on why people rather like than comment? Have you experienced this problem? Let me know in the comments below. ❤


Thank you for taking your time to read this post. It´s much appreciated.

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26 thoughts on “Book Discussion: To “Like” Or To Leave A Comment?

    1. Aaw, but you should always find time to disagree. Lol. I understand, though. Sometimes it ain´t worth it. And yes, sometimes you just have nothing to say. Thanks for commenting. 🙂 * fist bump and all that shit *

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  1. So I “liked” your post, and I’ll say it here, “Like!”

    For reals, I liked (sorry, did it again) both what you said and how it was organized. Informative but not TMI. You made good points. I generally don’t comment unless I think I have something valuable to add or help. Or if a post really resonates with me, I’ll echo that somehow. Sometimes I go out of my way to comment, not just to get a comment back on my blog, but because of the golden rule – I want people to leave comments on my posts if they read them, and I know others want the same, so I try to do that for them. On my recent posts I try to end with asking the reader direct questions and request for comments. Likes are cool, but comments are better to engage and think and relate to people online, especially bloggers who tend to be thougtful and courteous.

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    1. First off- Thank you for `liking`. 🙂 And thanks for thinking my post was organized. You´re the first person who has EVER mentioned that. Yes. 100% agree with that you´ve said. You read then comment when you think you can add value with your thoughts. Id classify that as a normal way to go about this business. It just wouldn´t make sense to comment on something you have nothing to say about. YES!! The golden rule is actually THE rule. It´s a two way street and interaction does play a role in this business. I think it´s great that you´ve added questions to your posts. By doing that you´re inviting people to engage.
      Thanks again for leaving a `like` and for taking your time to comment. It´s much appreciated. 🙂

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      1. You’re welcome! I say it was organized because your flow of thought was easy to follow. You introduced points or questions that led from one to the next or at least had a bold heading in between. So glad we’re on the same page with comments. I can say that the more comments I give, meaning the more blogs I read and actually try to connect with bloggers on their posts, the more comments I get back on my own blog. People like to reciprocate. Again, I don’t give comments just to get them, but I’ll take’em! Side question- being a book blogger, do you prefer paper books or ebooks or it doesn’t matter? Just curious – not trying to start a flame war, just chattin. 🙂

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        1. Ooh, good question. I actually prefer paperbacks. I have a Kindle but I´m not much of an ebook reader or fan of my kindle. There´s just something wrong with charging a device to be able to read. Lol. Ask any other book blogger and you might get a different answer. What do you prefer?
          Yupp. That´s basically the way it works- leave a comment and you´ll get one back. And there´s nothing wrong with that as long as there´s genuine interest, you know? Which I will always think because thinking about someone reading your posts just because you´ve read theirs ( as a favor ) gives me a headache.

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          1. Me, prefer kindle. Cuz I’ma tech-geek. Really do love the eink screen and don’t need to hold book open to read, don’t need a book-marker. And I hear ya about obligated reading/commenting. Genuine is best… Thanks for replying!

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              1. I have a paperwhite, bought it Jan 2018, so maybe 3rd gen? I don’t have to charge it often! Problem now is I’m held up. I’ve got like 3 ebooks to devour, but there’s a paperbook I was gonna read first…but now my spare time is playing Animal Crossing. And blogging. And then there’s that career I have, which helps, but you know…;)


  2. I don’t like this post…

    I LOVED IT. I’m one of those people who flit between leaving 10000 comments on one blog and neglecting the rest. I spend hours scrolling through one or two blogs and forgetting to do others.

    I usually scroll past reviews because this girl is so far behind on books so I’m still basically stuck in year 2013 possibly? I’m a silent ninja at times, and sometimes I’m just a noisy nosy little bitch. I’ll even go after trying to fix stupid too xD

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    1. Naaw ❤ Thank you ❤ That is exactly how I am. Lol. I can get lost in 1 or 2 blogs and completely forget I wanted to check out more. I think you´re absolutely fine with that.
      And I totally understand you on the review bit. LMAO. I´m still reviewing books from 2013! * hides face in shame *
      I think it´s okay to comment and to not comment. Some posts just don´t leave room for comments because they´re so well detailed out and some are inviting. That´s just the way it is 🙂 If you EVER manage to fix stupid then do let me know how you did it. ❤


  3. A good post. It is nice to get a like, but as you say, there’s something personal about a comment. I often wonder if my blog doesn’t leave much room for comments or, more likely, it’s that I haven’t made that investment to find the right people. Some of my followers appear to have no interest in sci-fi/fantasy, leading me to the conclusion that I need to sit down, find and interact with bloggers who are orientated to the genre I work in.

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    1. Thank you. You know, there´s no real telling how to go about the comment issue. I think it´s about trial and error. We have the same problem- 2/3 of my followers are most certainly not interested in romance / women´s fiction. But I´ve learned that, for me, it´s not the genre that has my comments going. I´ll have many people telling me “I don´t read romances, but…” and that tells me ( and I can only speak for myself ) that it´s my opinions that get people involved. I have loads of sci-fi / fantasy readers who follow me despite their feelings towards the books I read. You´re right about the interaction part. Once you got that down then it´s basically half the rent. Thanks for commenting. Really appreciate it.

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  4. Great points about the discussion thing! I did read some discussion posts that were indeed that, and ended up chatting not only with the poster but other commenters too. But some “discussion” posts just don’t inspire a chat because they are too matter of fact, or whatever. I haven’t written a discussion on my blog, so what do i know… 😀

    Quite often i have nothing to say. Mainly when it comes to book reviews – specifically reviews of books i never heard about, or heard about but didn’t like, or it’s a genre i never read. I still like the post if it’s well written, and i still find them interesting sometimes.

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    1. Thanks 🙂 You´re right. Some discussion posts don´t give room for comments because they´re wel detailed. It´s hard adding value to something that offers everything.
      Naaw, you should try to get at least one discussion post up. 🙂 Wait- that´s right! Why don´t you write discussion posts ( asking out of plain curiosity )?

      Yes. I think that´s where a simple like is appropriate- when you have nothing to say but still want to leave your mark.

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      1. Well, good question… why i don’t write discussions.
        Most of the bookish topics have been discussed to death, and i really don’t have much more to offer – i feel like anyway.

        When i discuss things with my bestie IRL, it always gets out of hand (i mean the topics become weird), so that might not be appropriate for the blog. Who knows, to be fair 😀


  5. This was a really great read! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I think there’s always that desire to want to know what’s going on in the mind of your reader! Being new to blogging my following is still pretty small but I’ve been happy with how many people do take the time to comment. It’s really great to discuss a post with readers.
    I think whether people like/comment/ silent ninja also depends how involved they are in blog culture. I’ve noticed that most of my comments come from people who have blogs themselves and perhaps understand the value of a comment. My silent ninjas are mostly people who are more likely to direct message me on social media or talk to me IRL about a post.

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    1. First off- Thank you for reading. I´m glad you enjoyed this post 🙂 I fully agree with you- active bloggers in the community are quick to comment because they understand the value of a comment. I think it´s wonderful that your following also contacts you on social media. That´s exactly what that´s for. It doesn´t matter where the interaction happens as long as it´s there.
      Small? That´ll change in no time. Just keep on doing what you´re doing and you´ll notice some blog development 🙂

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  6. I will just give my own reasons for liking vs commenting. I got used to the way Facebook operated, pre-reactions (when it was only “likes”). I got used to a system where it was enough to “like” something and/or leave a comment. A like shows some level of support for a post, and it can convey that in a moment where you don’t have a lot to say but want to say something short but not trite. In the last two years, I’ve disliked that I do that when I read blog posts and then wonder if that’s why I don’t get much engagement in the way of comments. I totally agree with you that personality is a factor, but I think some of the blogger’s skill in facilitating or encouraging that kind of conversation is another factor.


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