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Hey, everyone! Welcome back to Friday´s unbeloved sister, Monday.
It´s been a minute since I sat down and did a Mug Monday feature. But I have a good reason for having neglected my favorite blog feature.
I´ve been mingling with the book crowd.
As in- actually ditching my laptop and leaving the house to meet up with some bookish people.
I know. I know. Unthinkable, considering how much I love to stay in my PJs all day and do nothing but read. Oh, by the way- Mug feature ahead!
Granted, not the most original mug to feature, but it´s still one, even if you can hardly see it.
So, yes. I´ve been busy with book socializing.
Somewhere around the end of September, I teamed up with my book bestie Brina@Brina and the Books to visit the RARE ´19 London book event. Then had the pleasure of being spontaneously invited to a book blogger meet up in Frankfurt shortly after the London event. And last but not least ( as I´m hoping this socializing train will continue to roll ) I went to an author reading.
I´ve noticed my need to nap has been greater than ever before. Damn, I forgot how much fun, yet exhausting socializing is.
With that being said- I´ve collected enough info on all accounts and am now able to present my observations and the things I´ve learned, plus to share the experience I had from the author reading. Let´s just say I have many many things to share with y´all.
As for being a tad blog absent: Thanks to the pre-scheduled posts I´ve worked on weeks ago I don´t feel the least bit guilty about having been offline for a few days/weeks. So, YAY for that.
I guess that´s it for this week´s Mug Monday. Be sure to stick around to find out how my bookish socializing went. All I´m going to say is: Be prepared. It´s been an enlightening ride.
As always, Don´t forget to share the book love because Lord knows there´s too little of that making its rounds. ❤
Enjoy your Monday, dear bookish Padawans.
The other week, my ex-co-book blog-bestie contacted me on Messenger with this:
” The fun times.” she texted after sending me a poorly self-made banner we once used for our Facebook page. The fun times, indeed.
For those who don´t know- This isn´t my first Book Blog. I used to share one with 2 of my book besties years ago. Different interests were the reasons for us going our separate ways. To this day we´re still close as we were back during our glorious active book blogging years.
After her text, I called her ( to my shame – without considering the 9 hour time difference ). Because you don´t just send a random picture for no good reason, right? It´s been years since we´ve book blogged together and we don´t often talk about our first online baby. We did this time, though.
We talked about the fun times.
“We winged the crap out of everything,” she said.
How true. We didn´t have the slightest clue what we were doing but we made the most of it. We had a great laugh, as you´d have when going down memory lane. Then the laughter died down. We entered the phase of awkward silence. Then THE question was asked.
“So, how´s the blog doing?” Bah. How to answer that without killing the mood?
“It´s different,” I answered truthfully. “Things aren´t the way they used to be.”
It surprised me when she agreed. It surprised me, even more, when she announced she was quitting her book blog. When I asked her why she simply said:
“The community has become too vicious for my taste.”
A sad statement coming from someone who´s so full of book blogging goodness. This woman is more than capable of running a successful blog. She has it down when it comes to mingling with the book crowd. Out of all three of us, she was everyone´s darling. Authors adored her. Our followers loved her. For her to call it quits is heartbreaking. But, I understood. After she unleashed the tsunami of other reasons upon me I couldn´t blame her for wanting to quit.
“Reviews seem to be worthless,” she said. Sometimes they feel that way, yes.
“I´m doubting my posts.” Oh, I can sing a song about that.
“I´m making my husband read my posts, to see if he thinks they´re offensive before I upload them. “ Uhm, okay. I´m not that at that stage yet.
“Book bloggers aren´t what they used to be.” * nod *
“The hate is unreasonable.” * choke, cough * Unreasonable is a nice word.
All this boiled down to one thing: Things have changed. It has yet to be revealed whether this is actually the case or if we´ve simply overstayed our welcome in the book community. The bottom line is- A book blogger is quitting for alarming reasons.
I´ll admit- Just like my book bestie, I doubt my posts. I don´t doubt my ability to create content. I doubt the way my posts will be perceived. But I´m not at that stage where I won´t want to upload my posts, yet. Who knows,… If I have to create more graphic notes I might decide to hang my blog on the nail. My bestie never doubted her content. Not once did she say anything about not being sure about blog posts. She´s not the type. But then again, neither am I, and here I am… doubting things. This is understandable.
As for reviews feeling like a waste of time: I see her point. Reviews are pretty much the same as they´ve always been, though. It´s the lack of response to the reviews that´s changed. And this makes reviews seem worthless. Personally, I´m not too worried about feedback for reviews because a review will always be read at some point. Somewhere down the line someone will need an opinion and will stumble upon yours.
I had to laugh when the bestie said she´s been forcing her husband to read her posts. Even if the reason itself is sad, it´s such a comical moment picturing her husband´s face. I´ve never asked my husband to check my posts but I can understand why the bestie asked hers. She´s afraid of discriminating a bookish group/an author/anyone. It´s easy to step on people´s feet in 2019. All it takes is a misunderstanding. We´ve trained ourselves to care too much of what people think that it´s influencing our personalities and messing with our minds. We have to remind ourselves that it´s not our fault if someone doesn´t agree with us.
Pissing someone off ( even for the stupidest reason ) can cause a hurtful online backlash. We don´t want to start a war over our opinions, thoughts, or ideas.
“I`m tired of having to defend my posts.”
As for the unreasonable hate… * sigh * Yeah, I´ve seen content being attacked for no good reason. Hell, I´ve seen these attacks become personal. Never would I´ve thought the bestie would be subjected to this behavior and crumble underneath it.
“At first I didn´t react. Ain´t gonna waste my time with people who don´t understand what they read. But when the hate added up I wasn´t able to sit here and let it happen. Who the fuck are these people and why do they have internet access?”
Oh, ain´t that the truth. I had an easy answer to her question- People who´re living in a state of constant frustration. I imagine these people being those cringe-worthy folks you see on Youtube in one of those public freak out compilations * shudders *. Angry, yelling, at a loss for reasonable words, lacking the ability to be civilized over stupid shit.
I cannot begin to tell you how gutted I feel that a wonderful person felt the need to quit her passion because of a few special members of the book community.. Because of the unnecessary building negative feedback, my ex-co-blogger bestie deleted her book blog.
“The community has become too vicious for my taste.”
In what universe is this okay? If anyone feels the need to quit then it should be because of not being able to invest enough time or other things.
I´m more than pissed that people claim to be passionate readers but can´t seem to read and understand a blog post.
Our phone call lasted an hour. The bestie felt liberated and I was ready to open up a bottle of wine.
Here´s a sad fact: I´ve seen quite a few fellow book blogger friends quit in the last few months because of the same reasons.
So, there ya have it. Another book blogger resigned. How sad to see someone leave.
I´m pretty sure this post will have some people´s panties in knots so I´m not going ask questions on what all your thoughts are. I´ve already been accused of being the reason why book bloggers are quitting. “It´s because of people like you…” Not into another round of that. This post wasn´t about me. It´s about a close friend of mine ( who happens to be my ex-co-blog bestie ) quitting her book blog because of the actions from fellow book bloggers. If you´d like to add something useful in the comments below then I´d be more than happy to get back with you.
Thank you for reading this slightly depressing blog post.
Given a back-room computer job when the beloved Birmingham library she works in turns into a downsized retail complex, Nina misses her old role terribly – dealing with people, greeting her regulars, making sure everyone gets the right books for their needs. Then a new business nobody else wants catches her eye: owning a tiny little bookshop bus up in the Scottish highlands. No computers. Shortages. Out all hours in the freezing cold; driving with a tiny stock of books… not to mention how the little community is going to take to her, particularly when she stalls the bus on a level crossing…
Naaaw. NAAAW! What a lovely read.
`´The Little Bookshop Of Happy Ever After` by author Jenny Colgan is a charming and heartwarming romance. Something I would consider to be a traditional romance with an extra pinch of coziness and rich with beautiful details.
“Just do something. You might make a mistake, then you can fix it. But if you do nothing, you can’t fix anything. And your life might turn out full of regrets.”
Nina, an ex-librarian is forced to start over new and decides to get into the mobile bookshop business. She buys a van and transforms it into a bookshop on wheels.
Set in the beautiful Highlands, Nina ( MC ) goes on a journey to start a new life for herself.
Nina´s voyage wasn´t particularly exciting but it was interesting. What I loved most was how much love she had for books.. and the countless indirect book title mentions. * sigh *.
Enter the romance:
Not really anything overly dramatic or gut-wrenching but still enjoyable. It´s simple and great for the soul. Think of this read as soul food. Comforting and uncomplicated.
The Little Shop Of Happy Ever After is a quick read. The writing is effortless. And the story is also highly predictable. I´m not really too mad about the predictability of the story, though. I wasn´t expecting too much mind blow with a chick-lit, to be honest.
Would I recommend this book? For fans of Jenny Colgan, yes. For romance readers- If you love mature fluff- yes.
Would I reread this book? I might.
The Cover – 3 Stars: Chick-lit illustrations are pretty to look at but they´re all terribly alike.
The Story – 3 Stars: A lovely comfort romance.
The Characters – 3 Stars: Comfort romances usually have wallflower characters. Not a terrible thing but I would have loved a little more depth with the MC.
My emotional state after finishing this read – Happy.
It´s not easy to leave me speechless. I usually always have something to say when it comes to internet oddities or stupid crap. But this (!!!) takes the cake. This spam comment I received had the power to render me speechless. Like- I don´t even have it in me to come up with something to say, let alone think of a smart-ass come back.
I received a religious spam comment. A long-ass, record-breaking comment. Jesus Christ on a popsicle. I´ve never received anything like this before. This calls for a drink.
Are you ready for the ultimate spam box treasure comment? Apologies for not cropping the screenshots beforehand. You now know I play Two Dots in my spare time, that I have an unanswered Twitter notification and one unseen Youtube video. Yes, my alarm is always set. But hey- At least my phone is charged. That´s something that should be celebrated with… more wine.
PS- I don´t expect you to read everything ( or any of the below ). Just look at the length of this baby. Hot damn…
#1 And So It Begins
#2 There´s More
#3 You Might As Well Get Comfortable
#4 * HOLDING BREATH *
#5 Fun Fact – I Can Roll My Tongue
#6 What? We´re Already Done?
Incredible, right? I´m flashed. And that was one single comment.
My deepest apologies for the single spam comment feature. I figured the size would count for 6 usual spam comments.
Thank you for reading / not having read all the above.
I hope you have a wonderful bookish day.
Sending out lots of book love and virtual chocolates.
A friend of mine urged me back in 2009 to check out what she referred to as “Wolfy Scot sex on Vampire fire”. A book with the title `A Hunger Like No Other´ by an author I hadn´t known- Kresley Cole. After having read a few books from the captivating Immortal After Dark Series ( and liking what I was reading from the author ) I was stuck with waiting for the story to continue. That´s when I noticed the author had more than just Vampires, Valkyries and Lykaes to offer. Kresley Cole also wrote Historical Romances? Highlander Historical Romances? Move out of my way!
The deal was sealed. I purchased the MacCarrick Brothers Trilogy, To be honest- I didn´t know what to expect when I ordered these books. All I hoped for was to receive the same captivating reading experience I had with her paranormal books.
Now, I´m able to say that these HR treasures are on my sacred golden bookshelf. They´re exactly what I crave for when it comes to reading. Great Heroes, lovable Heroines ( except for the first one. Didn´t care much for her ) and exciting stories. * sigh *
If You Dare ( book #1 ) – Kresley Cole
We meet Courtland, the first of the three fierce and cursed Scottish brothers, who´s a mercenary. He lands on the wrong side of the fight and ends up beaten by a river where he´s rescued by a beautiful hot-tempered woman named Annalia. From there on their journey is passion-filled and adventurous.
If you´ve read books from the author you know things won´t roll smooth for her characters. And her stories are most definitely not half-assed. `If You Dare´ was an okay read, though. I loved the writing and the story but the Heroine was a buzz-kill. At times I wished the Hero would kill her by accident. That didn´t happen, though. Nonetheless- An exciting Highlander read with so many steamy scenes that I feared my glasses would fog up on their own. Although I enjoyed the story I will say that I thought book # 1 was the weakest of the trilogy.
If You Dare ( #2 ) – Kresley Cole
Meet Huge MacCarrick, second cursed brother of the MacCarrick lot. And because of this family curse, Hugh decides to forget his ultimate crush and leaves home, ultimately becoming an assassin. Years later he´s back and has a job to do- to protect the woman who stole his heart before he left home. From there on we accompany both on an emotional rollercoaster ride.
I loved this book so much. I loved how frustrating these characters were. Hugh, the reluctant, superstitious Highlander killer and the elegant English lass, Jane, with her sharp mind and quick mouth. They were explosive as a couple and miserable on their own. ` If You Desire ´ by Kresley Cole is one of those exciting and intense Historical Romances that makes a reader beg for more.
If You Deceive ( #3 ) – Kresley Cole
Hands down- This one was my favorite. It´s, in fact, my favorite HR from all HR I own. If You Deceive, introduces the oldest and deadliest of all three cursed MacCarrick brothers. For me, Ethan is the ultimate Hero. Ruthless, dangerous, dark and such an asshole who´s gradually brought to his knees by a beautiful and clever young Madeleine. This is the type of story I could never get tired of. Lots of deceit, a few heartaches, and the glorious heroic ending. * sigh * I´m a lost cause when it comes to this book. Know that whatever I say will never do this story justice. My favorite from the trilogy.
The MacCarrick Brothers Trilogy by Kresley Cole is available on Amazon.com
If You Dare ( book #1 )
If You Desire ( book #2 )
If You Deceive ( book #3 )